love is to be blind to all the ups and downs of lovers. does that make marriage an institution of the blind because all those who are married are in love?If Love is blind then marriage is the institution for the blind, True or false?
No. Marriage is an eye opener.If Love is blind then marriage is the institution for the blind, True or false?
Wouldn't it be nice if all those that were married were actually in love.
you're trying to take a metaphor and use it to define things. Doesn't work that way. If you have a problem with marriage then I'd suggest you don't do it.
False.....Love is indeed blind. However, individuals go into a marriage in lust, which they THINK is love.
Marriage is institutionalized prostitution.
love is blind cuz u only c the gud things of tht person. when u get married u LIVE with tht person u c all the gud bad n ugly of the person (n their family!) so def marriage is a eye opener..
Saturday, January 23, 2010
What is the fear of marriage called?
Whenever I think about it I start to have panic attacks. Is that normal?What is the fear of marriage called?
It's normal to be nervous like that but you need to be really sure before you make that type of commitment. What is the fear of marriage called?
It is called gamophobia.
The fear of marriage.
Fears of certain things are normal, but phobias take fear to an entirely new level like just thinking about it, or seeing a wedding on TV, or something like that is not normal. But I think everyone has a phobia. Phobias can be irrational and to most yours may seem irrational, but to you it's not because you obviously have a genuine fear towards marriage. You might want to see a counselor. I don't mean that in a rude or condescending way, either.
It can have a positive name (extra feeling of responsibility) and might have a negative name (lack in self-confidence).
in both cases it can be treated by looking to those who are less than you but have successful marriage. I trust you will find a lot.
Besides, this is normal -compared with any new experience in life, after practice you realize that the concerns were more than they should be.
It's not unusual. Some people simply aren't suited for marriage - it makes them feel trapped.
There is a funny passage in D.H. Lawrence's ';Women in Love'; concerning marriage. I think it's Gertrude's mother who says, to paraphrase, ';I don't know why you young 'uns are afraid of marriage. When I was young we was afraid of cannonballs, but not marriage.';
Good luck whatever your choice is!
hey! i agree with ROBOTICS!
men get more out of it than women do-
ROBOTICS-good answer!
but seriously it is called: Gamophobia- Fear of marriage
i think its called gamophobia. hopefully i'm right.
The jidders are normal but full out panic attacks are not. What are you afraid of?
inability to commit
it is normal to get nervous, but afterwards TIME TO PARTY!! lol
What is the fear of marriage called?
Smart!
I call it a warning system....heed the warning. Listen to you head and heart.maybelline foundation
It's normal to be nervous like that but you need to be really sure before you make that type of commitment. What is the fear of marriage called?
It is called gamophobia.
The fear of marriage.
Fears of certain things are normal, but phobias take fear to an entirely new level like just thinking about it, or seeing a wedding on TV, or something like that is not normal. But I think everyone has a phobia. Phobias can be irrational and to most yours may seem irrational, but to you it's not because you obviously have a genuine fear towards marriage. You might want to see a counselor. I don't mean that in a rude or condescending way, either.
It can have a positive name (extra feeling of responsibility) and might have a negative name (lack in self-confidence).
in both cases it can be treated by looking to those who are less than you but have successful marriage. I trust you will find a lot.
Besides, this is normal -compared with any new experience in life, after practice you realize that the concerns were more than they should be.
It's not unusual. Some people simply aren't suited for marriage - it makes them feel trapped.
There is a funny passage in D.H. Lawrence's ';Women in Love'; concerning marriage. I think it's Gertrude's mother who says, to paraphrase, ';I don't know why you young 'uns are afraid of marriage. When I was young we was afraid of cannonballs, but not marriage.';
Good luck whatever your choice is!
hey! i agree with ROBOTICS!
men get more out of it than women do-
ROBOTICS-good answer!
but seriously it is called: Gamophobia- Fear of marriage
i think its called gamophobia. hopefully i'm right.
The jidders are normal but full out panic attacks are not. What are you afraid of?
inability to commit
it is normal to get nervous, but afterwards TIME TO PARTY!! lol
What is the fear of marriage called?
Smart!
I call it a warning system....heed the warning. Listen to you head and heart.
What rights do you lose if people get the right for gay marriage?
And I mean legal marriage, not religious marriage.
Nobody needs religious marriage.What rights do you lose if people get the right for gay marriage?
NoneWhat rights do you lose if people get the right for gay marriage?
Nobody said they'd lose any rights, so it's a moot point.
It's not even a very meaningful question. I don't lose any rights if a gang of thugs raped and murdered you, either. See how little sense it makes.
Anyway, it's up to the people and their representatives to decide on it.
A lot of people, like me, oppose what's been going on because mostly it has been imposed by a court - by tyrannical dictate - rather than being decided by the people or their elected representatives. That violates my right to have the laws of the land made by legislation, rather that by the dictatorship of a court.
Gay Marriage is NOT about Marriage!
What it is about is the total and complete institution of the “Homosexual Agenda” ... the gateway for imposing full societal ‘acceptance’ of the gay lifestyle.
Force fed to all those who have any reservations of any kind against it for any reason.
See: What same-sex “marriage” has done to Massachusetts
http://www.massresistance.org/docs/marri…
The excuse is: “Because ‘Same-sex Marriage’ is legal, you must now...”
Quote from website:
“Anyone who thinks that same-sex “marriage” is a benign eccentricity which won’t affect the average person should consider what it has done in Massachusetts. It’s become a hammer to force the acceptance and normalization of homosexuality on everyone. And this train is moving fast. What has happened so far is only the beginning.”
Further quotation from website:
Business (Forced to comply)
• All insurance in Massachusetts must now recognize same-sex “married” couples in their coverage. This includes auto insurance, health insurance, life insurance, etc.
• Businesses must recognize same-sex “married” couples in all their benefits, activities, etc., regarding both employees and customers.
• The wedding industry is required serve the homosexual community if requested. Wedding photographers, halls, caterers, etc., must do same-sex marriages or be arrested for discrimination.
• Businesses are often “tested” for tolerance by homosexual activists. Groups of homosexual activists often go into restaurants or bars and publicly kiss and fondle each other to test whether the establishment demonstrates sufficient “equality” — now that homosexual marriage is “legal”. In fact, more and more overt displays of homosexual affection are seen in public places across the state to reinforce ';marriage equality';.
ELECTION 08: ‘Gay marriage’ legalization would squash religious freedom, experts say
http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?id=2919…
Quote from website
LEXINGTON, Mass. (BP)--Robb and Robin Wirthlin didn’t want to believe their son. In fact, they thought he might have just misunderstood the teacher’s lesson, as second-graders sometimes do.
So when he came home in March 2006 and told his parents his public school teacher had read the class a children’s book about “gay marriage” -- the story of a prince supposedly marrying another prince -- his parents wanted to check out the facts. To their surprise and dismay, though, the teacher had indeed read the book, which ends with a depiction of the two men kissing. “Gay marriage,” after all, is legal in the state.
To make matters worse, the Wirthlins were told they would not be given advance notice in the future about any such books.
This is a short video on how Same-Sex Marriage has affected one family’s life in Massachusetts.
http://link.brightcove.com/services/link…
You don't lose 'rights'! But people argue that it degrades the sanctity of marriage etc
the right to have morals
I don't get to be a bigot and excepted by the public anymore.
None as it does not affect me in any way.
What rights do you lose if people get the right to sibling marriage?
None whatsoever, of course.
Nobody needs religious marriage.What rights do you lose if people get the right for gay marriage?
NoneWhat rights do you lose if people get the right for gay marriage?
Nobody said they'd lose any rights, so it's a moot point.
It's not even a very meaningful question. I don't lose any rights if a gang of thugs raped and murdered you, either. See how little sense it makes.
Anyway, it's up to the people and their representatives to decide on it.
A lot of people, like me, oppose what's been going on because mostly it has been imposed by a court - by tyrannical dictate - rather than being decided by the people or their elected representatives. That violates my right to have the laws of the land made by legislation, rather that by the dictatorship of a court.
Gay Marriage is NOT about Marriage!
What it is about is the total and complete institution of the “Homosexual Agenda” ... the gateway for imposing full societal ‘acceptance’ of the gay lifestyle.
Force fed to all those who have any reservations of any kind against it for any reason.
See: What same-sex “marriage” has done to Massachusetts
http://www.massresistance.org/docs/marri…
The excuse is: “Because ‘Same-sex Marriage’ is legal, you must now...”
Quote from website:
“Anyone who thinks that same-sex “marriage” is a benign eccentricity which won’t affect the average person should consider what it has done in Massachusetts. It’s become a hammer to force the acceptance and normalization of homosexuality on everyone. And this train is moving fast. What has happened so far is only the beginning.”
Further quotation from website:
Business (Forced to comply)
• All insurance in Massachusetts must now recognize same-sex “married” couples in their coverage. This includes auto insurance, health insurance, life insurance, etc.
• Businesses must recognize same-sex “married” couples in all their benefits, activities, etc., regarding both employees and customers.
• The wedding industry is required serve the homosexual community if requested. Wedding photographers, halls, caterers, etc., must do same-sex marriages or be arrested for discrimination.
• Businesses are often “tested” for tolerance by homosexual activists. Groups of homosexual activists often go into restaurants or bars and publicly kiss and fondle each other to test whether the establishment demonstrates sufficient “equality” — now that homosexual marriage is “legal”. In fact, more and more overt displays of homosexual affection are seen in public places across the state to reinforce ';marriage equality';.
ELECTION 08: ‘Gay marriage’ legalization would squash religious freedom, experts say
http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?id=2919…
Quote from website
LEXINGTON, Mass. (BP)--Robb and Robin Wirthlin didn’t want to believe their son. In fact, they thought he might have just misunderstood the teacher’s lesson, as second-graders sometimes do.
So when he came home in March 2006 and told his parents his public school teacher had read the class a children’s book about “gay marriage” -- the story of a prince supposedly marrying another prince -- his parents wanted to check out the facts. To their surprise and dismay, though, the teacher had indeed read the book, which ends with a depiction of the two men kissing. “Gay marriage,” after all, is legal in the state.
To make matters worse, the Wirthlins were told they would not be given advance notice in the future about any such books.
This is a short video on how Same-Sex Marriage has affected one family’s life in Massachusetts.
http://link.brightcove.com/services/link…
You don't lose 'rights'! But people argue that it degrades the sanctity of marriage etc
the right to have morals
I don't get to be a bigot and excepted by the public anymore.
None as it does not affect me in any way.
What rights do you lose if people get the right to sibling marriage?
None whatsoever, of course.
Should the Gay Community have marriage rights?
I believe that the Gay Community should have all the that other people do. They are no different, they are people too. They just chose different sexual partners. I would just like to know what people think about this issue.Should the Gay Community have marriage rights?
Yes, everyone should be treated equally.Should the Gay Community have marriage rights?
Every American citizen should have the right to marry another adult of their choice.
Marriage is a legal contract. The fact that the US discriminates against gay individuals and does not allow them to enter into this legal contract, is illegal and unconstitutional.
That is why some religious nuts want to amend the Constitution.
If a church does not wish to perform certain ceremonies that should be up to them, but again, Marriage is a legal contract and not a religious issue.
Also in the US religion is not supposed to be used to make laws.
No matter how you look at it, the answer is yes.
I think they should have marriage rights.
See, some people don't want to get married, but I think if they do that right should be there. Some straight people don't want to get married either, but they always could. So it's not fair for the LGBT community to not have those rights.
Can't think of many other rights they don't already have - except for maybe adopting children, some adoption places are against it - but they deserve to have the same rights as everyone else.
I think they should be free to do whatever they like. But I don't think a gay person marriage should be called marriage. Marriage is between a man and a women, therefore I think they should name it something else and have it more fitable for gay couples. It should be a different ceremony and everything but still the same rights as regular marriage people.
I think they can have common law marriage's. But marriage is a practice that comes from Christianity, and Christianity does not support the same sex being together, so wouldn't it be contradictory for gays to want to be married under a God who does not support gays?
Yes.
And i don't think the government should allow it either, becuase this country was founded on Christian beliefs and principals, no way should the country change what it has stood for for the past hundreds of years for people who want to be married with wedding vows and this that and the other. God doesn't support it and it would be horrible for the government to completely go against what God has said.
I still don't get why they want to be married if what they are doing is technically wrong in God's eyes.
And it's not because of tax cuts or this or that, becuase gays can have a common law marriage and still get the same benefits as husband and wife.
YEEEESSS!
Gay straight bi lez transg - there is no fricking difference - we are all people! Those who think marriage is only for man and woman - no offence but u guys are so up yourselves! The conservative gay-is-bad straight-is-superior gay-makes-me-queasy people almost disgust me.
marrige should be a union between 2 people, regardless of sex, with exactly the same rights, exactly the same benefits, etc.
Marriage isnt just to procreate. It's majorly about uniting wtih the person you love. End of story. Who decided it was against 'the natural order'? There's too many ppl in this world anyway. And love isn't a religious thing! It's something anything with a conscience can experience! Whoever is saying 'it's against god's will ... not going with the bible' - um, hello, if we all started doing everything by the bible, we'd all be walking on water and trying to fill our starving stomachs with a couple of fish!
marriage is for a man and a woman from the beginning of time.
i have no objection of people being born gay. I have no objection of them liking each other strongly. The fact is that marriage was meant for a man and a woman who sincerely love each other. I know gay people should have the same rights as others but marriage was never meant for same sex. I respect all people....but once again.....marriage is for opposite sex people that love each other.
I agree 100%.
I am straight and happily married.
I don't see how on earth gay people getting married would take anything at all away from my marriage.
50 years from now the next generation is going to wonder why this would even be an issue the same way I look back on the Civil Rights movement and can't understand why there was ever any doubt that African Americans should have every right as my white grandfather.
California voters- Vote NO on 8!!!!
Yes, for many reasons.
1) Separate is not equal (brown vs board of education)
2) Government and Church should not mix (the church should be able to do what they want, but under the law they should have the right)
3) It's not hurting anyone
4) The constitution is for granting freedoms, not taking them away
5) It's between those two people (and god, if you so believe) and we do not have the right to pass judgment
i believe that it would be absolutely against our government to not allow gays/lesbians to have a relationship. but i do believe that it should not legally be called a marriage, because in the bible, which our nation was founded on whether you believe it or not, it says that marriage is between a man and women. also, the dictionary says that marriage is the formal union of a man and a women in which the two become husband and wife. so they have the right to have a relationship, but i don't believe the legal name should be marriage or that they are allowed to hold weddings
Absolutely. It is about equality. Most people among the gay and lesbian community do not feel they are gay or lesbian by choice. I don't feel my orientation was a choice.
Fundamental rights should be given to the human race equally without judgment, prejudice, or being scrutinized.
Please vote NO on Prop 8.
no, they shouldn't for the fact, that if you have 2 gay men's income which is not fair to other marriage couples because women in socirty make way less than men do. if you have 2 female lesbians their income isnt going to be high because their both women, doing women jobs. Plus we need to populate. Being gay is a sin, but not any different from any other sin. I think a lot of gay people are confused about sexuality and their gender.
As a lesbian, of course I want equal rights.
As an atheist I will say there's too much emphasis put on the ';ceremony.';
I WANT THE RIGHT to marry... as any heterosexual wife-beating porn addicted deviant has.
I dont necessarily care for the ceremony to be conducted in a church setting by a member of clergy.
I DO think I should have the right to go down to city hall and have the service performed by a justice of the peace, though, and have the result be called MARRIAGE with all the bells and whistles that come with that RIGHT!!!
.
I hate how people who are pro prop 8 say, ';Oh, you'll still have your rights, it just won't be called marriage.'; It's not the same!
Its like saying to women, ';Oh, you can still vote, but we'll call it something else.';
Or telling black people, ';Oh, you have the same rights as all other people, but we just won't call you people.';
The whole world now seems to fall at the feet of masses of people marching on washington! First it was the blacks, then the gays, and both succeeded with masses of people wanting some rights! next will come pedophile right to Freedom of sexual choice. Freedome of sexual choice is also mentioned in the Constitution! A million man pedophile march on the capitol building would surely change the laws once more. But that would not make it accepted? Just Legal!
Where are the moral,,,, religious issues?
I don't think so. I don't have a no problem with gay people. I think that it's fine to choose whatever you want to choose. However, although I'm not too religious, marriage was intended for a man and a woman to procreate. What the heck are two people of the same sex going to procreate. According to the bible they will live in sin (which is fine by me, I'm no saint), getting married is not going to get them a special place in heaven.
That's just my opinion. Again, I don't have anything against people fornicating in sin (LOL), it's awesome.
I definitely believe that some straight people should believe in gay rights. We didn't vote against any staright person's marriage so why should they get that right?
