I did the good thing, waited for marriage, but my guy sucks in bed. What do I do?

Me and my husband are both Christians, and wanted a real Christian wedding. On our wedding night, I thought it was just nerves, but we've been together for over 6 months and there's still nothing goin on down there. Of course divorce is out of the question, but is it too much to ask for satisfaction in the bedroom? I keep searching for the moral solution to this problem and I just can't think of one.I did the good thing, waited for marriage, but my guy sucks in bed. What do I do?
Train him to do what you want.I did the good thing, waited for marriage, but my guy sucks in bed. What do I do?
1: What exactly does he suck in bed ?


(Sorry, but I am English and I do not understand the phrase, it could be a good thing for you, or a bad thing for his teeth)





2: You need happiness in your life, he is your husband he should provide it, if he is not willing or able, then you have to seek some redress.





3: You both went into this marriage with your eyes clouded somewhat by religious beliefs. You should now discus the matter fully and openly and come to a solution that is acceptable to you both, even it is divorce, which is much easier before you have children.


You have the rest of your life to think about, you do not want to look back on a sad and boring existence of deep misery and regret.
Hey!





Wow, you're question about abstaining from sex in the Politics section got you an answer that talked about how wonderful it is not to sleep with anyone but your husband lead to this????





I'm sorry, I had to check your former questions. Several factors didn't ring true in your question (Like 'my guy sucks in bed' which was a little cruel for a wife to say in a public forum and the fact that you know that he sucks, considering if you were a virgin, you'd have no basis for comparison), so I had to background check you.





Have a great day!





Luv ya,


Tashi :)
Communication. Maybe he has some inhibitions. Some inhibitions are actually acceptable. But, perhaps, he may be intimidated. This is a problem I once had myself. There may be something that he believes or finds unacceptable about pushing himself too far. He may, actually be concerned about how you feel about that. It could be a lack of confidence, as well. In my opinions, there are some lines that should not be crossed. But, it may just be that he actually loves you for more that just your body, and he doesn't know how to express that.
Did you pray about it? Ask him, your husband, what he wants, sexually and tell him what you want. Together and respectfully explore your sexual desires. Be open and loving about it as this can be a touchy subject (no pun intended- for real). Frustration will only make it worse. Try to make things comfortable and fun not like your going in for a drivers exam with a check list! Lol.
Talk to him (gently) about it. Encourage him to try new things. Tell him when something feels good and listen/learn when he is enjoying something. Get over your morals and buy a sex techniques book. Try various things from it with out making a production about it. Experiment with oral sex both for him and with you. Tie him up and masturbate to an orgasm in front of him or have him do that to you.





Just like any sport, you need to practice various techniques to be good at them, the nice thing is that the practice is pretty fun as well!





Remember that the biggest sex organ is your brain.
Communication is the key. People don't just know what to do in bed, they learn, just like everything else in life. Don't be afraid to let him know what you want, but also make sure you ask what you can do for him as well, it is a two way street. Try making a game out of it, ';Find the sweet spot'; is a good one.
see where religious superstition gets you? frustration... i had a friend who waited for marriage as well. then she found out that her husbands 10 inch penis wasn't very comfortable to be with, so they got a divorce. i guess god works in mysterious ways! lol... seriously though, if there were a god who really cared whether or not you had sex before marriage, don't you think he would have awarded you with a husband to equal your sexual prowess?
Congratulations, you passed the biggest test Satan puts before Christian couples: Sex before marriage (ie fornication).





You should have gotten some premarital counseling by your Pastor before the wedding day.





If not, try getting the book by Gary Smalley called ';The Act Of Marriage.'; Have him read it too, and remember that communication is the key.





Both my wife and I were virgins when we got married over 23 years ago. Believe me, it only gets better as time goes by.
Well luckily being a good lover is not a genetic thing - it is an acquired ability. There are classes, books, tapes, DVD's, counselors and other things available to help guide %26amp; teach a less than knowledgeable partner in the area of intimacy. So - what's the problem? No one is BORN knowing these things....
The moral solution is you answering the question ';Which is more important to me, my marriage, or my sex life?';





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Contrary to what women think, men are not mind readers. But, we are willing to try just about anything that a woman puts in front of us. It goes back to the whole Adam and Eve thing. Anyway, try this, now stay with me here and let me know if I lose you, ';TELL HIM WHAT YOU LIKE AND TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT HIM TO DO!';. I guarantee your mutual pleasure. And quit with the mind reading crap already, sheeesh!
The responses above are funny. Trouble is waning faith. Jesus didn't come to save your orgasms. Fear of God brings wisdom. Loving God brings joy. Craving sex is putting your desires before Him. Pray for the answer. God is there to listen if you make Him your first priority.
get a book and read up on techniques. Rent an erotic movie and try some of the moves from the pros. Buy some cool things like big shaped pillows or swings for the bedroom so you can get more creative and broden your horizons.


Good Luck!
ha, that sucks hard. Um, try marriage counseling, there are some pretty great sex therapists out there. Or just start off by telling him exactly what you want him to do, some guys need a map.
If it was your first time for both of you, of course you won't be experienced. You both need to experiment and practice. You don't know anything from birth, except how to poop eat and cry. :)
Hmmm, your question about ';deviant'; behavior makes think I've sniffed out a troll..................
Buy a copy of the new edition of the Joy of Sex.





read it. get him to read it.





make him talk about it





stuff like this shows why we need sex education in schools
Have you asked him about his opinion of your bedroom performance? Maybe need some more communication.
Is oral sex against your religion? Because seriously... most women need stimulation in more than one place to achieve orgasm. That's a fact.
And here is yet another example of how superstition is harmful.





I'm taking this question lightly since I don't know if it's serious or not, but why not just teach him nicely how to improve?
Never, ever, ever buy with out a test drive.
Too bad, cos good sex doesn't exist in heaven either.


You should of got it out of your system when you could.
This is why sex before marriage is the right thing to do!!! if your sex life is crap your marriage will suffer!!!






Teach him a few new moves. You have to put a some effort into these things and make them develop the way you want.
Hmm.. what does he suck in bed?


I didn't think gay marriage was allowed between christians.
Buy a dildo.
Some women would love that from their guy. Oh, not that kind of sucking.
There's the problem right there. You're both christians and let your religion dictate your lives.


christianity is not of Awesome God.





You could go but Kama Sutra books or Tantric Sex books to improve but I guess that would be going against your bible.





God is Love, Love is God.


Trust Love.


Peace, love, calm and positivity to all.
Have an affair with your next door neighbor.
Just lie back and think about England.