ok so I am to young to have sex, so it really isn't an issue yet, but i am christian and I am afraid that when I get a serious boyfriend and won't have sex before marriage, he'll break up with me. what are your beliefs? please don't insult me or my religion.Would you break up with someone who would not have sex until marriage?
No. I would not break up with someone who would wait until marriage. That is a very respectable thing to do. I am a christian and i had sex before marriage and I totally regret it. I am saved and walking in Christ and loving life. What you need to do and what th bible says about dating is to find some one who is walking with God at the same pace. Only date another christian. Just stay strong and in Christ. Read the bible all the time. Would you break up with someone who would not have sex until marriage?
Alright. If you believe you want to wait, DO NOT change your morals for any man. Never. Ever. Ever.
If he's going to pressure you into something like that when you don't want it, he's not worth it. Find a man that actually respects you.
I believe that you should save yourself for marriage. It's more romantic, and is safer in ways of STDs and accidentally getting pregnant.
So if you want to wait for marriage, BY ALL MEANS DO IT! It's a great belief to have, and is also the smarter thing to do.
Do not let a man tell you what to do. Ever. If he wants to lose you because you won't have sex with him, it's his loss.
Unless I was absolutely convinced she was the girl of my dreams, I would break up with her. Sex is an important part of a relationship and to get married without knowing how compatible you are and how you react to each other is like getting married without ever having seen the other person's face or never having heard their voice.
Do what's right for you. Many people who claim to be xian have no problem with premarital sex. Abstain because it's your choice, not dictated to you.
As for me, I wouldn't break up with someone who wouldn't have sex until marriage...because I'd never start dating them in the first place (or it would end when I learned their view). Of course I'm 43 so my situation is somewhat different than that of a never-married virgin.
Honey there is nothing wrong with you staying pure until marriage. Thats an awesome thing.
A guy who truly loves you will wait and he will be so glad you waited for him to be that special man!!
If a guy threatens to break up with you if you don't give in, then BREAK UP WITH HIM he isn't worth it.
if a guy dumps me bacause of that then i wont care because then i know that he only liked me bacause he wanted to have sex, not bacause he really likes me.
dont worry about what they think they are all immature until the realize that sex dosent matter.
Im asexual so I have no sex drive. I will never want to have sex :). I do love cuddling and kissing but sex doesn't intreset me. I'm worried I too will be dumped again because of this. It's already happened to me but we can stay strong. There are good people out there.
Have A wonderful sex free teenagehood. :)
It is perfectly alright for you to wait until after marriage to have sex. If your boyfriend is not willing to wait until after marriage, I think he is just not worth it.
Guess what. I am the same way. I have told myself i am not having sex till marriage. ANd if a guy breaks up with you cuz he cant get in your pants, then AHviously he isnt the right guy. A good guy should respect you AND your body.
i believe you should not have sex b4 marriage. but that was the reason i got married and it backfired. i was tired of living in sin, but i was miserable with the man i married. i hope you just wait it out. i wish i did.
if Had it to do over again i would wait till i was married if they broke up with me then guess what that means they didn't' care for me as a person or something and i would move on and find the right man.
i totally agree with what yr doin and i plan on doin the same thing! so dont give in matter what guys tell you! if he breaks up with you because you wont have sex with you then its because hes selfish and not the right guy!
It really depends greatly on the relationship.. I see sex as something that is perfectly acceptable and natural at any mature age if the love and chemistry is there.. But then I'm not Christian so I'm not sure if my opinion will matter.
If I really liked her then no, but if you are young then you can be only so impatient!
So to keep him satisfied try going as physical as possible without having sex and keep a bucket of cold water in handy! LOL
I would not stay with someone who did not want to have sex before marriage. It is my personal choice.
If you find someone who also wants to wait, more power to you!
if he really loves you for then he won't mind waiting but if he does have a problm with it then he only has sex on his mind
i would wait if the guy i loved wanted to wait until marrage.
no i would not break up with them ---- not because of religious beliefs but because the lady i care for wants to wait for whatever reason ---- be excellent to each other
I share the same beliefs with you.
sex is not everything...
if he loves you enough he will wait untill you are married before you have sex
I would advise u date a guy who is a christian
god wont condemn u to hell for sex before marriage. but if he really loves u he will wait but thats extremely rare this day and age
i am a christian too and i say who cares because if he wants to then i mean then he is soo not worth it!!