I know that a lot of people are fine with gay marriage but others have to understand that the world will not end if gays marry. Also, thanks for agreeing on gay marriage =)
YES they should
I always think of it this way
Why cant two gay people get married and have a happy life together when all these straight people are getting married then divorced, then married, then divorced and so on...
Its ridiculous that politicians think they have the right to decide who can and cannot get married.
They are people too and society tends to treat them almost like aliens... they have moms and dads, love, breathe air, and everything just like everyone else!
Yes. If you are a man who loves a man, or a woman who loves a woman, it is unconstitutional to forbid you to marry that person. Gay people should have the same rights that I have. You know why? Because they are just like me, human. We are all the same species people. Get it through your heads.
Ideally, yes. But it should be voted on by whatever state they live in as to whether or not this is acceptable to the majority of its citizens. Reciprocity should automatically apply if gays are married in one state and move to another. Equal rights but not special rights.
I think christians are a virus on this planet, and want to own and controll everything. Of course Gays should be able to marry----The christians used to preach that it was a sinfull abomination for blacks and whites to marry. THe masses believed them for years. It's time for a change in this country like no other, it's time for OBAMA!!
(sorry had to throw that in there :)
Lol idiot posters. The ';natural order'; never mentions the legality of same-sex marriages. Jesus didn't mention homosexuality. God wouldn't like you putting words in his mouth. If you're not gay, why do you want to stop them from being happy? Does ';Freedom'; only count for you and people like you? Why are you even here?
Sure they are people too. but that just isn't how it works. I am sorry and i am sure i will get a lot of thumbs down on this one but i really don't care. Should someone who loves animals have rights. They are people too..where does the line stop. I guess if you let this one go then there will be someone somewhere that will try to push it a little farther. Just my opinion.
Yes, which is why I love living in Mass.
Plus if you take away the whole religon argument, they have nothing else to argue. And not everyone is religous, this country was founded on freedom. Gay people should have the same rights as straight people it's as simple as that.
Yes. There is nothing wrong with two people getting married to show their love and commitment for each other! As for all of the people that said God is against it... Nobody asked them. People should not push their beliefs on others. They should have every right a heterosexual couple has. It is not the governments job to decide who can and can't be together, and what is emotionally right and wrong. We supposedly live in a free country so give us our freedoms!
yes god made ya that means youre supposed to be here. just like the platypus heehee!! not a mistake!! plus if some *** ever says anything stupid to you about it just mention that there is documented proof that there is gay activity in the animal world as well. my mother and i raise macaws and we had a few gay pairs. they were very happy .
Yes! They should be allowed to marry.
The CHURCH should not meddle with this proposal because the gay community is not asking to be married by the church. They are asking the government to acknowledge their right as a gay couple through a marriage contract.
I reallly couldn't care less...There life not mine.
P.S for those commenting from religion!
Where not all religious, as for me i'm not i am the least bit of realigious i can't stand it. If god was real, why make half the world in poverty with no money, and the stuff we need runs out?
I believe that Gays should have the same rights as other people because like you said they are people too. They just feel that they belong with the same sex and that is why people have freedom. They can choose how they want to live their lives.
Definatly and people who dont think so are oviously very close minded and they cannot chose who they are sexually attracted to , this does not interfere with anybody elses life yet alot of gay people live in fear and rejection, I agree with you 100%
Yes. Passing a law won't make a long term same sex couple exist or not exist. It is already here, just not with a little word associated with it... and I'm sorry, natural order? Humans are not the only species with homosexuality.
Yes, everyone should be treated equally.Should the Gay Community have marriage rights?
Every American citizen should have the right to marry another adult of their choice.
Marriage is a legal contract. The fact that the US discriminates against gay individuals and does not allow them to enter into this legal contract, is illegal and unconstitutional.
That is why some religious nuts want to amend the Constitution.
If a church does not wish to perform certain ceremonies that should be up to them, but again, Marriage is a legal contract and not a religious issue.
Also in the US religion is not supposed to be used to make laws.
No matter how you look at it, the answer is yes.
I think they should have marriage rights.
See, some people don't want to get married, but I think if they do that right should be there. Some straight people don't want to get married either, but they always could. So it's not fair for the LGBT community to not have those rights.
Can't think of many other rights they don't already have - except for maybe adopting children, some adoption places are against it - but they deserve to have the same rights as everyone else.
I think they should be free to do whatever they like. But I don't think a gay person marriage should be called marriage. Marriage is between a man and a women, therefore I think they should name it something else and have it more fitable for gay couples. It should be a different ceremony and everything but still the same rights as regular marriage people.
I think they can have common law marriage's. But marriage is a practice that comes from Christianity, and Christianity does not support the same sex being together, so wouldn't it be contradictory for gays to want to be married under a God who does not support gays?
Yes.
And i don't think the government should allow it either, becuase this country was founded on Christian beliefs and principals, no way should the country change what it has stood for for the past hundreds of years for people who want to be married with wedding vows and this that and the other. God doesn't support it and it would be horrible for the government to completely go against what God has said.
I still don't get why they want to be married if what they are doing is technically wrong in God's eyes.
And it's not because of tax cuts or this or that, becuase gays can have a common law marriage and still get the same benefits as husband and wife.
YEEEESSS!
Gay straight bi lez transg - there is no fricking difference - we are all people! Those who think marriage is only for man and woman - no offence but u guys are so up yourselves! The conservative gay-is-bad straight-is-superior gay-makes-me-queasy people almost disgust me.
marrige should be a union between 2 people, regardless of sex, with exactly the same rights, exactly the same benefits, etc.
Marriage isnt just to procreate. It's majorly about uniting wtih the person you love. End of story. Who decided it was against 'the natural order'? There's too many ppl in this world anyway. And love isn't a religious thing! It's something anything with a conscience can experience! Whoever is saying 'it's against god's will ... not going with the bible' - um, hello, if we all started doing everything by the bible, we'd all be walking on water and trying to fill our starving stomachs with a couple of fish!
marriage is for a man and a woman from the beginning of time.
i have no objection of people being born gay. I have no objection of them liking each other strongly. The fact is that marriage was meant for a man and a woman who sincerely love each other. I know gay people should have the same rights as others but marriage was never meant for same sex. I respect all people....but once again.....marriage is for opposite sex people that love each other.
I agree 100%.
I am straight and happily married.
I don't see how on earth gay people getting married would take anything at all away from my marriage.
50 years from now the next generation is going to wonder why this would even be an issue the same way I look back on the Civil Rights movement and can't understand why there was ever any doubt that African Americans should have every right as my white grandfather.
California voters- Vote NO on 8!!!!
Yes, for many reasons.
1) Separate is not equal (brown vs board of education)
2) Government and Church should not mix (the church should be able to do what they want, but under the law they should have the right)
3) It's not hurting anyone
4) The constitution is for granting freedoms, not taking them away
5) It's between those two people (and god, if you so believe) and we do not have the right to pass judgment
i believe that it would be absolutely against our government to not allow gays/lesbians to have a relationship. but i do believe that it should not legally be called a marriage, because in the bible, which our nation was founded on whether you believe it or not, it says that marriage is between a man and women. also, the dictionary says that marriage is the formal union of a man and a women in which the two become husband and wife. so they have the right to have a relationship, but i don't believe the legal name should be marriage or that they are allowed to hold weddings
Absolutely. It is about equality. Most people among the gay and lesbian community do not feel they are gay or lesbian by choice. I don't feel my orientation was a choice.
Fundamental rights should be given to the human race equally without judgment, prejudice, or being scrutinized.
Please vote NO on Prop 8.
no, they shouldn't for the fact, that if you have 2 gay men's income which is not fair to other marriage couples because women in socirty make way less than men do. if you have 2 female lesbians their income isnt going to be high because their both women, doing women jobs. Plus we need to populate. Being gay is a sin, but not any different from any other sin. I think a lot of gay people are confused about sexuality and their gender.
As a lesbian, of course I want equal rights.
As an atheist I will say there's too much emphasis put on the ';ceremony.';
I WANT THE RIGHT to marry... as any heterosexual wife-beating porn addicted deviant has.
I dont necessarily care for the ceremony to be conducted in a church setting by a member of clergy.
I DO think I should have the right to go down to city hall and have the service performed by a justice of the peace, though, and have the result be called MARRIAGE with all the bells and whistles that come with that RIGHT!!!
.
I hate how people who are pro prop 8 say, ';Oh, you'll still have your rights, it just won't be called marriage.'; It's not the same!
Its like saying to women, ';Oh, you can still vote, but we'll call it something else.';
Or telling black people, ';Oh, you have the same rights as all other people, but we just won't call you people.';
The whole world now seems to fall at the feet of masses of people marching on washington! First it was the blacks, then the gays, and both succeeded with masses of people wanting some rights! next will come pedophile right to Freedom of sexual choice. Freedome of sexual choice is also mentioned in the Constitution! A million man pedophile march on the capitol building would surely change the laws once more. But that would not make it accepted? Just Legal!
Where are the moral,,,, religious issues?
I don't think so. I don't have a no problem with gay people. I think that it's fine to choose whatever you want to choose. However, although I'm not too religious, marriage was intended for a man and a woman to procreate. What the heck are two people of the same sex going to procreate. According to the bible they will live in sin (which is fine by me, I'm no saint), getting married is not going to get them a special place in heaven.
That's just my opinion. Again, I don't have anything against people fornicating in sin (LOL), it's awesome.
I definitely believe that some straight people should believe in gay rights. We didn't vote against any staright person's marriage so why should they get that right?
I know that a lot of people are fine with gay marriage but others have to understand that the world will not end if gays marry. Also, thanks for agreeing on gay marriage =)
YES they should
I always think of it this way
Why cant two gay people get married and have a happy life together when all these straight people are getting married then divorced, then married, then divorced and so on...
Its ridiculous that politicians think they have the right to decide who can and cannot get married.
They are people too and society tends to treat them almost like aliens... they have moms and dads, love, breathe air, and everything just like everyone else!
Yes. If you are a man who loves a man, or a woman who loves a woman, it is unconstitutional to forbid you to marry that person. Gay people should have the same rights that I have. You know why? Because they are just like me, human. We are all the same species people. Get it through your heads.
Ideally, yes. But it should be voted on by whatever state they live in as to whether or not this is acceptable to the majority of its citizens. Reciprocity should automatically apply if gays are married in one state and move to another. Equal rights but not special rights.
I think christians are a virus on this planet, and want to own and controll everything. Of course Gays should be able to marry----The christians used to preach that it was a sinfull abomination for blacks and whites to marry. THe masses believed them for years. It's time for a change in this country like no other, it's time for OBAMA!!
(sorry had to throw that in there :)
Lol idiot posters. The ';natural order'; never mentions the legality of same-sex marriages. Jesus didn't mention homosexuality. God wouldn't like you putting words in his mouth. If you're not gay, why do you want to stop them from being happy? Does ';Freedom'; only count for you and people like you? Why are you even here?
Sure they are people too. but that just isn't how it works. I am sorry and i am sure i will get a lot of thumbs down on this one but i really don't care. Should someone who loves animals have rights. They are people too..where does the line stop. I guess if you let this one go then there will be someone somewhere that will try to push it a little farther. Just my opinion.
Yes, which is why I love living in Mass.
Plus if you take away the whole religon argument, they have nothing else to argue. And not everyone is religous, this country was founded on freedom. Gay people should have the same rights as straight people it's as simple as that.
Yes. There is nothing wrong with two people getting married to show their love and commitment for each other! As for all of the people that said God is against it... Nobody asked them. People should not push their beliefs on others. They should have every right a heterosexual couple has. It is not the governments job to decide who can and can't be together, and what is emotionally right and wrong. We supposedly live in a free country so give us our freedoms!
yes god made ya that means youre supposed to be here. just like the platypus heehee!! not a mistake!! plus if some *** ever says anything stupid to you about it just mention that there is documented proof that there is gay activity in the animal world as well. my mother and i raise macaws and we had a few gay pairs. they were very happy .
Yes! They should be allowed to marry.
The CHURCH should not meddle with this proposal because the gay community is not asking to be married by the church. They are asking the government to acknowledge their right as a gay couple through a marriage contract.
I reallly couldn't care less...There life not mine.
P.S for those commenting from religion!
Where not all religious, as for me i'm not i am the least bit of realigious i can't stand it. If god was real, why make half the world in poverty with no money, and the stuff we need runs out?
I believe that Gays should have the same rights as other people because like you said they are people too. They just feel that they belong with the same sex and that is why people have freedom. They can choose how they want to live their lives.
Definatly and people who dont think so are oviously very close minded and they cannot chose who they are sexually attracted to , this does not interfere with anybody elses life yet alot of gay people live in fear and rejection, I agree with you 100%
Yes. Passing a law won't make a long term same sex couple exist or not exist. It is already here, just not with a little word associated with it... and I'm sorry, natural order? Humans are not the only species with homosexuality.
How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
Seriously, don't the fundies have their priorities a bit out of whack? I'm all for a womans right to choose, but I can at least see where people are coming from being pro-life. Apparently abortion isn't as big of a deal as two homosexuals getting married. What the hell is wrong with this country? How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
Our country is full of ignorant, selfish bastards.How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
I'm not Gay but I am interested in the subject because I live in MA and gay marriage is legal here... I have to say I agree with you. I am actually pro life especially in cases of late term abortion but I actually am not opposed to Gay Marriage at all :) Just thought I would share with you that not all of us feel this way.
Franklin C = closted homosexual
Americans are hypocrities. It's that simple. Tonight I'm absolutely ashamed to live in the same country with these bigots.
ignorant tossers are everywhere hun. life's a bltch. please dont listen to franklin.
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Everyone ignore Franklin C. He's probably a closeted gay guy himself. He's been on this board for 5 hours. Obsessed much? Or just no life?
Maybe it stems from jealousy that gay people don't get pregnant by having sex with each other.
Apples %26amp; Oranges
I was thinking about that a few hours ago. You know what I came up with?
They are all idiots.
Simple as that.
Our country is full of ignorant, selfish bastards.How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
I'm not Gay but I am interested in the subject because I live in MA and gay marriage is legal here... I have to say I agree with you. I am actually pro life especially in cases of late term abortion but I actually am not opposed to Gay Marriage at all :) Just thought I would share with you that not all of us feel this way.
Franklin C = closted homosexual
Americans are hypocrities. It's that simple. Tonight I'm absolutely ashamed to live in the same country with these bigots.
ignorant tossers are everywhere hun. life's a bltch. please dont listen to franklin.
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Everyone ignore Franklin C. He's probably a closeted gay guy himself. He's been on this board for 5 hours. Obsessed much? Or just no life?
Maybe it stems from jealousy that gay people don't get pregnant by having sex with each other.
Apples %26amp; Oranges
I was thinking about that a few hours ago. You know what I came up with?
They are all idiots.
Simple as that.
What's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
It can be anything at allWhat's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
Actually, I learned more than one...after a divorce!
1. You cannot make other people love or accept you. You have to love and accept yourself first.
2. Love means different things for different people. That is why talking is so important! Nobody can read your mind.
3. Money and background DOES matter...So do values and religion.
4. We cannot expect other people to make us happy. Happiness depends on what we do for ourselves....What's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
The best thing I can say is it is good to have and honest communication. Talk about sex and everything else. Talk and listen to the other person. Never go to bed or out of the house angry-talk about the issues. I would recommend premarital counseling to makes sure both are on the same page.
Stay faithful and true to each other. Have at least a weekly date night. Gifts or nice things should not be done just because of a special date or after an argument- surprise the other. Leave little notes or messages (ONCE in awhile (don't go too crazy) telling the other that you were thinking about them.
Each one has to feel important not all the time but sometimes. Marriages will have its ups and down as long as your both faithful to each other then any problem can be worked on and through.
-I am a hopeless romantic- I would leave rose pedals on the floor when my wife came home from trips.
I've learned that we have so much to teach each other. We were very different when we met and married. As the years go by, I show him how to be more sensitive, he shows me how to be more assertive. He teaches me how to be more logical, I teach him how to be more spiritual. He shows me how to let things go and kick back and I show him how to get on task and accomplish things. I think that by the age of 80 or so, we'll actually be the same person ..lol. Of course, by then, we'll forget everything we've been teaching each other....
I have learned that marriage is like a two way street. We learn to STOP and to GIVE WAY and SLOW down over the bumps and never go down the ONE WAY street or it just becomes a DEAD END. I have also learned that you need to remember that at the end of the day your children will grow up and leave home, so you really need to be with some one that you want to grow old with.
Single most important: Don't sweat the small stuff, and most of life is made up of small stuff. When you are angry with your spouse, think ';Will I care about this next week? Next month? Next year?'; If you won't care about it a year from now, it's not worth fighting over.
To marry someone you respect, that you would potentially want children with, and that you would be happy if your childrent turned out like them. Even if you dont want children, thinking about it in this context tells volumes about someones character.
