Sunday, May 9, 2010

Christians: What is the process of marriage in your culture?

How do you get married to a girl and what do you have to do before getting married and what is your stance on divorce?Christians: What is the process of marriage in your culture?
You do not marry for the sake of being married.


First of all, when you met someone and you become infatuated with that person, this is not love. After a while the infatuation wears off and then you know whether you really love them or not. You live , eat and sleep thinking about this person and wondering what it would be like if this person left you and could you live without this person. Do you ache at not being with this person, and miss listening to them, or laughing with them, or protecting them, or just being in there company for a lifetime. Good or bad, rich or poor. You know in your heart of hearts that this is the person you have been waiting for, go for it.


As long as the other party feels the same way, you have a lifetime commitment and marriage.


BTW I should have mentioned by putting God in this marriage first then spouse, then family you have a recipe for a long enduring happy relationship, that will last a lifetime.


Divorce should not be considered, if you consider this before you get married, it will always be there and this is not why you get married. You do not go into a marriage with divorce on your mind. You must pray and work at a marriage. You don't marry thinking, if it doesn't work I''ll divorce.This dooms your marriage before you start. Very negative thinking and you don't really love this person to begin with. God bless you.Christians: What is the process of marriage in your culture?
There is no ';process'; per se. Usually two people meet, and if they like each other the guy proposes. Then there is a period of engagement, followed by a marriage if all things work out during the engagement.





Christian marriages are usually performed in Churches, although some secular people opt for a marriage before the courts. Anyway, the stance on divorce is different depending on which church you belong to. The Catholic and the, Eastern and Oriental, Orthodox Churches (which together constitute the majority of world wide Christians) do not allow divorce except for extreme circumstances like adultery, physical abuse, etc.





The Protestant Churches and some other denominations, allow divorce for other reasons, like irreconcilable differences, etc. That's about it.
Well, all Christians do not have one culture, one family system, etc.





In our family (we live in US, Georgia, but we're different! lol), if I want to marry a girl, I have to see if I really love the girl and the girl loves me too. Then I go and talk to the girl's father and ask him for his daughter's hand. Sometimes, our mom does some of the work! :)


If either one, whether the father or daughter disagrees, then it's over. No one gets married, and we respect the desicion. If the girl loves me and accepts it and the father agrees to make me her fiance, then we go on with our life, live for some time together without getting married, and then eventually, get married. The girl is usually from a family our family knows, but not always. Some of the strict no-no is no sleeping together, nothing sexual should be involved, even being nude, etc. We're a religious family, so we try to adhere to the concept of no sex before marriage. We date, we go out together, we enjoy moments together, we travel together, etc. Then marriage is done in a Church. Thats basically it! lol


Marriage is not simply taken in our family. Divorce doesn't happen just like whenever you want. We adhere to Bible marriage laws, and I dont re-call anyone in my family who had a divorce. I do not believe divoorce fixes anything at all, but instead, creates a much worse problems especially for children. Divorce is usually kept to the veeeeery last option - and that is if there is immorality or infidelity found or continuous physical or emotional abuse. Both spouses should do their part.


I know, we may sound a little different than most Americans, but not everyone has the same culture.
A Christian marriage is based on what God said, but there really isn't a Christian culture. We come from all races and backgrounds.





God is Love and wants us to know love too. He said a man and woman should come together as one. That is what a marriage is to us. We meet and get to know each other. We date, learn who each other is and if there is chemistry. We should date other Christians only since God told us to be equally yoked. We meet each other's families. We fall in love. The man sometimes would then ask the woman's father for her hand in marriage, at least we should try to get blessings from both sets of parents. My husband did...he talked with my father. Christianity does teach not to have premarital sex. We are to save ourselves for our spouses. Some Christians will get married in a church, others won't. I don't think God cares as long as we are doing it for love.





Our stance on divorce is this. God wants us to marry for life, to honor our commitment, love and vows. Divorce should not be used as an easy escape. It's used only as a last resort and only when there are specific reasons, such as adultery or abuse.
You be with your spouse and the devil is a big player for to split to divorce.


Pray and work together as a partner-forgiving all things


You and your spouse are important in oneness as God desires.


Grow up and talk less and listen mostly.


Have fun in common.


making deal can hurt, but compromise.


Try to gift given than to receives


I love you and I forgive you; Works



Marriage ~%26gt; Infidelity ~%26gt; Divorce.
christians dont have a process- they make em up as they go along and throw there stupid bible theorys at innocent and sane people...
Just kiss the Girl and she's yours till the time u don't get bored and arrange for a divorce

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