Well if they like u a whlole lot they wont mind it.
No. I would understand that he was doing it because he loved me.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
What do you dislike about marriage or married people?
attitude of superiority over non-married people,
antisocial to others, possessiveness, etc
Anyone agree sometimes? Any other aspects of marriage or married people ?What do you dislike about marriage or married people?
Yes, I agree with you. For some reason, many (not all) married people think you are beneath them because you are single. That you can't get a mate or can't get anyone to marry you. That they should be given a slack cause they have a family. Sometimes, there is a tendency to have a discrimination, like oh they can't work overtime cause they have kids so they make you work overtime. I was like ';is it my fault that you have a family to take care of?';What do you dislike about marriage or married people?
Its the same and only problem I have with Lesbians. It robs from the dating pool of available women.
actually its call commitment....married couples ,people. have a commitment to each other%26gt; . and that I LOVE and RESPECT most.
did it answer to your narrow-question
Well, I don't think I'll get married. With such a high divorce rate, I just don't see the point. The problem is nobody is willing to trust their spouse. A lot of people only get married for the benifits
What do i dislike about married people?
Well i just kind of feel like, jsut because my friend got married that things have to change on her end and we have to hang out less (or not at all) and she had a baby, so. And I dont drink either. I would like to get married too but if the relationship not goin right, the marriage wont either. Save the money and the trouble, the dresses, ..save all that for someone better.
I dont want to cook/clean for anybody either. My boyfriend already doesn't do it. I clean after him most the time. I feel like im taking care of a lil kid sometimes. And if something's wrong he wont even f uckin communicate. divorce rate is 67% in my city (or 76??) so i dont want to be a statistic either.
They have a debate as if they (know-it-all)!!
Try telling them..they r wrong and the very moment they'll snap at u!!
i won't get married
i don't want to cook for anybody and do their laundry. Marriage is not fun
Married people think they are happier but most of the time they are not. Married people tell me they wish they were single.
This is a kind of one-sided question, but I'm gonna turn the tables. I am married, and what I don't like about my single friends is that they do not understand that I have freely chosen to make a commitment, and just because I don't feel like staying out all night drinking doesn't mean I don't want to be their friend anymore. I just have better things to do than kill brain cells.maybelline foundation
antisocial to others, possessiveness, etc
Anyone agree sometimes? Any other aspects of marriage or married people ?What do you dislike about marriage or married people?
Yes, I agree with you. For some reason, many (not all) married people think you are beneath them because you are single. That you can't get a mate or can't get anyone to marry you. That they should be given a slack cause they have a family. Sometimes, there is a tendency to have a discrimination, like oh they can't work overtime cause they have kids so they make you work overtime. I was like ';is it my fault that you have a family to take care of?';What do you dislike about marriage or married people?
Its the same and only problem I have with Lesbians. It robs from the dating pool of available women.
actually its call commitment....married couples ,people. have a commitment to each other%26gt; . and that I LOVE and RESPECT most.
did it answer to your narrow-question
Well, I don't think I'll get married. With such a high divorce rate, I just don't see the point. The problem is nobody is willing to trust their spouse. A lot of people only get married for the benifits
What do i dislike about married people?
Well i just kind of feel like, jsut because my friend got married that things have to change on her end and we have to hang out less (or not at all) and she had a baby, so. And I dont drink either. I would like to get married too but if the relationship not goin right, the marriage wont either. Save the money and the trouble, the dresses, ..save all that for someone better.
I dont want to cook/clean for anybody either. My boyfriend already doesn't do it. I clean after him most the time. I feel like im taking care of a lil kid sometimes. And if something's wrong he wont even f uckin communicate. divorce rate is 67% in my city (or 76??) so i dont want to be a statistic either.
They have a debate as if they (know-it-all)!!
Try telling them..they r wrong and the very moment they'll snap at u!!
i won't get married
i don't want to cook for anybody and do their laundry. Marriage is not fun
Married people think they are happier but most of the time they are not. Married people tell me they wish they were single.
This is a kind of one-sided question, but I'm gonna turn the tables. I am married, and what I don't like about my single friends is that they do not understand that I have freely chosen to make a commitment, and just because I don't feel like staying out all night drinking doesn't mean I don't want to be their friend anymore. I just have better things to do than kill brain cells.