Don't do it!
If you are happy single, stay single. Marriage guarantees nothing. There's NOTHING a man can get from marriage that he can't get from being single. Except for losing half his assets.
You have to be willing to give in, agree, give up, ignore your needs, compromise, etc....100% of the time, and hope they only ask for 50.
Men and women are truly two different species.
I love my husband dearly but if I had it to do all over again, I would gladly still single. Or maybe next time I'll marry a rich guy.
That everything should be 50/50. and if something is bothing the other person then make it a big deal even if it's not a big deal to you.
Don't expect to receive what you give.Give from the heart and expect nothing in return. Go grasshopper, live long and prosper!
Not to be selfish, and to let the little things go.
Its good to marry for love. Its bad to marry for money. Its wise to marry for both!
When you leave it you lose all your stuff.
Marriage is the easy part. Kids complicate your life.
If you can put her happiness before your own, you are actually helping yourself.
Dont buy the damn ring!!!
communication, mutual respect and love
You will fall in and out of love with your spouse...just as long as you both aren't out of love at the same time its ok!
Life isn't all about me
Not to get married again.............
that at times you want absolutely nothing to do with your spouse
cheat on your wife before she cheats on you
Actually, I learned more than one...after a divorce!
1. You cannot make other people love or accept you. You have to love and accept yourself first.
2. Love means different things for different people. That is why talking is so important! Nobody can read your mind.
3. Money and background DOES matter...So do values and religion.
4. We cannot expect other people to make us happy. Happiness depends on what we do for ourselves....What's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
The best thing I can say is it is good to have and honest communication. Talk about sex and everything else. Talk and listen to the other person. Never go to bed or out of the house angry-talk about the issues. I would recommend premarital counseling to makes sure both are on the same page.
Stay faithful and true to each other. Have at least a weekly date night. Gifts or nice things should not be done just because of a special date or after an argument- surprise the other. Leave little notes or messages (ONCE in awhile (don't go too crazy) telling the other that you were thinking about them.
Each one has to feel important not all the time but sometimes. Marriages will have its ups and down as long as your both faithful to each other then any problem can be worked on and through.
-I am a hopeless romantic- I would leave rose pedals on the floor when my wife came home from trips.
I've learned that we have so much to teach each other. We were very different when we met and married. As the years go by, I show him how to be more sensitive, he shows me how to be more assertive. He teaches me how to be more logical, I teach him how to be more spiritual. He shows me how to let things go and kick back and I show him how to get on task and accomplish things. I think that by the age of 80 or so, we'll actually be the same person ..lol. Of course, by then, we'll forget everything we've been teaching each other....
I have learned that marriage is like a two way street. We learn to STOP and to GIVE WAY and SLOW down over the bumps and never go down the ONE WAY street or it just becomes a DEAD END. I have also learned that you need to remember that at the end of the day your children will grow up and leave home, so you really need to be with some one that you want to grow old with.
Single most important: Don't sweat the small stuff, and most of life is made up of small stuff. When you are angry with your spouse, think ';Will I care about this next week? Next month? Next year?'; If you won't care about it a year from now, it's not worth fighting over.
To marry someone you respect, that you would potentially want children with, and that you would be happy if your childrent turned out like them. Even if you dont want children, thinking about it in this context tells volumes about someones character.
Don't do it!
If you are happy single, stay single. Marriage guarantees nothing. There's NOTHING a man can get from marriage that he can't get from being single. Except for losing half his assets.
You have to be willing to give in, agree, give up, ignore your needs, compromise, etc....100% of the time, and hope they only ask for 50.
Men and women are truly two different species.
I love my husband dearly but if I had it to do all over again, I would gladly still single. Or maybe next time I'll marry a rich guy.
That everything should be 50/50. and if something is bothing the other person then make it a big deal even if it's not a big deal to you.
Don't expect to receive what you give.Give from the heart and expect nothing in return. Go grasshopper, live long and prosper!
Not to be selfish, and to let the little things go.
Its good to marry for love. Its bad to marry for money. Its wise to marry for both!
When you leave it you lose all your stuff.
Marriage is the easy part. Kids complicate your life.
If you can put her happiness before your own, you are actually helping yourself.
Dont buy the damn ring!!!
communication, mutual respect and love
You will fall in and out of love with your spouse...just as long as you both aren't out of love at the same time its ok!
Life isn't all about me
Not to get married again.............
that at times you want absolutely nothing to do with your spouse
cheat on your wife before she cheats on you
How do i become a marriage registrar for marrying people?
Hi,
I would like to become a marriage registrar, i.e. to be the person who performs a marriage ceremony for couples either in a Registry office or at other locations.
Can anybody tell me if there are any special criteria, eg, minimum age, experience, or where I might found out about vacancies?
Im based in the UK. London.
thanksHow do i become a marriage registrar for marrying people?
Most registrars keep legal records of births, marriages and deaths in their districts. For example, they issue birth, marriage and death certificates. However, there are some posts where you deal with marriage records only, and when you have reached the grade of superintendent, you are also able to conduct wedding ceremonies yourself.
There are no minimum entry requirements for this career; however, you should have a good standard of general education. GCSE passes at grade C or above in subjects such as English Language and Maths would be very useful.
Some applicants have more GCSEs, or higher level qualifications such as A levels.
Most of the training to become a registrar is done on-the-job. In England and Wales, training is co-ordinated by the General Register Office, and trainees are eligible to work towards the Registrar General's Certificate of Competence in Registration Law and Practice.
Local authorities appoint registrars, so you will need to contact them for vacancies. Also, they are normally advertised in the local press and in local authority vacancy bulletins, including those online. However, vacancies occur only occasionally so you may have to be patient.
For more information, contact your local authority and:
The Society of Registration Officers, The Register Office, Aspen House (First Floor), Temple Street, Swindon, Wiltshire SN1 1SQ.
Telephone: 01793 521734How do i become a marriage registrar for marrying people?
You work for the city and county(or whatever you call your region in the UK) you have to be of legal working age. Check with your magistrate's office for openings.
Minty has answered your question excellently. I would just like to add it is very unusual (where I am anyway) to just suddenly become a Marriage Registrar, usually you are employed by the council and work your way up through the ranks.
I would like to become a marriage registrar, i.e. to be the person who performs a marriage ceremony for couples either in a Registry office or at other locations.
Can anybody tell me if there are any special criteria, eg, minimum age, experience, or where I might found out about vacancies?
Im based in the UK. London.
thanksHow do i become a marriage registrar for marrying people?
Most registrars keep legal records of births, marriages and deaths in their districts. For example, they issue birth, marriage and death certificates. However, there are some posts where you deal with marriage records only, and when you have reached the grade of superintendent, you are also able to conduct wedding ceremonies yourself.
There are no minimum entry requirements for this career; however, you should have a good standard of general education. GCSE passes at grade C or above in subjects such as English Language and Maths would be very useful.
Some applicants have more GCSEs, or higher level qualifications such as A levels.
Most of the training to become a registrar is done on-the-job. In England and Wales, training is co-ordinated by the General Register Office, and trainees are eligible to work towards the Registrar General's Certificate of Competence in Registration Law and Practice.
Local authorities appoint registrars, so you will need to contact them for vacancies. Also, they are normally advertised in the local press and in local authority vacancy bulletins, including those online. However, vacancies occur only occasionally so you may have to be patient.
For more information, contact your local authority and:
The Society of Registration Officers, The Register Office, Aspen House (First Floor), Temple Street, Swindon, Wiltshire SN1 1SQ.
Telephone: 01793 521734How do i become a marriage registrar for marrying people?
You work for the city and county(or whatever you call your region in the UK) you have to be of legal working age. Check with your magistrate's office for openings.
Minty has answered your question excellently. I would just like to add it is very unusual (where I am anyway) to just suddenly become a Marriage Registrar, usually you are employed by the council and work your way up through the ranks.
How do i fix my marriage?
My husband doesn't want sex from me because he says im so negative all the time. He admits he is unhappy. We have sex maybe once a month if im lucky. Is he cheating or just not interested anymore? I dont trust anybody because of past issues. How do i fix my marriage?
You're probably just a chub. Lose some weight and he might get interested again. How do i fix my marriage?
First check if he is telling the truth. Are you being negative with him frequently. It is not fair to consider if he is cheating before considering if he is telling the truth. It is not romantically inspiring to come home to your wife and hear her complaining about her day, scolding the children, complaining about her friends, etc. And if you are actually being negative about him that makes it worse.
If you are sure you are not being negative, then look at him and try to figure out what is making him unhappy. You married him hopefully because you love each other, you should try to help him. Look for proof of cheating if you want, but until you find it, try to help him be happy.
If you are being negative:
I am not saying you shouldn't share how you feel with him. Just make sure you are saying twice as many positive comments as negative ones. (BTW this even more true when talking to your kids if you have them) Also try to complain about things, not about him example: instead of ';You burnt the toast'; say ';The toast is burnt, but it's ok it happens.'; (and then eat it anyway because you love him) He knows he burnt it, and will try not to do it next time. It doesn't seem like much but after several ';you did...'; comments a day it adds up.
When we go outside to talk to new neighbors or strangers we always bend over backwards to be friendly pleasant people, that anyone would want to be around. Then when we are with the people we love, who we should be treating the nicest, we stop feeling the need to be as friendly. We are all guilty of this from time to time. Ask youself if you are more positive to your neighbor, bankteller, waiter, cashier than to your husband, if you are, fix it.
Just my opinion though.
COMMUNICATION!!! it's what most marriages lack, ask him what you could do to make this work,ask him how you could make him happy, and try your best to fulfill these things, if he's expressed to you that he's not happy and he's not sleeping with you then most likely he's sleeping with someone else,
One piece of information you didn't give is how you've been negative or at least how he thinks you've been negative. A little hard to answer this one.
What exactly are you negative about? Negativity can bring down everyone around...cut it out!
Are you so negative all the time? This seems to be a key point here.
You need to have more trust. Open yourself up to him. That's probably all he want.
Go to counseling, even if your husband doesn't want to go.
thats disgusting....and not good that he says that....is he seeing someone else? Im getting alot more than that... tell him to open up and ask him right out what is wrong..
not happy is a severe problem and it should be be fixed before he does cheatmaybelline foundation
You're probably just a chub. Lose some weight and he might get interested again. How do i fix my marriage?
First check if he is telling the truth. Are you being negative with him frequently. It is not fair to consider if he is cheating before considering if he is telling the truth. It is not romantically inspiring to come home to your wife and hear her complaining about her day, scolding the children, complaining about her friends, etc. And if you are actually being negative about him that makes it worse.
If you are sure you are not being negative, then look at him and try to figure out what is making him unhappy. You married him hopefully because you love each other, you should try to help him. Look for proof of cheating if you want, but until you find it, try to help him be happy.
If you are being negative:
I am not saying you shouldn't share how you feel with him. Just make sure you are saying twice as many positive comments as negative ones. (BTW this even more true when talking to your kids if you have them) Also try to complain about things, not about him example: instead of ';You burnt the toast'; say ';The toast is burnt, but it's ok it happens.'; (and then eat it anyway because you love him) He knows he burnt it, and will try not to do it next time. It doesn't seem like much but after several ';you did...'; comments a day it adds up.
When we go outside to talk to new neighbors or strangers we always bend over backwards to be friendly pleasant people, that anyone would want to be around. Then when we are with the people we love, who we should be treating the nicest, we stop feeling the need to be as friendly. We are all guilty of this from time to time. Ask youself if you are more positive to your neighbor, bankteller, waiter, cashier than to your husband, if you are, fix it.
Just my opinion though.
COMMUNICATION!!! it's what most marriages lack, ask him what you could do to make this work,ask him how you could make him happy, and try your best to fulfill these things, if he's expressed to you that he's not happy and he's not sleeping with you then most likely he's sleeping with someone else,
One piece of information you didn't give is how you've been negative or at least how he thinks you've been negative. A little hard to answer this one.
What exactly are you negative about? Negativity can bring down everyone around...cut it out!
Are you so negative all the time? This seems to be a key point here.
You need to have more trust. Open yourself up to him. That's probably all he want.
Go to counseling, even if your husband doesn't want to go.
thats disgusting....and not good that he says that....is he seeing someone else? Im getting alot more than that... tell him to open up and ask him right out what is wrong..
not happy is a severe problem and it should be be fixed before he does cheat
Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
I mean if you're gonna be paying out the assss for cheating, shouldn't you get your money's worth first?Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
You are a sad, sad man and this pic of you is no better than the last. Still looks oily.Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
As if you would find anything worth cheating with, but no you should merely divorce rather than cheating. From you last question it seems as though your marriage is doomed by your behavior already so what's the point in attempting to save it, let your wife have the life she deserves.
By asking that question, you've answered it yourself. Your marriage needs help. The ';work'; should have begun long before you began thinking about how many times you should be allowed to cheat. Your wife deserves better. A marriage deserves better.
LOL you ask questions like this on purpose don't you lol!!! As popular as you are on YA! I have no clue why some people get so angry at you. I'm just tickled reading some of the other answers I don't even feel like giving one of my smart comebacks! :P
i think that is why so many marriages fail. if you dont want to be married and no longer love your wife. then get out, why hurt her more. you treat people the way you want to be treated i am a believer in what goes around comes around.
What is wrong with you ?
You are tripping.....,big time
Like the person said before You ask some weird stuff
You are not well
you are one sick puppy
Does your elevator go all the way to the top ?
You illing?
Take a nap
You are ';bugging out';
No' cheating is never these answer,but I believe that cheating sometimes will make a relationship stronger,don't really have time to explain
Sure why not. Go get as many STDs as you possibly can. Awesome idea.
I think you need to be alone if you like cheating so much.
Good grief. If you have no love or respect for your wife, don't even be married to her.
thats horrible.
GET THOSE RED DOTS SEEN TO! the stick for you is very much still out you ugly fat perv.
wow your questions really show the marrieds true colors. lol
Ur pathetic.. and ur ugly too
You are a piece of work. Women...run for your lives if you see this man!
oh hell yeah. just make me one of those 10 please
ur worthless* i would hate to be ur wife let alone friend or girlfriend*
You are a sad, sad man and this pic of you is no better than the last. Still looks oily.Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
As if you would find anything worth cheating with, but no you should merely divorce rather than cheating. From you last question it seems as though your marriage is doomed by your behavior already so what's the point in attempting to save it, let your wife have the life she deserves.
By asking that question, you've answered it yourself. Your marriage needs help. The ';work'; should have begun long before you began thinking about how many times you should be allowed to cheat. Your wife deserves better. A marriage deserves better.
LOL you ask questions like this on purpose don't you lol!!! As popular as you are on YA! I have no clue why some people get so angry at you. I'm just tickled reading some of the other answers I don't even feel like giving one of my smart comebacks! :P
i think that is why so many marriages fail. if you dont want to be married and no longer love your wife. then get out, why hurt her more. you treat people the way you want to be treated i am a believer in what goes around comes around.
What is wrong with you ?
You are tripping.....,big time
Like the person said before You ask some weird stuff
You are not well
you are one sick puppy
Does your elevator go all the way to the top ?
You illing?
Take a nap
You are ';bugging out';
No' cheating is never these answer,but I believe that cheating sometimes will make a relationship stronger,don't really have time to explain
Sure why not. Go get as many STDs as you possibly can. Awesome idea.
I think you need to be alone if you like cheating so much.
Good grief. If you have no love or respect for your wife, don't even be married to her.
thats horrible.
GET THOSE RED DOTS SEEN TO! the stick for you is very much still out you ugly fat perv.
wow your questions really show the marrieds true colors. lol
Ur pathetic.. and ur ugly too
You are a piece of work. Women...run for your lives if you see this man!
oh hell yeah. just make me one of those 10 please
ur worthless* i would hate to be ur wife let alone friend or girlfriend*
Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
I mean if you're gonna be paying out the assss for cheating, shouldn't you get your money's worth first?Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
You are a sad, sad man and this pic of you is no better than the last. Still looks oily.Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
As if you would find anything worth cheating with, but no you should merely divorce rather than cheating. From you last question it seems as though your marriage is doomed by your behavior already so what's the point in attempting to save it, let your wife have the life she deserves.
By asking that question, you've answered it yourself. Your marriage needs help. The ';work'; should have begun long before you began thinking about how many times you should be allowed to cheat. Your wife deserves better. A marriage deserves better.
LOL you ask questions like this on purpose don't you lol!!! As popular as you are on YA! I have no clue why some people get so angry at you. I'm just tickled reading some of the other answers I don't even feel like giving one of my smart comebacks! :P
i think that is why so many marriages fail. if you dont want to be married and no longer love your wife. then get out, why hurt her more. you treat people the way you want to be treated i am a believer in what goes around comes around.
What is wrong with you ?
You are tripping.....,big time
Like the person said before You ask some weird stuff
You are not well
you are one sick puppy
Does your elevator go all the way to the top ?
You illing?
Take a nap
You are ';bugging out';
No' cheating is never these answer,but I believe that cheating sometimes will make a relationship stronger,don't really have time to explain
Sure why not. Go get as many STDs as you possibly can. Awesome idea.
I think you need to be alone if you like cheating so much.
Good grief. If you have no love or respect for your wife, don't even be married to her.
thats horrible.
GET THOSE RED DOTS SEEN TO! the stick for you is very much still out you ugly fat perv.
wow your questions really show the marrieds true colors. lol
Ur pathetic.. and ur ugly too
You are a piece of work. Women...run for your lives if you see this man!
oh hell yeah. just make me one of those 10 please
ur worthless* i would hate to be ur wife let alone friend or girlfriend*
You are a sad, sad man and this pic of you is no better than the last. Still looks oily.Should you cheat 10 times before you ';get work done'; on the marriage?
As if you would find anything worth cheating with, but no you should merely divorce rather than cheating. From you last question it seems as though your marriage is doomed by your behavior already so what's the point in attempting to save it, let your wife have the life she deserves.
By asking that question, you've answered it yourself. Your marriage needs help. The ';work'; should have begun long before you began thinking about how many times you should be allowed to cheat. Your wife deserves better. A marriage deserves better.
LOL you ask questions like this on purpose don't you lol!!! As popular as you are on YA! I have no clue why some people get so angry at you. I'm just tickled reading some of the other answers I don't even feel like giving one of my smart comebacks! :P
i think that is why so many marriages fail. if you dont want to be married and no longer love your wife. then get out, why hurt her more. you treat people the way you want to be treated i am a believer in what goes around comes around.
What is wrong with you ?
You are tripping.....,big time
Like the person said before You ask some weird stuff
You are not well
you are one sick puppy
Does your elevator go all the way to the top ?
You illing?
Take a nap
You are ';bugging out';
No' cheating is never these answer,but I believe that cheating sometimes will make a relationship stronger,don't really have time to explain
Sure why not. Go get as many STDs as you possibly can. Awesome idea.
I think you need to be alone if you like cheating so much.
Good grief. If you have no love or respect for your wife, don't even be married to her.
thats horrible.
GET THOSE RED DOTS SEEN TO! the stick for you is very much still out you ugly fat perv.
wow your questions really show the marrieds true colors. lol
Ur pathetic.. and ur ugly too
You are a piece of work. Women...run for your lives if you see this man!
oh hell yeah. just make me one of those 10 please
ur worthless* i would hate to be ur wife let alone friend or girlfriend*
How do i fix my marriage?
My husband doesn't want sex from me because he says im so negative all the time. He admits he is unhappy. We have sex maybe once a month if im lucky. Is he cheating or just not interested anymore? I dont trust anybody because of past issues. How do i fix my marriage?
You're probably just a chub. Lose some weight and he might get interested again. How do i fix my marriage?
First check if he is telling the truth. Are you being negative with him frequently. It is not fair to consider if he is cheating before considering if he is telling the truth. It is not romantically inspiring to come home to your wife and hear her complaining about her day, scolding the children, complaining about her friends, etc. And if you are actually being negative about him that makes it worse.
If you are sure you are not being negative, then look at him and try to figure out what is making him unhappy. You married him hopefully because you love each other, you should try to help him. Look for proof of cheating if you want, but until you find it, try to help him be happy.
If you are being negative:
I am not saying you shouldn't share how you feel with him. Just make sure you are saying twice as many positive comments as negative ones. (BTW this even more true when talking to your kids if you have them) Also try to complain about things, not about him example: instead of ';You burnt the toast'; say ';The toast is burnt, but it's ok it happens.'; (and then eat it anyway because you love him) He knows he burnt it, and will try not to do it next time. It doesn't seem like much but after several ';you did...'; comments a day it adds up.
When we go outside to talk to new neighbors or strangers we always bend over backwards to be friendly pleasant people, that anyone would want to be around. Then when we are with the people we love, who we should be treating the nicest, we stop feeling the need to be as friendly. We are all guilty of this from time to time. Ask youself if you are more positive to your neighbor, bankteller, waiter, cashier than to your husband, if you are, fix it.
Just my opinion though.
COMMUNICATION!!! it's what most marriages lack, ask him what you could do to make this work,ask him how you could make him happy, and try your best to fulfill these things, if he's expressed to you that he's not happy and he's not sleeping with you then most likely he's sleeping with someone else,
One piece of information you didn't give is how you've been negative or at least how he thinks you've been negative. A little hard to answer this one.
What exactly are you negative about? Negativity can bring down everyone around...cut it out!
Are you so negative all the time? This seems to be a key point here.
You need to have more trust. Open yourself up to him. That's probably all he want.
Go to counseling, even if your husband doesn't want to go.
thats disgusting....and not good that he says that....is he seeing someone else? Im getting alot more than that... tell him to open up and ask him right out what is wrong..
not happy is a severe problem and it should be be fixed before he does cheat
You're probably just a chub. Lose some weight and he might get interested again. How do i fix my marriage?
First check if he is telling the truth. Are you being negative with him frequently. It is not fair to consider if he is cheating before considering if he is telling the truth. It is not romantically inspiring to come home to your wife and hear her complaining about her day, scolding the children, complaining about her friends, etc. And if you are actually being negative about him that makes it worse.
If you are sure you are not being negative, then look at him and try to figure out what is making him unhappy. You married him hopefully because you love each other, you should try to help him. Look for proof of cheating if you want, but until you find it, try to help him be happy.
If you are being negative:
I am not saying you shouldn't share how you feel with him. Just make sure you are saying twice as many positive comments as negative ones. (BTW this even more true when talking to your kids if you have them) Also try to complain about things, not about him example: instead of ';You burnt the toast'; say ';The toast is burnt, but it's ok it happens.'; (and then eat it anyway because you love him) He knows he burnt it, and will try not to do it next time. It doesn't seem like much but after several ';you did...'; comments a day it adds up.
When we go outside to talk to new neighbors or strangers we always bend over backwards to be friendly pleasant people, that anyone would want to be around. Then when we are with the people we love, who we should be treating the nicest, we stop feeling the need to be as friendly. We are all guilty of this from time to time. Ask youself if you are more positive to your neighbor, bankteller, waiter, cashier than to your husband, if you are, fix it.
Just my opinion though.
COMMUNICATION!!! it's what most marriages lack, ask him what you could do to make this work,ask him how you could make him happy, and try your best to fulfill these things, if he's expressed to you that he's not happy and he's not sleeping with you then most likely he's sleeping with someone else,
One piece of information you didn't give is how you've been negative or at least how he thinks you've been negative. A little hard to answer this one.
What exactly are you negative about? Negativity can bring down everyone around...cut it out!
Are you so negative all the time? This seems to be a key point here.
You need to have more trust. Open yourself up to him. That's probably all he want.
Go to counseling, even if your husband doesn't want to go.
thats disgusting....and not good that he says that....is he seeing someone else? Im getting alot more than that... tell him to open up and ask him right out what is wrong..
not happy is a severe problem and it should be be fixed before he does cheat
How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
Seriously, don't the fundies have their priorities a bit out of whack? I'm all for a womans right to choose, but I can at least see where people are coming from being pro-life. Apparently abortion isn't as big of a deal as two homosexuals getting married. What the hell is wrong with this country? How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
Our country is full of ignorant, selfish bastards.How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
I'm not Gay but I am interested in the subject because I live in MA and gay marriage is legal here... I have to say I agree with you. I am actually pro life especially in cases of late term abortion but I actually am not opposed to Gay Marriage at all :) Just thought I would share with you that not all of us feel this way.
Franklin C = closted homosexual
Americans are hypocrities. It's that simple. Tonight I'm absolutely ashamed to live in the same country with these bigots.
ignorant tossers are everywhere hun. life's a bltch. please dont listen to franklin.
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Everyone ignore Franklin C. He's probably a closeted gay guy himself. He's been on this board for 5 hours. Obsessed much? Or just no life?
Maybe it stems from jealousy that gay people don't get pregnant by having sex with each other.
Apples %26amp; Oranges
I was thinking about that a few hours ago. You know what I came up with?
They are all idiots.
Simple as that.
Our country is full of ignorant, selfish bastards.How is it possible that the abortion measures fail, but the gay marriage ones flourish?
I'm not Gay but I am interested in the subject because I live in MA and gay marriage is legal here... I have to say I agree with you. I am actually pro life especially in cases of late term abortion but I actually am not opposed to Gay Marriage at all :) Just thought I would share with you that not all of us feel this way.
Franklin C = closted homosexual
Americans are hypocrities. It's that simple. Tonight I'm absolutely ashamed to live in the same country with these bigots.
ignorant tossers are everywhere hun. life's a bltch. please dont listen to franklin.
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Everyone ignore Franklin C. He's probably a closeted gay guy himself. He's been on this board for 5 hours. Obsessed much? Or just no life?
Maybe it stems from jealousy that gay people don't get pregnant by having sex with each other.
Apples %26amp; Oranges
I was thinking about that a few hours ago. You know what I came up with?
They are all idiots.
Simple as that.
What's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
It can be anything at allWhat's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
Actually, I learned more than one...after a divorce!
1. You cannot make other people love or accept you. You have to love and accept yourself first.
2. Love means different things for different people. That is why talking is so important! Nobody can read your mind.
3. Money and background DOES matter...So do values and religion.
4. We cannot expect other people to make us happy. Happiness depends on what we do for ourselves....What's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
The best thing I can say is it is good to have and honest communication. Talk about sex and everything else. Talk and listen to the other person. Never go to bed or out of the house angry-talk about the issues. I would recommend premarital counseling to makes sure both are on the same page.
Stay faithful and true to each other. Have at least a weekly date night. Gifts or nice things should not be done just because of a special date or after an argument- surprise the other. Leave little notes or messages (ONCE in awhile (don't go too crazy) telling the other that you were thinking about them.
Each one has to feel important not all the time but sometimes. Marriages will have its ups and down as long as your both faithful to each other then any problem can be worked on and through.
-I am a hopeless romantic- I would leave rose pedals on the floor when my wife came home from trips.
I've learned that we have so much to teach each other. We were very different when we met and married. As the years go by, I show him how to be more sensitive, he shows me how to be more assertive. He teaches me how to be more logical, I teach him how to be more spiritual. He shows me how to let things go and kick back and I show him how to get on task and accomplish things. I think that by the age of 80 or so, we'll actually be the same person ..lol. Of course, by then, we'll forget everything we've been teaching each other....
I have learned that marriage is like a two way street. We learn to STOP and to GIVE WAY and SLOW down over the bumps and never go down the ONE WAY street or it just becomes a DEAD END. I have also learned that you need to remember that at the end of the day your children will grow up and leave home, so you really need to be with some one that you want to grow old with.
Single most important: Don't sweat the small stuff, and most of life is made up of small stuff. When you are angry with your spouse, think ';Will I care about this next week? Next month? Next year?'; If you won't care about it a year from now, it's not worth fighting over.
To marry someone you respect, that you would potentially want children with, and that you would be happy if your childrent turned out like them. Even if you dont want children, thinking about it in this context tells volumes about someones character.
Don't do it!
If you are happy single, stay single. Marriage guarantees nothing. There's NOTHING a man can get from marriage that he can't get from being single. Except for losing half his assets.
You have to be willing to give in, agree, give up, ignore your needs, compromise, etc....100% of the time, and hope they only ask for 50.
Men and women are truly two different species.
I love my husband dearly but if I had it to do all over again, I would gladly still single. Or maybe next time I'll marry a rich guy.
That everything should be 50/50. and if something is bothing the other person then make it a big deal even if it's not a big deal to you.
Don't expect to receive what you give.Give from the heart and expect nothing in return. Go grasshopper, live long and prosper!
Not to be selfish, and to let the little things go.
Its good to marry for love. Its bad to marry for money. Its wise to marry for both!
When you leave it you lose all your stuff.
Marriage is the easy part. Kids complicate your life.
If you can put her happiness before your own, you are actually helping yourself.
Dont buy the damn ring!!!
communication, mutual respect and love
You will fall in and out of love with your spouse...just as long as you both aren't out of love at the same time its ok!
Life isn't all about me
Not to get married again.............
that at times you want absolutely nothing to do with your spouse
cheat on your wife before she cheats on you
Actually, I learned more than one...after a divorce!
1. You cannot make other people love or accept you. You have to love and accept yourself first.
2. Love means different things for different people. That is why talking is so important! Nobody can read your mind.
3. Money and background DOES matter...So do values and religion.
4. We cannot expect other people to make us happy. Happiness depends on what we do for ourselves....What's the single most important life-lesson you've learned from marriage?
The best thing I can say is it is good to have and honest communication. Talk about sex and everything else. Talk and listen to the other person. Never go to bed or out of the house angry-talk about the issues. I would recommend premarital counseling to makes sure both are on the same page.
Stay faithful and true to each other. Have at least a weekly date night. Gifts or nice things should not be done just because of a special date or after an argument- surprise the other. Leave little notes or messages (ONCE in awhile (don't go too crazy) telling the other that you were thinking about them.
Each one has to feel important not all the time but sometimes. Marriages will have its ups and down as long as your both faithful to each other then any problem can be worked on and through.
-I am a hopeless romantic- I would leave rose pedals on the floor when my wife came home from trips.
I've learned that we have so much to teach each other. We were very different when we met and married. As the years go by, I show him how to be more sensitive, he shows me how to be more assertive. He teaches me how to be more logical, I teach him how to be more spiritual. He shows me how to let things go and kick back and I show him how to get on task and accomplish things. I think that by the age of 80 or so, we'll actually be the same person ..lol. Of course, by then, we'll forget everything we've been teaching each other....
I have learned that marriage is like a two way street. We learn to STOP and to GIVE WAY and SLOW down over the bumps and never go down the ONE WAY street or it just becomes a DEAD END. I have also learned that you need to remember that at the end of the day your children will grow up and leave home, so you really need to be with some one that you want to grow old with.
Single most important: Don't sweat the small stuff, and most of life is made up of small stuff. When you are angry with your spouse, think ';Will I care about this next week? Next month? Next year?'; If you won't care about it a year from now, it's not worth fighting over.
To marry someone you respect, that you would potentially want children with, and that you would be happy if your childrent turned out like them. Even if you dont want children, thinking about it in this context tells volumes about someones character.
Don't do it!
If you are happy single, stay single. Marriage guarantees nothing. There's NOTHING a man can get from marriage that he can't get from being single. Except for losing half his assets.
You have to be willing to give in, agree, give up, ignore your needs, compromise, etc....100% of the time, and hope they only ask for 50.
Men and women are truly two different species.
I love my husband dearly but if I had it to do all over again, I would gladly still single. Or maybe next time I'll marry a rich guy.
That everything should be 50/50. and if something is bothing the other person then make it a big deal even if it's not a big deal to you.
Don't expect to receive what you give.Give from the heart and expect nothing in return. Go grasshopper, live long and prosper!
Not to be selfish, and to let the little things go.
Its good to marry for love. Its bad to marry for money. Its wise to marry for both!
When you leave it you lose all your stuff.
Marriage is the easy part. Kids complicate your life.
If you can put her happiness before your own, you are actually helping yourself.
Dont buy the damn ring!!!
communication, mutual respect and love
You will fall in and out of love with your spouse...just as long as you both aren't out of love at the same time its ok!
Life isn't all about me
Not to get married again.............
that at times you want absolutely nothing to do with your spouse
cheat on your wife before she cheats on you
Did you marry someone who turned into a hardcore religious nut AFTER marriage?
Like the kind of guy who suddenly decides women shouldn't wear pants in public or have an ATM card.Did you marry someone who turned into a hardcore religious nut AFTER marriage?
Yes, she began to worship Vodka after 14 years of marriage. She's my ex now.Did you marry someone who turned into a hardcore religious nut AFTER marriage?
Yes, I married a completely normal guy who decided to become a Jehovah's Witness after we got married! Neatless to say, the marriage didn't work out, and a lot of it did have to do with his religious beliefs and the way he insisted on pushing them on me. If you want to be religious it's one thing but pushing it on another person is completely unreasonable!
No, but my aunt did. She and my uncle slept together almost from the start of their relationship (5 years before marriage), used birth control, drank heavily, smoked pot...you name it...and they NEVER went to church (aside from the pre-marital stuff before the wedding.) My aunt didn't know that my uncle was religious until the day after they arrived home from their Honeymoon (a Sunday). He dragged her out of bed at 5am because he insisted they go to Mass..and then insisted that they needed to go at least once a day from there-on-in. He also refused to be intimate with my aunt unless it was for pro-creation...therefore, condoms and ';the pill'; became taboos in their house. It was very strange to watch this unfold (I was 13 when they got married, but had been observing everything since I was way younger.) Like Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde (so to speak.) Its amazing how people will pull a complete 180 just to snag someone. Luckily they are divorced now, as sad as it is to say, but my uncle is a nut.
oh wow, thats not good at all! I'm sorry! My dad didn't know how religious my mum was until they were married, and she didn't know he used to be a Jehovah's witness either. They have great disagreements about religion and dont get on most of the time because of it. I guess you dont truly know someone until you're married to them.