Is there a difference between the religious definition of marriage and the secular definition of marriage?
is there? I mean, when christians use it, they mean it as ';a union between man and woman and (something something) god';. but there's also the government definition of it, in which it's nothing except a piece of paper and a couple benefits. this, in which, atheists or other pagans could get married.Is there a difference between the religious definition of marriage and the secular definition of marriage?
Legally, no.
In any other sense, that is between the couple married and no one else. I personally find nothing sacred about my marriage. I wouldn't have gotten married at all if it weren't for the benefits. It really wasn't all that important to my husband and me. We didn't need it to be happy and committed.
Marriage to me : A union of two PEOPLE (no matter the gender), a promise to live and love together, to share their lives and trials and all legal benefits awarded to married coupled in [country/state].Is there a difference between the religious definition of marriage and the secular definition of marriage?
Religious marriage can occur between anyone, anytime, it is just a religious ceremony and has no official meaning. You could have a Christian marriage or an leprechaun marriage, it would make no difference.
Civil marriage is a union recognised by the state. That's what secular marriage could be defined as.
The secular union involves paperwork and fees.
The Christian union is spiritual and sacred as well as convenantal union between man and women when they swear before God an oath of lifelong loyalty and love to each other. It is patterned after Christ and the Church. It is a gift for intimate companionship, means for procreation, and a channel of sexual expression according to biblical standards.
My definition is ';a union between two people.';
And that is, a huge @ss difference.
Legally, no.
In any other sense, that is between the couple married and no one else. I personally find nothing sacred about my marriage. I wouldn't have gotten married at all if it weren't for the benefits. It really wasn't all that important to my husband and me. We didn't need it to be happy and committed.
Marriage to me : A union of two PEOPLE (no matter the gender), a promise to live and love together, to share their lives and trials and all legal benefits awarded to married coupled in [country/state].Is there a difference between the religious definition of marriage and the secular definition of marriage?
Religious marriage can occur between anyone, anytime, it is just a religious ceremony and has no official meaning. You could have a Christian marriage or an leprechaun marriage, it would make no difference.
Civil marriage is a union recognised by the state. That's what secular marriage could be defined as.
The secular union involves paperwork and fees.
The Christian union is spiritual and sacred as well as convenantal union between man and women when they swear before God an oath of lifelong loyalty and love to each other. It is patterned after Christ and the Church. It is a gift for intimate companionship, means for procreation, and a channel of sexual expression according to biblical standards.
My definition is ';a union between two people.';
And that is, a huge @ss difference.
Is it better to teach your child to remain a virgin until marriage or how to have protective sex?
Which has worked best for you?
Please Be honestIs it better to teach your child to remain a virgin until marriage or how to have protective sex?
ACTUALLY BOTHIs it better to teach your child to remain a virgin until marriage or how to have protective sex?
The answer should be obvious: how to have protected sex.
While it's a nice idea that you can teach them to have good values about staying a virgin until married, speaking realistically, they're probably not going to do that.
I'm a teenager, and although I have a level head on my shoulders, I know that we don't always do what our parents want us to. If my parents just told me ';Don't have sex until you're married.'; I can almost guarantee that I would have had sex by now.
Teenagers need to know what happens when they have sex; what's a myth and what's not. They need to know what birth control methods are available to them if they do become sexually active before marriage and how to use them. It's unbelievable how naive some teenagers are about sex.
It's like the whole idea of a closed door: If someone says ';don't open this door';, what's the first thing a person is going to do? They're going to open it. If you tell a child ';don't have sex until you're married';, they're going to have premarital sex.
In fact, I don't see why people even bother with trying to teach kids to be abstinent. It's a nice idea, but it just doesn't work. So you may as well teach them about condoms and birth control to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted babies. We don't need any more naive babies having babies.
In high school your consider a loser if your still a virgin by senior year. Social life less loser, at least in my school, so the whole save until marriage thing wont do much. If your a parent who has clearly not even practice what you speak (like had a child before being married or dating while divorce) then its even harder for your kids to value your opinion. So protective sex advice is a more practical one esp in the sex crazed media world we live in.
honestly, it doesnt matter what the parent believes or tells his or her kids. If they want to have sex, they will. Sure teach them whats wrong and whats right. and let them decide. even tell them, if you want to have sex, please be protected. i mean, truth is its going to happen if the parents want it to happen or not.
and most of the time the parents dont even find out. Just lay down the facts and leave it up to them.