Yep, but he was a sociopath, a pathological liar, so it was all for show. He's (fortunately) out of my life now.
This happens to a lot of people.
No, but I do know someone who found out their wife didn't like sex, after they were married. Once a month is the best he can do. I feel sorry for him. It won't be long.
I am married to a super religious Jesus Freak! Its really sucks! I cannot enjoy my beautiful life to the fullest! Nor I cannot be able to share my extreme happiness in life in general. Today! I cannot stand religious freaks! I will never again run into another religious nut!
edit: I should of gotten married to a Catholic woman.
Being married is hard enough... I can't imagine how hard it would be to be married to a religious nut....
Yes and we are now divorced! They go over board sometimes and it could get scary! When we argue now (we have a child) I get Bible verses.
No but my husband is Muslim and I'm not. He has some strict beliefs but he doesn't push them on me. We talked about it prior to getting married.maybelline foundation
Yes, she began to worship Vodka after 14 years of marriage. She's my ex now.Did you marry someone who turned into a hardcore religious nut AFTER marriage?
Yes, I married a completely normal guy who decided to become a Jehovah's Witness after we got married! Neatless to say, the marriage didn't work out, and a lot of it did have to do with his religious beliefs and the way he insisted on pushing them on me. If you want to be religious it's one thing but pushing it on another person is completely unreasonable!
No, but my aunt did. She and my uncle slept together almost from the start of their relationship (5 years before marriage), used birth control, drank heavily, smoked pot...you name it...and they NEVER went to church (aside from the pre-marital stuff before the wedding.) My aunt didn't know that my uncle was religious until the day after they arrived home from their Honeymoon (a Sunday). He dragged her out of bed at 5am because he insisted they go to Mass..and then insisted that they needed to go at least once a day from there-on-in. He also refused to be intimate with my aunt unless it was for pro-creation...therefore, condoms and ';the pill'; became taboos in their house. It was very strange to watch this unfold (I was 13 when they got married, but had been observing everything since I was way younger.) Like Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde (so to speak.) Its amazing how people will pull a complete 180 just to snag someone. Luckily they are divorced now, as sad as it is to say, but my uncle is a nut.
oh wow, thats not good at all! I'm sorry! My dad didn't know how religious my mum was until they were married, and she didn't know he used to be a Jehovah's witness either. They have great disagreements about religion and dont get on most of the time because of it. I guess you dont truly know someone until you're married to them.
Yep, but he was a sociopath, a pathological liar, so it was all for show. He's (fortunately) out of my life now.
This happens to a lot of people.
No, but I do know someone who found out their wife didn't like sex, after they were married. Once a month is the best he can do. I feel sorry for him. It won't be long.
I am married to a super religious Jesus Freak! Its really sucks! I cannot enjoy my beautiful life to the fullest! Nor I cannot be able to share my extreme happiness in life in general. Today! I cannot stand religious freaks! I will never again run into another religious nut!
edit: I should of gotten married to a Catholic woman.
Being married is hard enough... I can't imagine how hard it would be to be married to a religious nut....
Yes and we are now divorced! They go over board sometimes and it could get scary! When we argue now (we have a child) I get Bible verses.
No but my husband is Muslim and I'm not. He has some strict beliefs but he doesn't push them on me. We talked about it prior to getting married.
If I got married to a sunni Muslim in US, will my marriage be considered legally binding by US Law?
I'm not looking to get a US citizenship but concerned with the legality of it. Can I use it to register my marriage in my country of origin?If I got married to a sunni Muslim in US, will my marriage be considered legally binding by US Law?
The religion of a marriage actually matters very little in regards to law. What matters is that marriage certificate that you and the person conducting your marriage sign.If I got married to a sunni Muslim in US, will my marriage be considered legally binding by US Law?
As long as the person preforming the ceromony has the legal right to marry people and you are both legal age to marry without parental permission then you or her or him could be devoted mud worshipers. It doesnt matter what someones religion is only thing that matters is that the person preforming it has legal authority to do so.
when you get married it is a legal contract, not an religious one. Assuming your spouse is a legal alien, why shouldn't it be legal?
Unfortuanatlly, many illegal aliens have used marriage to an American citizen so they may stay in this coutnry.
The religion of a marriage actually matters very little in regards to law. What matters is that marriage certificate that you and the person conducting your marriage sign.If I got married to a sunni Muslim in US, will my marriage be considered legally binding by US Law?
As long as the person preforming the ceromony has the legal right to marry people and you are both legal age to marry without parental permission then you or her or him could be devoted mud worshipers. It doesnt matter what someones religion is only thing that matters is that the person preforming it has legal authority to do so.
when you get married it is a legal contract, not an religious one. Assuming your spouse is a legal alien, why shouldn't it be legal?
Unfortuanatlly, many illegal aliens have used marriage to an American citizen so they may stay in this coutnry.
Republicans: Would you be willing to call your own marriage a ';civil union'; rather than a marriage?
Many Republicans seem to think that civil unions are adequate for gay people. So, if you feel the same way, would you be willing to refer to your own marriage as a civil union, rather than a marriage? Why or why not? Thanks!!!Republicans: Would you be willing to call your own marriage a ';civil union'; rather than a marriage?
Great question.
I'm honestly in awe of how stupid some of the responses are
';Can a lesbian impregnate another lesbian?'; seriously. This is the dumbest argument you can make. Is a marriage invalid if the man or the woman has an extra chromosome and can't procreate? What if your wife was infertile due to cancer? What if you married too old and couldn't have kids? What if you just didn't WANT kids. Marriage isn't about spawning more little hellions, its about love.
';Gays don't want to get married'; Seriously my jaw dropped when I read this. You must live a sheltered life and aren't exposed to the Gay community, or just don't pay attention to the massive uproar when Prop 8 passed in CA.
Now, I dont mean to bash on everyone, there were a couple of responses I felt were very interesting. But for crying out loud, some of you need to think before typing
To the religious folks: remember, the United States is NOT a theocracy like Iran. Our laws governing marriage are to protect the rights of citizens, not give a church power over others. If the united states adopted the Christian verison of marriage, Divorces would be illegal, Christians could ONLY marry Christians, and if one spouse cheated the married couple (both man and woman) would be put to death regardless if the other spouse was faithful.Republicans: Would you be willing to call your own marriage a ';civil union'; rather than a marriage?
No, I would not want my marriage to be called a civil union. I am straight though and not gay. If you think about it, not to get whatever on you but there are laws to do w/a man and woman getting married because it is natural. Biologically speaking: a man and woman fit. They can procreate. It is a special union. Two women and two men alone, is unnatural so to speak. I understand that it is becoming more common and more acceptable, not everyone fits the traditional role. Some people are born that way and others choose it. How long ago could blacks not vote? Were slaves? When did women get their rights? It will take time but overall, its more unacceptable w/society. There are also bad apples that give you a bad name like in anything. I've never understood why even male/female pda is looked down on and not done that often, why it seems gay or lesbians need to make a point of doing it too much in a public place. Gay males seem to go through more partners and remain unfaithful then reg relationships.
If it was honestly a civil union I would not mind it being referred to as such. If the union took place in a court house rather than a church then it would be considered a civil union. A civil union is a legal action taken between two parties, which provided specific rights to both individuals. In other words this would work for couples that do not want the religious defined marriage. I am surprised many nonreligious individuals do not refer to their ';marriage'; as a civil union already.
The Great American Paradox.
The other day I was asked “How can conservatives want freedom of Government when they want to control our bedrooms?” Of course the asker was referring to the ban on gay marriage.
I could have gone off on a rant about how liberals want to control what we eat, smoke , drive, put in our gas tanks, etc, but I chose to stick to the issue.
I had to explain what I call the Great American Paradox. You see, as a conservative, I would go to war and fight for your right to own property, build a house and do as you wish behind the sanctity of your walls. America was built on personal property rights and personal freedom. We cherish these ideals want everyone to have them.
But when you move fornication out of your house and into the public view of your front yard, you have crossed the line. That is the moment I will fight you.
When you cross that line between private and public, you have forced me to accept your level of degeneracy.
Marriage is a statement before God and the public. Do as you wish is your house, but don’t pervert the public.
Many republicans think that civil unions are adequate for gay people because,as Christians,we are tolerant and giving people.Since God's law has no room for the abomination that is homosexuality,we concede that two gays deserve the same rights that married couples have.So we think civil unions are the answer.If you can convince God to change his mind then I will be all for it.Let me know when you succeed at that,would ya?
Call my marriage to my wife anthing you like . It isn't a religious union . It's a legal union based on the love of 2 people . People can argue but we know what we have ....
ajs... I can't impregnate my wife ,she's already in menopause ... so does that make our marriage null and void ? That is one stupid argument .
no becvause a marraige as definied.. is a union between a man and woman and deserve to have their relationship called a marriage. i wouldnt even give gay peopel civil unions.. i would however give them a therapy session. all they need is a little attention.
You can call it a tree if you want to.
Doesn't change the relationship my husband and I have. It doesn't devalue our love or any of that mumbo jumbo.
Frankly, it's only a piece of paper. I couldn't even tell you where our marriage certificate is.
That wouldn't be very conservative to change our marriage laws now would it? Besides gays don't want to get married. They want to be different so be different its ok. Just coexist peacefully and keep it in the bedroom like everyone else. Have some tolerance towards straight people.
Very interesting. It would be quite something if straight, liberal couples started getting ';unioned'; instead of married, in an effort to put everyone on the same level (even if that doesn't turn out to be ';marriage';).
What exactly is the difference?
Let them call it what they want...call it marriage even. Still won't be normal or natural whatever you call it and nothing can make it so.
It's not the ';Civil Union'; it is the ';Union Between the States'; !!!
If I were ';married'; to another woman YES
This is not a democrat/republican argument. Even Obama is against same sex marriages
I was married in a civil ceremony by a judge so it is a civil union.
We never had a wedding ceremony in a church.
No. My union was sanctioned by God. So it's a marriage. There's the rub.
SO, BY YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS I WOULD...........
GO INTO MY GARAGE.............
TEAR THE CADILLAC SYMBOL OFF OF MY FAVORITE CAR..........
GO TO CHURCH...........
AND TELL EVERYONE I DRIVE A YUGO....................!!!!!!
HONEY: GAY PEOPLE ARE GAY, THAT IS ALL..........!
Have your civil unions with all the same ';benefits'; of marriage but marriage is between a man and a woman. Don't trash it.
Uhhh, it has been called marriage for ever. Already defined....why are you people such hateful people.
Can a lesbian impregnate a lesbian?
Excellent question.
No.
depends... will my marriage be the union of one man and one woman under the eyes of the Lord? if so, then no
NO. If you think its not fair for homos than go to some country like france or something
No i don't think so . no need in breaking a tradition .
Great question.
I'm honestly in awe of how stupid some of the responses are
';Can a lesbian impregnate another lesbian?'; seriously. This is the dumbest argument you can make. Is a marriage invalid if the man or the woman has an extra chromosome and can't procreate? What if your wife was infertile due to cancer? What if you married too old and couldn't have kids? What if you just didn't WANT kids. Marriage isn't about spawning more little hellions, its about love.
';Gays don't want to get married'; Seriously my jaw dropped when I read this. You must live a sheltered life and aren't exposed to the Gay community, or just don't pay attention to the massive uproar when Prop 8 passed in CA.
Now, I dont mean to bash on everyone, there were a couple of responses I felt were very interesting. But for crying out loud, some of you need to think before typing
To the religious folks: remember, the United States is NOT a theocracy like Iran. Our laws governing marriage are to protect the rights of citizens, not give a church power over others. If the united states adopted the Christian verison of marriage, Divorces would be illegal, Christians could ONLY marry Christians, and if one spouse cheated the married couple (both man and woman) would be put to death regardless if the other spouse was faithful.Republicans: Would you be willing to call your own marriage a ';civil union'; rather than a marriage?
No, I would not want my marriage to be called a civil union. I am straight though and not gay. If you think about it, not to get whatever on you but there are laws to do w/a man and woman getting married because it is natural. Biologically speaking: a man and woman fit. They can procreate. It is a special union. Two women and two men alone, is unnatural so to speak. I understand that it is becoming more common and more acceptable, not everyone fits the traditional role. Some people are born that way and others choose it. How long ago could blacks not vote? Were slaves? When did women get their rights? It will take time but overall, its more unacceptable w/society. There are also bad apples that give you a bad name like in anything. I've never understood why even male/female pda is looked down on and not done that often, why it seems gay or lesbians need to make a point of doing it too much in a public place. Gay males seem to go through more partners and remain unfaithful then reg relationships.
If it was honestly a civil union I would not mind it being referred to as such. If the union took place in a court house rather than a church then it would be considered a civil union. A civil union is a legal action taken between two parties, which provided specific rights to both individuals. In other words this would work for couples that do not want the religious defined marriage. I am surprised many nonreligious individuals do not refer to their ';marriage'; as a civil union already.
The Great American Paradox.
The other day I was asked “How can conservatives want freedom of Government when they want to control our bedrooms?” Of course the asker was referring to the ban on gay marriage.
I could have gone off on a rant about how liberals want to control what we eat, smoke , drive, put in our gas tanks, etc, but I chose to stick to the issue.
I had to explain what I call the Great American Paradox. You see, as a conservative, I would go to war and fight for your right to own property, build a house and do as you wish behind the sanctity of your walls. America was built on personal property rights and personal freedom. We cherish these ideals want everyone to have them.
But when you move fornication out of your house and into the public view of your front yard, you have crossed the line. That is the moment I will fight you.
When you cross that line between private and public, you have forced me to accept your level of degeneracy.
Marriage is a statement before God and the public. Do as you wish is your house, but don’t pervert the public.
Many republicans think that civil unions are adequate for gay people because,as Christians,we are tolerant and giving people.Since God's law has no room for the abomination that is homosexuality,we concede that two gays deserve the same rights that married couples have.So we think civil unions are the answer.If you can convince God to change his mind then I will be all for it.Let me know when you succeed at that,would ya?
Call my marriage to my wife anthing you like . It isn't a religious union . It's a legal union based on the love of 2 people . People can argue but we know what we have ....
ajs... I can't impregnate my wife ,she's already in menopause ... so does that make our marriage null and void ? That is one stupid argument .
no becvause a marraige as definied.. is a union between a man and woman and deserve to have their relationship called a marriage. i wouldnt even give gay peopel civil unions.. i would however give them a therapy session. all they need is a little attention.
You can call it a tree if you want to.
Doesn't change the relationship my husband and I have. It doesn't devalue our love or any of that mumbo jumbo.
Frankly, it's only a piece of paper. I couldn't even tell you where our marriage certificate is.
That wouldn't be very conservative to change our marriage laws now would it? Besides gays don't want to get married. They want to be different so be different its ok. Just coexist peacefully and keep it in the bedroom like everyone else. Have some tolerance towards straight people.
Very interesting. It would be quite something if straight, liberal couples started getting ';unioned'; instead of married, in an effort to put everyone on the same level (even if that doesn't turn out to be ';marriage';).
What exactly is the difference?
Let them call it what they want...call it marriage even. Still won't be normal or natural whatever you call it and nothing can make it so.
It's not the ';Civil Union'; it is the ';Union Between the States'; !!!
If I were ';married'; to another woman YES
This is not a democrat/republican argument. Even Obama is against same sex marriages
I was married in a civil ceremony by a judge so it is a civil union.
We never had a wedding ceremony in a church.
No. My union was sanctioned by God. So it's a marriage. There's the rub.
SO, BY YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS I WOULD...........
GO INTO MY GARAGE.............
TEAR THE CADILLAC SYMBOL OFF OF MY FAVORITE CAR..........
GO TO CHURCH...........
AND TELL EVERYONE I DRIVE A YUGO....................!!!!!!
HONEY: GAY PEOPLE ARE GAY, THAT IS ALL..........!
Have your civil unions with all the same ';benefits'; of marriage but marriage is between a man and a woman. Don't trash it.
Uhhh, it has been called marriage for ever. Already defined....why are you people such hateful people.
Can a lesbian impregnate a lesbian?
Excellent question.
No.
depends... will my marriage be the union of one man and one woman under the eyes of the Lord? if so, then no
NO. If you think its not fair for homos than go to some country like france or something
No i don't think so . no need in breaking a tradition .
What do men think about divorced women with children from a previous marriage?
A match of people need to met first before they worry about the children. Sometimes the cycle continues if the wrong couple meet and hook up. Love is the priority and the toughest times of children are because of a marriage that hit the rocks due to earlier problems surfaced through the previous time-line. Personalities and similar goals need to be met and if there is a good intertwining of all concerned things will work out. No generalizations of ';divorcee'; or ';broken home'; comments to be made. Maybe a new and better life with better choices made......What do men think about divorced women with children from a previous marriage?
Sometimes being an observer in some people who have gone through has helped in my perspective. Nothing is every clear-cut as you know.....
What do men think about divorced women with children from a previous marriage?
If the man has previous children as well, he'll most likely be fine with it. It's a younger guy, with no family or children of his own, who would be most likely to see this in a more negative light.
Children are the wealthiest thing in this world. if a man really loves you he will not have problem with your kids. if he thinks kids are problem and loves you, being a mother you must stick to your kids, because mothers only understand the children more than father.
What do women think about divorced men with a child from a previous marriage ? ';That's me'; I like divorced women with a child from a previous marriage as long as they are not looking for a meal ticket or they are not a *****.
Men prefer not to have to take care of children that aren't biologically theirs. But, some decent men will not hold it against you. And, some men have children of their own and may not have this prejudice.
These answers are ridiculous. Depends on the woman. If you are hot, guys will not care. If they are attracted to you and like you, they really won't care. Seen it many times.
And yes, they will marry you!
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That they try too hard to please or they are looking for a meal ticket. This makes it very easy to walk all over them.
Used goods, already broken, etc.
Stay away from them. Especially if she has 3-4 kids and they're are all from different men !
Not much. Okay for fun, but not anything serious.
DUH
As long as you don't marry them...could be fun.
Depends on the man. There is no one answer to this..
my third husband didnt mind hes still here and good with my boys
Sometimes being an observer in some people who have gone through has helped in my perspective. Nothing is every clear-cut as you know.....
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What do men think about divorced women with children from a previous marriage?
If the man has previous children as well, he'll most likely be fine with it. It's a younger guy, with no family or children of his own, who would be most likely to see this in a more negative light.
Children are the wealthiest thing in this world. if a man really loves you he will not have problem with your kids. if he thinks kids are problem and loves you, being a mother you must stick to your kids, because mothers only understand the children more than father.
What do women think about divorced men with a child from a previous marriage ? ';That's me'; I like divorced women with a child from a previous marriage as long as they are not looking for a meal ticket or they are not a *****.
Men prefer not to have to take care of children that aren't biologically theirs. But, some decent men will not hold it against you. And, some men have children of their own and may not have this prejudice.
These answers are ridiculous. Depends on the woman. If you are hot, guys will not care. If they are attracted to you and like you, they really won't care. Seen it many times.
And yes, they will marry you!
See my answer on here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
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That they try too hard to please or they are looking for a meal ticket. This makes it very easy to walk all over them.
Used goods, already broken, etc.
Stay away from them. Especially if she has 3-4 kids and they're are all from different men !
Not much. Okay for fun, but not anything serious.
DUH
As long as you don't marry them...could be fun.
Depends on the man. There is no one answer to this..
my third husband didnt mind hes still here and good with my boys
How is it that heterosexuals have made such a terrible failure of marriage as an institution?
What went wrong?How is it that heterosexuals have made such a terrible failure of marriage as an institution?
As it turns out, infatuation and sexual chemistry alone aren't a reliably sufficient basis for a stable, lifelong relationship.
Most people take a few years to learn this, and many people marry young. Ergo: many disastrous marriages.How is it that heterosexuals have made such a terrible failure of marriage as an institution?
What?
This is the most loaded question I have ever heard.
First, is it my imagination or are heterosexuals the ONLY people that have marriage as an institution? Like, by law? I am not against legalizing marriages for same-sex couples, but they are not legal today.
That having been said, the divorce rate is WAY down from its high thirty years ago - when changes in the role of women and both sexes' expectations of marriage left people in the awkward position of having married under one set of rules and getting divorced when another set became accepted.
Divorce rates for couples with children are even lower.
I'm not sure what constitutes a ';terrible failure,'; but married people live longer, report being happier, are more economically stable and far less likely to experience legal problems or other socially stigmatized events.
If anything, its NOT getting married is a terrible failure as an institution - especially for single women that have children.
No one is saying that marriage is perfect (or that ';hetersexual marriage,'; albeait a redundancy, is perfect) but I find it difficult to characterize it as a failure. And the underlying premise that homosexuals could some how be better at it is, well, a little ridiculous.
If someone made that statement aimed at homosexuals you would no doubt be up in arms railing against the alleged discrimination inherent in the statement.
The fact is that heterosexuals aren't any worse at picking marriage partners than anyone else....they simply make up much larger numbers than any other group.
Heterosexuals are human with all the failings of humans, therefore they make mistakes and that includes marriages that sometimes don't work.
Nobody gets married with the intention of divorcing, that's just a plain stupid thing to suggest...people get married because they think it's the right thing to do at the time and then later things change in some way or the other and it's no longer the right thing.
That can happen to anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation.
To suggest that homosexuals aren't affected by relationship breakups is flawed.
Homosexuals have been breaking off relationships with each other for years, just the same.....they just haven't been any marriages and therefore divorces because until recently they haven't been able to marry....it's as simple as that.
Now they can in many places and you are already starting to see divorces....so that demonstrates that people are just people and they same things happen to them all.
And I always thought that was the whole point of not discriminating....something you've just blatantly done with your question.
When marriage is set up like an exclusive club, the only people who can make it a success or failure are the members themselves. Loaded and biased question. I am certainly not a homophobe by any means, but if I were to ask a question that began ';How is it that homosexuals have made such a terrible failure of......?'; You would jump all over my sh*t for being a gay basher. I like you Trevor, I love it when you post clear, well thought out questions and your insightful and witty answers, but you seem to have missed the boat on this one
Yes, and homosexuals all have perfectly harmonious, utopian relationships.
Which you know is BS.
Living near the famous Castro District In San Francisco for many years, I can truley say that gay male relationships had just as many, if not more break ups, it's just not that talked about...nobody really has the stats, since these breakups arent recorded through divorce proceedings.
But then, you already knew this, you just wanted to create a frenzy of pissed off heterosexual people.
*yawn*
I'm off to answer an important question.
Because heterosexuals have been the only people able to marry. Therefore they are the only people who could make a failure of it.
Polygamous and homosexual relationship disputes go through the Family Court here, they are just not technically marriage.
That's kind of like saying---how in the world did teenagers make such a failure out of public school????!!!!
Just because a few, a lot, or even MOST drop out of school; doesn't make public school a failure.
Since they legalised gay marriage in teh UK a high amount of them end in divorce so you can ask yourself the same thing.
Yes, well homosexual relationships don't exactly have a high sucess rate themselves.
In Canada gays and lesbians have been getting married AND divorced for a number of years now.
This is one of those ';when did you stop beating your wife'; type of questions.
the confused culture and values are the roots to this problem.
As it turns out, infatuation and sexual chemistry alone aren't a reliably sufficient basis for a stable, lifelong relationship.
Most people take a few years to learn this, and many people marry young. Ergo: many disastrous marriages.How is it that heterosexuals have made such a terrible failure of marriage as an institution?
What?
This is the most loaded question I have ever heard.
First, is it my imagination or are heterosexuals the ONLY people that have marriage as an institution? Like, by law? I am not against legalizing marriages for same-sex couples, but they are not legal today.
That having been said, the divorce rate is WAY down from its high thirty years ago - when changes in the role of women and both sexes' expectations of marriage left people in the awkward position of having married under one set of rules and getting divorced when another set became accepted.
Divorce rates for couples with children are even lower.
I'm not sure what constitutes a ';terrible failure,'; but married people live longer, report being happier, are more economically stable and far less likely to experience legal problems or other socially stigmatized events.
If anything, its NOT getting married is a terrible failure as an institution - especially for single women that have children.
No one is saying that marriage is perfect (or that ';hetersexual marriage,'; albeait a redundancy, is perfect) but I find it difficult to characterize it as a failure. And the underlying premise that homosexuals could some how be better at it is, well, a little ridiculous.
If someone made that statement aimed at homosexuals you would no doubt be up in arms railing against the alleged discrimination inherent in the statement.
The fact is that heterosexuals aren't any worse at picking marriage partners than anyone else....they simply make up much larger numbers than any other group.
Heterosexuals are human with all the failings of humans, therefore they make mistakes and that includes marriages that sometimes don't work.
Nobody gets married with the intention of divorcing, that's just a plain stupid thing to suggest...people get married because they think it's the right thing to do at the time and then later things change in some way or the other and it's no longer the right thing.
That can happen to anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation.
To suggest that homosexuals aren't affected by relationship breakups is flawed.
Homosexuals have been breaking off relationships with each other for years, just the same.....they just haven't been any marriages and therefore divorces because until recently they haven't been able to marry....it's as simple as that.
Now they can in many places and you are already starting to see divorces....so that demonstrates that people are just people and they same things happen to them all.
And I always thought that was the whole point of not discriminating....something you've just blatantly done with your question.
When marriage is set up like an exclusive club, the only people who can make it a success or failure are the members themselves. Loaded and biased question. I am certainly not a homophobe by any means, but if I were to ask a question that began ';How is it that homosexuals have made such a terrible failure of......?'; You would jump all over my sh*t for being a gay basher. I like you Trevor, I love it when you post clear, well thought out questions and your insightful and witty answers, but you seem to have missed the boat on this one
Yes, and homosexuals all have perfectly harmonious, utopian relationships.
Which you know is BS.
Living near the famous Castro District In San Francisco for many years, I can truley say that gay male relationships had just as many, if not more break ups, it's just not that talked about...nobody really has the stats, since these breakups arent recorded through divorce proceedings.
But then, you already knew this, you just wanted to create a frenzy of pissed off heterosexual people.
*yawn*
I'm off to answer an important question.
Because heterosexuals have been the only people able to marry. Therefore they are the only people who could make a failure of it.
Polygamous and homosexual relationship disputes go through the Family Court here, they are just not technically marriage.
That's kind of like saying---how in the world did teenagers make such a failure out of public school????!!!!
Just because a few, a lot, or even MOST drop out of school; doesn't make public school a failure.
Since they legalised gay marriage in teh UK a high amount of them end in divorce so you can ask yourself the same thing.
Yes, well homosexual relationships don't exactly have a high sucess rate themselves.
In Canada gays and lesbians have been getting married AND divorced for a number of years now.
This is one of those ';when did you stop beating your wife'; type of questions.
the confused culture and values are the roots to this problem.
What does everyone thing about Marriage Counseling?
My husband and I have some BIG problems and I am at my wits end. I have already moved out and we are doing equal time with our 2 year old. I just wanted to ask what people though about marriage counseling. Is it worth the time and effort or should I just give up already??What does everyone thing about Marriage Counseling?
I don't know about what everyone else things......
but I know... that as long as both people are willing to try to repair the marriage..... that marriage counseling.... can do WONDERS.What does everyone thing about Marriage Counseling?
If you really want to save your marriage it might be worth the effort. I would suggest private counseling for yourself and if your husband is willing to go a couple session.
Start now by making a list of what you think went wrong in the marriage etc. A 3rd person listening to key issues and not be judgemental may be worth it.
A marriage counselor is human just like you and your husband; so you have to realize she/he can't work miracles. They are simply there to intervene....teach you both how to pin point the problem and develop better Communication skills %26amp; solutions to get back on track. I personally believe if two people really want to save their marriage they can find a way to do it on their own. A marriage counselor will never truly know you or your husband, they can only give professional advice which sometimes is a bunch of B.S. They are expensive and if you have the money then I guess it never hurts to try. But if something inside of you says it's over and it's useless to keep trying....then go with your gut because it's normally right.
Luckily my wife and I have never needed one, but I believe there is anything wrong with having to need some external help to save your marriage. I think most problems with marriages that don't work is that the two sides don't try hard enough to make it work. If getting help from a MC will help, then go for it. It won't make it worse than it's already is.
Dont give up, if its not for u or not for yr husband, dont give up for yr 2 year old son/daughter. try everything u can and make sure yr husband try that as well. Sit with him talk with him, and if things didnt work out like that go counseling, it woks and can help.
Try counseling if you think your marriage is worth trying to save.
In my experience you can get some really good counselors. But then again you can get some real idiots - it's a bit like a lottery.
Good Luck.
my opinion, its a waist of time and money, unless u get a really good one to help you, most of them that i have dwelt with werent even married themselves, so how can anyone advise someone if they dont know what problems you have or relate to them
It is absolutely worth the time and effort. You owe it to your husband, yourself, and your child to give your marriage every chance. You took vows.
you have to go alone first. then go together. and if both of you dont go alone. it wont work. because one person will be putting in all the work
Try everything. Counseling might help if you enter into it with honesty and openness and a willingness to make it work.
It worked for my husband and I. We only know what we have learned. Counseling helps open our minds to other opinions. You are the only 1 that can decide if it's worth it.
If the both of you whole heartedly want to try it then yes of course it MAY work. However if he don鈥檛 want to try it then give up and move on.
I think it's great for couples with communication issues. If you are always fighting or not speaking with each other, I would recommend it.
if you really love him then yes its well worth it. but i can tell you first hand that you both must put forth the effort or it will be a waste of time
I would defiantly give it a go. If it doesn't work it doesn't work.
Yes, it's worth the time and effort.
give it a chance as long as 2 of you are trying.
I don't know about what everyone else things......
but I know... that as long as both people are willing to try to repair the marriage..... that marriage counseling.... can do WONDERS.What does everyone thing about Marriage Counseling?
If you really want to save your marriage it might be worth the effort. I would suggest private counseling for yourself and if your husband is willing to go a couple session.
Start now by making a list of what you think went wrong in the marriage etc. A 3rd person listening to key issues and not be judgemental may be worth it.
A marriage counselor is human just like you and your husband; so you have to realize she/he can't work miracles. They are simply there to intervene....teach you both how to pin point the problem and develop better Communication skills %26amp; solutions to get back on track. I personally believe if two people really want to save their marriage they can find a way to do it on their own. A marriage counselor will never truly know you or your husband, they can only give professional advice which sometimes is a bunch of B.S. They are expensive and if you have the money then I guess it never hurts to try. But if something inside of you says it's over and it's useless to keep trying....then go with your gut because it's normally right.
Luckily my wife and I have never needed one, but I believe there is anything wrong with having to need some external help to save your marriage. I think most problems with marriages that don't work is that the two sides don't try hard enough to make it work. If getting help from a MC will help, then go for it. It won't make it worse than it's already is.
Dont give up, if its not for u or not for yr husband, dont give up for yr 2 year old son/daughter. try everything u can and make sure yr husband try that as well. Sit with him talk with him, and if things didnt work out like that go counseling, it woks and can help.
Try counseling if you think your marriage is worth trying to save.
In my experience you can get some really good counselors. But then again you can get some real idiots - it's a bit like a lottery.
Good Luck.
my opinion, its a waist of time and money, unless u get a really good one to help you, most of them that i have dwelt with werent even married themselves, so how can anyone advise someone if they dont know what problems you have or relate to them
It is absolutely worth the time and effort. You owe it to your husband, yourself, and your child to give your marriage every chance. You took vows.
you have to go alone first. then go together. and if both of you dont go alone. it wont work. because one person will be putting in all the work
Try everything. Counseling might help if you enter into it with honesty and openness and a willingness to make it work.
It worked for my husband and I. We only know what we have learned. Counseling helps open our minds to other opinions. You are the only 1 that can decide if it's worth it.
If the both of you whole heartedly want to try it then yes of course it MAY work. However if he don鈥檛 want to try it then give up and move on.
I think it's great for couples with communication issues. If you are always fighting or not speaking with each other, I would recommend it.
if you really love him then yes its well worth it. but i can tell you first hand that you both must put forth the effort or it will be a waste of time
I would defiantly give it a go. If it doesn't work it doesn't work.
Yes, it's worth the time and effort.
give it a chance as long as 2 of you are trying.
What Do You Want Your Marriage Proposal to be Like?
What was it like or what do you want it to be like??
I want mine to be at a fancy restaurant.What Do You Want Your Marriage Proposal to be Like?
My husband proposed after dinner at a restaurant. We were the only table on a patio overlooking the water and he said some really special, sincere things. It was from the heart, and it meant the world to me. I got teary, and of course I said yes. :)What Do You Want Your Marriage Proposal to be Like?
I was just proposed to four days ago!!! We're four months pregnant with twins, so I was expecting that we were going to get married soon, but i was shocked when he actually came out and proposed.
It was a sunday night, and we were out on his boat. We usually do that on sunday afternoons and nights so it wasn't out of the ordinary. We were just sitting, eating shrimp and he started talking about how happy he was that we were having twins, and how happy he was with me. And then he said, ';You know what would make this all complete? What would make this the best year of my life?'; and I said ';what?'; and he said ';to be married to you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you. You're the one. I've known you were the one since the moment I met you. Will you please marry me?'; and I so I said yes!
I just want mine to be soon! Haha.
no, really I don't care where it happens or even really what he says, I just think knowing that he wants to marry me will be enough to thrill me. I guess my ';perfect'; proposal though would consist of going somewhere really romantic and secluded with no one around and him getting down on one knee. I'm not much into the public dramatic proposal.
The best way to be disappointed is to zero in on a pre-conceived notion on how a certain event in your life will be.
Daydreaming about it is fine, just don't box yourself in to a point where nothing but what your imagination comes up with will do......
...Reality rarely copies imagination.
Me? I had no pre-conceived scenario so I wasn't disappointed.
Me and my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years plan on getting married one day wen financially set lol. And i would love more then anything for him to purpose to me in a goose blind ...... We go goose hunting together, he is actually a professional guide for goose hunting .. and down in the mud infront of the boys all deckd out in camo would be amazing to me ... prolley different then most lol lol
My fiance proposed at a piano bar during dinner. It was perfect.maybelline foundation
I want mine to be at a fancy restaurant.What Do You Want Your Marriage Proposal to be Like?
My husband proposed after dinner at a restaurant. We were the only table on a patio overlooking the water and he said some really special, sincere things. It was from the heart, and it meant the world to me. I got teary, and of course I said yes. :)What Do You Want Your Marriage Proposal to be Like?
I was just proposed to four days ago!!! We're four months pregnant with twins, so I was expecting that we were going to get married soon, but i was shocked when he actually came out and proposed.
It was a sunday night, and we were out on his boat. We usually do that on sunday afternoons and nights so it wasn't out of the ordinary. We were just sitting, eating shrimp and he started talking about how happy he was that we were having twins, and how happy he was with me. And then he said, ';You know what would make this all complete? What would make this the best year of my life?'; and I said ';what?'; and he said ';to be married to you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you. You're the one. I've known you were the one since the moment I met you. Will you please marry me?'; and I so I said yes!
I just want mine to be soon! Haha.
no, really I don't care where it happens or even really what he says, I just think knowing that he wants to marry me will be enough to thrill me. I guess my ';perfect'; proposal though would consist of going somewhere really romantic and secluded with no one around and him getting down on one knee. I'm not much into the public dramatic proposal.
The best way to be disappointed is to zero in on a pre-conceived notion on how a certain event in your life will be.
Daydreaming about it is fine, just don't box yourself in to a point where nothing but what your imagination comes up with will do......
...Reality rarely copies imagination.
Me? I had no pre-conceived scenario so I wasn't disappointed.
Me and my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years plan on getting married one day wen financially set lol. And i would love more then anything for him to purpose to me in a goose blind ...... We go goose hunting together, he is actually a professional guide for goose hunting .. and down in the mud infront of the boys all deckd out in camo would be amazing to me ... prolley different then most lol lol
My fiance proposed at a piano bar during dinner. It was perfect.
Is the MESYAAR and ORFI marriage are authorized in the Arab Countries such as EGYPT,SYRIA,and GULF STATES?
I heared that this kind of marriage is becoming more popular between students at the University and in Libya where the husbands can't marry with a second wife unless having a written acceptance from the first wife.Does this cope with the SHREEAA?Is the MESYAAR and ORFI marriage are authorized in the Arab Countries such as EGYPT,SYRIA,and GULF STATES?
Authorized!! Of course not. They are not legal!Is the MESYAAR and ORFI marriage are authorized in the Arab Countries such as EGYPT,SYRIA,and GULF STATES?
they are not legal but they are accepted by sunnite scholars, in real islam (motazela) this is fornication, zena, just like Mutaa in shiism. but it should be wrong even in sunnism, because one of their conditions to marriage is Ishhar ( the marriage should be known by people) if it's not known by first wife and children and parents (for students) it's clear zena.
Authorized!! Of course not. They are not legal!Is the MESYAAR and ORFI marriage are authorized in the Arab Countries such as EGYPT,SYRIA,and GULF STATES?
they are not legal but they are accepted by sunnite scholars, in real islam (motazela) this is fornication, zena, just like Mutaa in shiism. but it should be wrong even in sunnism, because one of their conditions to marriage is Ishhar ( the marriage should be known by people) if it's not known by first wife and children and parents (for students) it's clear zena.
Can anybody tell me where can I get from a copy of Marriage and Morals by Bertrand Russell?
It was the most contraversial book of Bertrand Russell, which created an unprecedent hue and cry amongst intellegentia.Can anybody tell me where can I get from a copy of Marriage and Morals by Bertrand Russell?
Check out amazon.
ISBN 0415079179
Check out amazon.
ISBN 0415079179
What's the difference between ';marriage'; and ';civil unions';?
The general response of Democrats for the idea of allowing gay marriage has been to allow civil unions, but not marriage.
I am wondering what the difference is between these two? And for those of you who are gay, would what the Democrats are saying an acceptable compromise to you; or do you want specifically marriage?What's the difference between ';marriage'; and ';civil unions';?
A civil union if for people of the same sex who want to be married. That's the only difference. In the eyes of the law, they're married, but it isn't called that. It's called a civil union.
I am wondering what the difference is between these two? And for those of you who are gay, would what the Democrats are saying an acceptable compromise to you; or do you want specifically marriage?What's the difference between ';marriage'; and ';civil unions';?
A civil union if for people of the same sex who want to be married. That's the only difference. In the eyes of the law, they're married, but it isn't called that. It's called a civil union.
I would like to send marriage invitation card through mail?
Please help!
Is there any free site to send marriage invitaion card.
Please tel me the procedure to send these type of card.I would like to send marriage invitation card through mail?
use www.mywedding.com. its a free website. u can inform d place of marriage etc in it. bt i dono if u can send d inviation card thro it. y dont u scan d invitation n send via ur mail id.I would like to send marriage invitation card through mail?
Have you tried http://www.evite.com
Is there any free site to send marriage invitaion card.
Please tel me the procedure to send these type of card.I would like to send marriage invitation card through mail?
use www.mywedding.com. its a free website. u can inform d place of marriage etc in it. bt i dono if u can send d inviation card thro it. y dont u scan d invitation n send via ur mail id.I would like to send marriage invitation card through mail?
Have you tried http://www.evite.com
What happens if you lose ur passports, birth certificate, American citizenship, and marriage certificate?
See I know how important these are and was wondering what happens. So im just curious so plz answer my brain feels all weird cause i don't know how to answer itWhat happens if you lose ur passports, birth certificate, American citizenship, and marriage certificate?
Reapply. They have records, even in third world countries. My wife lost her birth certificate 3 years ago, she went back to where she was born (third world country) and got a new one. Had to pay a fine but nonethe less, she got a new one. It's going to be a hassle, but you can get new ones. Always keep a copy of everything you have. I scan all my document, burn it onto a disc and keep them in a bank safe deposite box.What happens if you lose ur passports, birth certificate, American citizenship, and marriage certificate?
You don't say which country you have lost them in... I can only answer in relation to the UK. Other countries may vary.
Report the lost documents to the local police station of the area in which they were lost in order to help prevent identity fraud. You should then notify each relevant government body to inform them of the losses. With regards to the passport you would need to contact either the passport office or the US embassy (or the embassy for whichever country relates to you). Police stations cannot hold passports as lost property due to the risk of identity fraud - they are destroyed or immediately returned to the passport office.
You can obtain copies of your birth certificate, marriage certificate etc but it will cost you. You may need a Crime File reference number (obtained by reporting the items as lost to the police) in order to cancel your lost passport etc and to re-apply. This is to avoid duplication. They will often want to know your passport number so it's always worth keeping a record of it somewhere secure, e.g. a safety deposit box at the bank.
You`re in butt load of trouble!....It`s like ''If you never had a mom %26amp; a dad, chances are good that you will never have any kids either';...But just because you would lose those 3 certificates does not mean you would lose your citizenship.Your birth is registered in State records books and so is your marriage...and your passport.
Go get copies, I am sure you know where you were born , where you were married and know where to get passports. You did not say you lost a social security card, so use it to get all these copies. If you are a American Citizen you can do it in the USA.
You have to replace then all .thats going to be quite an expensive
loss
Reapply. They have records, even in third world countries. My wife lost her birth certificate 3 years ago, she went back to where she was born (third world country) and got a new one. Had to pay a fine but nonethe less, she got a new one. It's going to be a hassle, but you can get new ones. Always keep a copy of everything you have. I scan all my document, burn it onto a disc and keep them in a bank safe deposite box.What happens if you lose ur passports, birth certificate, American citizenship, and marriage certificate?
You don't say which country you have lost them in... I can only answer in relation to the UK. Other countries may vary.
Report the lost documents to the local police station of the area in which they were lost in order to help prevent identity fraud. You should then notify each relevant government body to inform them of the losses. With regards to the passport you would need to contact either the passport office or the US embassy (or the embassy for whichever country relates to you). Police stations cannot hold passports as lost property due to the risk of identity fraud - they are destroyed or immediately returned to the passport office.
You can obtain copies of your birth certificate, marriage certificate etc but it will cost you. You may need a Crime File reference number (obtained by reporting the items as lost to the police) in order to cancel your lost passport etc and to re-apply. This is to avoid duplication. They will often want to know your passport number so it's always worth keeping a record of it somewhere secure, e.g. a safety deposit box at the bank.
You`re in butt load of trouble!....It`s like ''If you never had a mom %26amp; a dad, chances are good that you will never have any kids either';...But just because you would lose those 3 certificates does not mean you would lose your citizenship.Your birth is registered in State records books and so is your marriage...and your passport.
Go get copies, I am sure you know where you were born , where you were married and know where to get passports. You did not say you lost a social security card, so use it to get all these copies. If you are a American Citizen you can do it in the USA.
You have to replace then all .thats going to be quite an expensive
loss
What are the effect of marriage separation on the education of secondary school pupils?
this is in pursuit of the award of certificate of education for my degree program. it is necessary to help my research project topic. i shall be expecting your contributions pls.What are the effect of marriage separation on the education of secondary school pupils?
A certificate of Education , I should think would require a paper on data driven studies that support the hypothesis. I should think that a candid poll in a quasichat space would hardly qualify for such a distinction. Having said that, how would you like it as a high schooler if your parents split up?What are the effect of marriage separation on the education of secondary school pupils?
i think it allows students to look into the future more, and how they may be in that position in years to come. Most students are very thoughtful on this subject, and it is something that broadens the student's outside knowledge.
sorry if this answer is so wishy washy. im not articulate enough, so i may have missed your question.maybelline foundation
A certificate of Education , I should think would require a paper on data driven studies that support the hypothesis. I should think that a candid poll in a quasichat space would hardly qualify for such a distinction. Having said that, how would you like it as a high schooler if your parents split up?What are the effect of marriage separation on the education of secondary school pupils?
i think it allows students to look into the future more, and how they may be in that position in years to come. Most students are very thoughtful on this subject, and it is something that broadens the student's outside knowledge.
sorry if this answer is so wishy washy. im not articulate enough, so i may have missed your question.
Do you see relationships and marriage as being traped or tied down?
Even if your lover is good to you and good for you????Do you see relationships and marriage as being traped or tied down?
No. I don't have any boyfriend right now and will wait for marriage. Anyway, I don't see marriage as being trapped or tied down, but rather bound to him because of our love for one another.Do you see relationships and marriage as being traped or tied down?
IM going through my jejune years of life, Of just school. Yet it going to be ephemeral phase, so it should be beholden seeing, how it is going to be so brief.
IM not a fickle person, it can be a blessing at times. Hahah I have topped contribute in dating IM no connoisseurship in dating. It is not that IM unslightly, grotesque person, people tell me IM pulchritudinous person.
Really I chose not to date now because the possible repercussion, I don鈥檛 want to settle down young. If I got married now it is like shackles on my ankles. I want to be unconfined, be free to go as I please. I want to be young independent.
As the future yes I plan on getting married. I think when I am older I deserve the justice of a man. How has a good job like me has waited till marriage to express are love.
So yes I plan on getting married just not in my status quo for now. I don鈥檛 understand why so many rush into marriage. People look at me like I am uncanny for waiting. Well they can think as they please but if I got married now it put shackles on me.
I want to be matriculated in German, live in Austria for a couple months. IM getting sign up for German classes yet all I definitely want to time to learn German language, time well is well bestowed.
yeah their to much i want to do, i need to be alone to do it. also want to get my scuba diving license. then of course go to school.
Not at all, being with my wife has made me feel more alive than I think I ever could, she makes me feel more free and happy than anything ever could, I couldn't imagine my life without her
Not at all. Be a real man and commit to your wife. That's good for you.
No I view it as a beautiful life long commitment
yess! haha
No. I don't have any boyfriend right now and will wait for marriage. Anyway, I don't see marriage as being trapped or tied down, but rather bound to him because of our love for one another.Do you see relationships and marriage as being traped or tied down?
IM going through my jejune years of life, Of just school. Yet it going to be ephemeral phase, so it should be beholden seeing, how it is going to be so brief.
IM not a fickle person, it can be a blessing at times. Hahah I have topped contribute in dating IM no connoisseurship in dating. It is not that IM unslightly, grotesque person, people tell me IM pulchritudinous person.
Really I chose not to date now because the possible repercussion, I don鈥檛 want to settle down young. If I got married now it is like shackles on my ankles. I want to be unconfined, be free to go as I please. I want to be young independent.
As the future yes I plan on getting married. I think when I am older I deserve the justice of a man. How has a good job like me has waited till marriage to express are love.
So yes I plan on getting married just not in my status quo for now. I don鈥檛 understand why so many rush into marriage. People look at me like I am uncanny for waiting. Well they can think as they please but if I got married now it put shackles on me.
I want to be matriculated in German, live in Austria for a couple months. IM getting sign up for German classes yet all I definitely want to time to learn German language, time well is well bestowed.
yeah their to much i want to do, i need to be alone to do it. also want to get my scuba diving license. then of course go to school.
Not at all, being with my wife has made me feel more alive than I think I ever could, she makes me feel more free and happy than anything ever could, I couldn't imagine my life without her
Not at all. Be a real man and commit to your wife. That's good for you.
No I view it as a beautiful life long commitment
yess! haha
Is it a sin to make adult videos within the confines of marriage?
If, for example, we were trying to save up money and start a family. Two birds with one stone, right? It's not like we're engaging in extramarital activity..Is it a sin to make adult videos within the confines of marriage?
If it is for you, then go for it. If it's for others I think 'thou shalt not covet they neighbors wife' means you can't temp other either. If you mean a sin in a biblical sense yes, but I personally don't see the harm.Is it a sin to make adult videos within the confines of marriage?
Well, as long as you are doing it with your spouse, you probably wouldn't be violating the Bible. But, if you sell them to other people, then you would be encouraging those people to lust, which is a sin (according to some people).
As for me, I couldn't care less whether or not someone wants to make adult videos and sell them (to other adults). It's no skin off my back, and it's no skin off of anyone else's back, either. I'm just considering this from a Biblical standpoint.
This is so absurd. Of course this would be wrongdoing--we go by Social Teachings, ';the ends CANNOT justify the means.'; So, hypothetically, the monies you'd get form making a movie would be illegally and immorally sought and received. Also, the ends of the movie would not be unitive and procreative, for the unity between husband and wife would be expolited by others' viewing, and the procreative--well, you would be inhibited by the idea that others might be watching you.
I hope you never seriously considered, even, watching such a dirty thing! They are horribly immoral!
God Bless your marriage.
Are you making them for yourselves to watch or others? Odd situation but personally I would rather be with my husband than watch us with each other. Another thing to think of is what happens to these videos when you are gone? What if your children find them? Personally I think pornography objectifies the sexual act and sees it in an awful light.
tricky!!! if the husband and wife make the movie for there enjoyment only ,i would say go for it. but if your intentions are to sell them or have other people watch them i would say yes.you are causing another person other than your spouse to lust after you . and this is an absolute sin.
No problem, if it is for your own uses. If you are planning to post them online, then you would be engaging in generating lust within another fellow human being, which is a sin.
its a sin,what if it gets in the wrong hands after you die,what would peeps think!and the act of sex is holy,not to be mocked!
I guess it would determine the use for them. For money, SIN for sure. For owners personal arousal I would think not.
it would be more sensible not too, these days privacy is a global issue, i mean you wouldn't want your children ever getting access to these videos.
A BIRD IN THE HAND, IS BETTER THAN TWO IN THE BUSH
It is a sin because you are causing others to lust.
what confines you mean? Bonds?
Yes cause you testin god
if they are for your own personal use-- have at it! if not be careful.
this is hard.
yeah, I think so.
don't do it!
If it is for you, then go for it. If it's for others I think 'thou shalt not covet they neighbors wife' means you can't temp other either. If you mean a sin in a biblical sense yes, but I personally don't see the harm.Is it a sin to make adult videos within the confines of marriage?
Well, as long as you are doing it with your spouse, you probably wouldn't be violating the Bible. But, if you sell them to other people, then you would be encouraging those people to lust, which is a sin (according to some people).
As for me, I couldn't care less whether or not someone wants to make adult videos and sell them (to other adults). It's no skin off my back, and it's no skin off of anyone else's back, either. I'm just considering this from a Biblical standpoint.
This is so absurd. Of course this would be wrongdoing--we go by Social Teachings, ';the ends CANNOT justify the means.'; So, hypothetically, the monies you'd get form making a movie would be illegally and immorally sought and received. Also, the ends of the movie would not be unitive and procreative, for the unity between husband and wife would be expolited by others' viewing, and the procreative--well, you would be inhibited by the idea that others might be watching you.
I hope you never seriously considered, even, watching such a dirty thing! They are horribly immoral!
God Bless your marriage.
Are you making them for yourselves to watch or others? Odd situation but personally I would rather be with my husband than watch us with each other. Another thing to think of is what happens to these videos when you are gone? What if your children find them? Personally I think pornography objectifies the sexual act and sees it in an awful light.
tricky!!! if the husband and wife make the movie for there enjoyment only ,i would say go for it. but if your intentions are to sell them or have other people watch them i would say yes.you are causing another person other than your spouse to lust after you . and this is an absolute sin.
No problem, if it is for your own uses. If you are planning to post them online, then you would be engaging in generating lust within another fellow human being, which is a sin.
its a sin,what if it gets in the wrong hands after you die,what would peeps think!and the act of sex is holy,not to be mocked!
I guess it would determine the use for them. For money, SIN for sure. For owners personal arousal I would think not.
it would be more sensible not too, these days privacy is a global issue, i mean you wouldn't want your children ever getting access to these videos.
A BIRD IN THE HAND, IS BETTER THAN TWO IN THE BUSH
It is a sin because you are causing others to lust.
what confines you mean? Bonds?
Yes cause you testin god
if they are for your own personal use-- have at it! if not be careful.
this is hard.
yeah, I think so.
don't do it!
Did a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
It's funny how something good can come out of something so sad, me and my wife are definitely closer, we were always close but something in our marriage changed for the better during that time,
Seth.Did a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
It truly did. I think because we lost something we both were apart ofDid a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
yes..i think so..my marriage made me closer to my husband after out miscarriage..i think its just one of those things that makes u realize that life is precious and you cant take anything for granted..it makes you mare grateful for everything you do have especially the person that owns your heart..
this is not the case with most of the couples i know. you are lucky and i am happy for you.
i honestly think it would make it worse for me bc i would be super crazy emotional and not myself
Seth.Did a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
It truly did. I think because we lost something we both were apart ofDid a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
yes..i think so..my marriage made me closer to my husband after out miscarriage..i think its just one of those things that makes u realize that life is precious and you cant take anything for granted..it makes you mare grateful for everything you do have especially the person that owns your heart..
this is not the case with most of the couples i know. you are lucky and i am happy for you.
i honestly think it would make it worse for me bc i would be super crazy emotional and not myself
Did a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
It's funny how something good can come out of something so sad, me and my wife are definitely closer, we were always close but something in our marriage changed for the better during that time,
Seth.Did a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
It truly did. I think because we lost something we both were apart ofDid a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
yes..i think so..my marriage made me closer to my husband after out miscarriage..i think its just one of those things that makes u realize that life is precious and you cant take anything for granted..it makes you mare grateful for everything you do have especially the person that owns your heart..
this is not the case with most of the couples i know. you are lucky and i am happy for you.
i honestly think it would make it worse for me bc i would be super crazy emotional and not myself
Seth.Did a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
It truly did. I think because we lost something we both were apart ofDid a miscarriage bring your marriage closer?
yes..i think so..my marriage made me closer to my husband after out miscarriage..i think its just one of those things that makes u realize that life is precious and you cant take anything for granted..it makes you mare grateful for everything you do have especially the person that owns your heart..
this is not the case with most of the couples i know. you are lucky and i am happy for you.
i honestly think it would make it worse for me bc i would be super crazy emotional and not myself
Would you rather have gay marriage or universal war between multiple nations?
your kids die, you die, your husband/wife dies.... or comes back, but maimed, wounded, and just not the same person you knew. What is worse,... gay marriage or WWIII?Would you rather have gay marriage or universal war between multiple nations?
World War 3 would be worse. I don't have a problem with GAY Marriage, I figure what two gay people do with themselves is none of my business as long as it doesn't affect me in anyway.Would you rather have gay marriage or universal war between multiple nations?
The Bible says there is a time for war but i will never ever ever accept sodomite marriage
The question is irrelevant. But I would choose War. At least with war there is a reason. And as for gays. The HIV and who knows what other illnesses they cause has killed more people than war!!And the cost of health care is through the roof because of all the research that have to do to find cures for all this disease is too much!
Universal war is much more preferable, because gay is like cancer which eats away at a nation from the inside.
... Sorry, just playing devil's advocate for the conservatives there.
Institutionalizing butt piracy (gay marriage) is disgusting.
Humans do not have the capability to wage war in the ';universe'; we are kinda stuck on just this planet.
Stop watching star trek.
gay marriage
I assume this is dark satire, but I am not sure.
World War 3 would be worse. I don't have a problem with GAY Marriage, I figure what two gay people do with themselves is none of my business as long as it doesn't affect me in anyway.Would you rather have gay marriage or universal war between multiple nations?
The Bible says there is a time for war but i will never ever ever accept sodomite marriage
The question is irrelevant. But I would choose War. At least with war there is a reason. And as for gays. The HIV and who knows what other illnesses they cause has killed more people than war!!And the cost of health care is through the roof because of all the research that have to do to find cures for all this disease is too much!
Universal war is much more preferable, because gay is like cancer which eats away at a nation from the inside.
... Sorry, just playing devil's advocate for the conservatives there.
Institutionalizing butt piracy (gay marriage) is disgusting.
Humans do not have the capability to wage war in the ';universe'; we are kinda stuck on just this planet.
Stop watching star trek.
gay marriage
I assume this is dark satire, but I am not sure.
Does prop 8 include the marriage under the catholic church?
a lot of reference say that it is marriage and not marriage for gay people and w/e, but none refer to what method of marriage! is it marriage under the church, the one under hat cheap chapel in las vegas, signing papers, or petition etc. what kind of marriage is it that prop 8 stresses about? or is it just marriage in general?Does prop 8 include the marriage under the catholic church?
No.
California's Proposition 8 deals with the state's recognition of homosexual marriage.
The Catholic Church's definition of a Sacramental marriage is already independent of the state's definition of marriage.
The Catholic Church believes that God himself is the author of marriage and has created it for one man and one woman.
The Church further teaches that being homosexual is not a sin but that all single people (heterosexual and homosexual) are called to celibacy.
What civil governments decide to do is up to their citizens and the constitution of the country.
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church:
About marriage, section 1601 and following: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2s鈥?/a>
About homosexuality. section 2357 and following: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt3s鈥?/a>
http://www.catholic.com/library/gay_marr鈥?/a>
With love in Christ.Does prop 8 include the marriage under the catholic church?
';the wording is:
';marriage is a unique institution valid only between one man and one woman.';
Not even close. The full text is
';Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.';
Fourteen words of hate and phobia.
Prop 8 will not impact marriages performed in the Catholic Church. The Proposition makes it so that unmarried same-sex couples will not be able to marry in California. As the Catholic Church does not marry same-sex couples, there will be no impact.
The state can only make laws regarding civil marriage. It cannot tell the religious organizations how to conduct marriages. However, if a church limits the marriages it performs to those authorized by the state (the Catholic Church does for instance - the age of consent varies by state according to state law) then this may impact what marriages that church performs.
That said, if Prop 8 passes, same-sex couples who are married currently will remain married but unmarried same-sex couples cannot marry in California.
In theory, a church that recognizes same-sex marriages and does not require a couple's marriage to be legal under state law could still perform them. However the couple would still not be legally married in the state. What you have are two conflicting legal systems - that of the church, and that of the state. Members of a church adhere to the laws of the church and to the laws of the state they live in.
It's marriage as a secular (state) institution. When 2 people get married or divorce, it's something that involves the state - not the church, as the church doesn't recognize divorce anyway.
It's an issue of civil rights, religion has no bearing in this debate as this is not a religious issue.
Even when people choose to marry in a church, they are ';legally'; married, only because they have registered that marriage with the state. The church simply officiates the ceremony, but many marriages are not celebrated in a church, although all have to be registered with the state in order for them to be legal.
Right now, the state of California recognizes marriages between same-sex couples. However, religions are free to recognize whatever marriages they choose. Some churches recognize gay marriage while others do not. We still have religious freedom in California.
Please remember that the Catholic church still does not recognize divorces granted by the state, so they can't be forced to recognize gay marriage.
Legal marriage.
Each church/minister - will decide on their own - whether or not they want to marry two people of the same sex.
This is why it BAFFLES me that people are upset about this. It truly will not effect them. Catholics I know are saying that marriage in general will be harmed. But no same sex couple will be married in the Catholic church. So - why do they care!?!?!?
NO ON PROP 8!!!
(that's 8 with a silent H)
Namaste!!!
Marriage is a Holy Sacrament. Therefore, it cannot be defined, regulated, or even duplicated by the state.
The state can try all it wants, none of these unions are Sacramental. That is, they are not bining in the eyes of God; hence no ';real'; marriage.
yes prop 8 is stoping some gay/lesbians marriages and some churches arent going to allow those kind of marriages(im catholic and my church is voting yes)
basically its like stoping same sex marriages
the wording is:
marriage is a unique institution valid only between one man and one woman.
It doesn't strip rights away from anyone, it just reaffirms the traditional definition of marrige.maybelline foundation
No.
California's Proposition 8 deals with the state's recognition of homosexual marriage.
The Catholic Church's definition of a Sacramental marriage is already independent of the state's definition of marriage.
The Catholic Church believes that God himself is the author of marriage and has created it for one man and one woman.
The Church further teaches that being homosexual is not a sin but that all single people (heterosexual and homosexual) are called to celibacy.
What civil governments decide to do is up to their citizens and the constitution of the country.
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church:
About marriage, section 1601 and following: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2s鈥?/a>
About homosexuality. section 2357 and following: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt3s鈥?/a>
http://www.catholic.com/library/gay_marr鈥?/a>
With love in Christ.Does prop 8 include the marriage under the catholic church?
';the wording is:
';marriage is a unique institution valid only between one man and one woman.';
Not even close. The full text is
';Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.';
Fourteen words of hate and phobia.
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Prop 8 will not impact marriages performed in the Catholic Church. The Proposition makes it so that unmarried same-sex couples will not be able to marry in California. As the Catholic Church does not marry same-sex couples, there will be no impact.
The state can only make laws regarding civil marriage. It cannot tell the religious organizations how to conduct marriages. However, if a church limits the marriages it performs to those authorized by the state (the Catholic Church does for instance - the age of consent varies by state according to state law) then this may impact what marriages that church performs.
That said, if Prop 8 passes, same-sex couples who are married currently will remain married but unmarried same-sex couples cannot marry in California.
In theory, a church that recognizes same-sex marriages and does not require a couple's marriage to be legal under state law could still perform them. However the couple would still not be legally married in the state. What you have are two conflicting legal systems - that of the church, and that of the state. Members of a church adhere to the laws of the church and to the laws of the state they live in.
It's marriage as a secular (state) institution. When 2 people get married or divorce, it's something that involves the state - not the church, as the church doesn't recognize divorce anyway.
It's an issue of civil rights, religion has no bearing in this debate as this is not a religious issue.
Even when people choose to marry in a church, they are ';legally'; married, only because they have registered that marriage with the state. The church simply officiates the ceremony, but many marriages are not celebrated in a church, although all have to be registered with the state in order for them to be legal.
Right now, the state of California recognizes marriages between same-sex couples. However, religions are free to recognize whatever marriages they choose. Some churches recognize gay marriage while others do not. We still have religious freedom in California.
Please remember that the Catholic church still does not recognize divorces granted by the state, so they can't be forced to recognize gay marriage.
Legal marriage.
Each church/minister - will decide on their own - whether or not they want to marry two people of the same sex.
This is why it BAFFLES me that people are upset about this. It truly will not effect them. Catholics I know are saying that marriage in general will be harmed. But no same sex couple will be married in the Catholic church. So - why do they care!?!?!?
NO ON PROP 8!!!
(that's 8 with a silent H)
Namaste!!!
Marriage is a Holy Sacrament. Therefore, it cannot be defined, regulated, or even duplicated by the state.
The state can try all it wants, none of these unions are Sacramental. That is, they are not bining in the eyes of God; hence no ';real'; marriage.
yes prop 8 is stoping some gay/lesbians marriages and some churches arent going to allow those kind of marriages(im catholic and my church is voting yes)
basically its like stoping same sex marriages
the wording is:
marriage is a unique institution valid only between one man and one woman.
It doesn't strip rights away from anyone, it just reaffirms the traditional definition of marrige.
How do the mothers and daughters have disagreements on the topic of marriage in the Joy Luck Club?
The mothers want their daughters to marry for position, wealth, security, etc. Essentially they things that were important to them when they were of marrying age in China. The daughters wanted to marry for love -- an American priority.How do the mothers and daughters have disagreements on the topic of marriage in the Joy Luck Club?
Read the book and find out.
Read the book and find out.
How do you build the marriage hat and lei for the sims 2 castaway?
I have the white hibiscus flower, but i dont know how to make the hat and lei for my sims.
please help!How do you build the marriage hat and lei for the sims 2 castaway?
i have it too for the lei you have to have a craft bench and all the other items it lists when you go to it. same for marriage hat.How do you build the marriage hat and lei for the sims 2 castaway?
go to www.cheatcc.com great website for when you need help.
please help!How do you build the marriage hat and lei for the sims 2 castaway?
i have it too for the lei you have to have a craft bench and all the other items it lists when you go to it. same for marriage hat.How do you build the marriage hat and lei for the sims 2 castaway?
go to www.cheatcc.com great website for when you need help.
Do sociologist view same sex marriage as not a norm thing?
From a sociologist perspective, do same sex marriage break the chain in what is consider normal in society? Is there a term they used for such beliefs? This is an essay I'm writing, so I would love the help.Do sociologist view same sex marriage as not a norm thing?
1. Most contemporary sociologists recognize that there is many different kinds of families. The term family is now considered fluid, therefore always changing and inclusive.
2. Within the specialization of marriage and families in sociology, it tends to still be fairly conservative. Although most family theorists recognize that there exists multiple types of families, most studies still focus on nuclear/intact families.
3. Current studies of families note how society continues to see ';normal'; families as intact/nuclear (the norm), but sociologists acknowledge that this is the societal norm and not what they consider normal (a few still do).
4. In terms of the structure of families, same sex couples with kids would be considered blended/step families because even if they have a child, the child will not be biologically linked to both parents creating a ';step'; dynamic. The exception is adoption, where both same sex parents are not biologically linked to the child, then they could be seen as intact families (provided that neither partner has kids from a previous relationship).
4. I highly recommend that you go to you local library and check out sociology books about marriage and families. There are several available and I personally like the author Benokraitis (last name) and a book called Brave New Stepfamilies by Susan Stewart.
Good luck with your essay.Do sociologist view same sex marriage as not a norm thing?
I doubt you will find much agreement among them. If they study
the traditions of many different societies they are more open
than most of us living in our christian land.
Sorry i can't be much help.
1. Most contemporary sociologists recognize that there is many different kinds of families. The term family is now considered fluid, therefore always changing and inclusive.
2. Within the specialization of marriage and families in sociology, it tends to still be fairly conservative. Although most family theorists recognize that there exists multiple types of families, most studies still focus on nuclear/intact families.
3. Current studies of families note how society continues to see ';normal'; families as intact/nuclear (the norm), but sociologists acknowledge that this is the societal norm and not what they consider normal (a few still do).
4. In terms of the structure of families, same sex couples with kids would be considered blended/step families because even if they have a child, the child will not be biologically linked to both parents creating a ';step'; dynamic. The exception is adoption, where both same sex parents are not biologically linked to the child, then they could be seen as intact families (provided that neither partner has kids from a previous relationship).
4. I highly recommend that you go to you local library and check out sociology books about marriage and families. There are several available and I personally like the author Benokraitis (last name) and a book called Brave New Stepfamilies by Susan Stewart.
Good luck with your essay.Do sociologist view same sex marriage as not a norm thing?
I doubt you will find much agreement among them. If they study
the traditions of many different societies they are more open
than most of us living in our christian land.
Sorry i can't be much help.
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