Dont say DONT HAVE SEX, and dont say SEX IS OKAY TO HAVE.
just, leave it up to them. trust me im around high school kids 24/7
Im a jr in highschool, i myself am a virgin, and want to stay one tell marriage, but thats just me.
people are diffrent.
hope that helped.
Both...sort of. I think that you TEACH abstinence and EDUCATE about protection for when the time does come that they do become sexually active...and hope like crazy that they choose to follow your TEACHINGS and that they incorporate the education when they do.
This is what my mother did. She taught me to wait. I did...until I was 18, and the night I did lose my virginity, I asked him use a condom - which is rare from what I understand. I didn't wait until marriage...but I did wait and I did eventually marry him...and I was safe.
It went something like this...';You need to wait to have sex with the man you marry because sex is an expression of love over everything else and it should be with the man you love, not just like or feel so attracted to but LOVE...and when you find that person and do it, you need to protect yourselves against pregnancy and std's until you're ready for a baby and until you're sure and have proof (tests) that he doesn't have std's.'; Worked for me...we didn't wait until we were married but we kept ourselves protected and we did marry later.
kids are kids, and our jobs as parents is too make sure they are prepared for any and every obstacle that comes their way. It is our job to teach them about the consequences of sex and hopefully they will decide on whether they want to wait until marriage or not. We just have to make sure their educated, if we don't teach them no one else will. good luck with your decision.
Being that I'm still young, all that I can tell you that if you constantly sexually harrass your child and post pictures of nude women on his wall while he's at school, he's sure to not have sex for a long time. I'm now in my 20s, and I still don't like girls.
It's better to teach a child when and how to have sex. Kids are going to have sex. It's best to make it a safe experience for them. Also, no one should marry without a test flight or two. That's simply unthinkable.
Its a personal decision all parents have to make. Some believe in no sex until marriage and others don't. When my boys are old enough we will talk about abstinence and safe sex should he decide to have sex.
I would have to say both. Teach them about protective sex, and then tell them that it is best to wait until marriage. At least you know you done your part as a parent.
well i think both, but when it comes down to it, its always there choice if theyre going to stay a virgin or not, so its important to teach them to have protected sex
Teach them how to have sex, first. Other wise they're gonna try to do each other in the ear and what not. You don't want that. Causes lots of hospital bills.
It's better to lock your children in their rooms until marriage. That is what I am going to use when my son gets old eno...oh, wait, he's a boy. So, nevermind. Boys will be boys.
I think protective sex is more important. How many kids are waiting until they are married to have sex these days? Most kids I know aren't virgins when they enter high school.
Try teaching them to remain a virgin first, and then as they grow older you can teach them about protective sex.
Both. Neither have worked.
Protective sex obviously.
Technique and practicality always beats outdated morals.
BOTH.
I am teaching my daughter that it is better to wait, but if she doesn't I also want her to know how to protect her self.
umm...firstly this is in the wrong section...
but my mom has taught me to remain a virgin until marriage...it has
worked 'till now...
Both, but really more Protective.
Better to be safe, than sorry.
My mom taught me to abstain until I was married, AND taught me to use protection if I decide not to wait.
for me personally i was a virgin until i got married
I tried to teach both. You may want them to wait, but doesn't always happen. ***
My wife was as pure as the driven plow.
How about both, and let them make the best decision they can.
tell them to wait is best but if they feel they must, educate safe sex.
its good to teach both
Obama'08
Both
Both
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Please Be honestIs it better to teach your child to remain a virgin until marriage or how to have protective sex?
ACTUALLY BOTHIs it better to teach your child to remain a virgin until marriage or how to have protective sex?
The answer should be obvious: how to have protected sex.
While it's a nice idea that you can teach them to have good values about staying a virgin until married, speaking realistically, they're probably not going to do that.
I'm a teenager, and although I have a level head on my shoulders, I know that we don't always do what our parents want us to. If my parents just told me ';Don't have sex until you're married.'; I can almost guarantee that I would have had sex by now.
Teenagers need to know what happens when they have sex; what's a myth and what's not. They need to know what birth control methods are available to them if they do become sexually active before marriage and how to use them. It's unbelievable how naive some teenagers are about sex.
It's like the whole idea of a closed door: If someone says ';don't open this door';, what's the first thing a person is going to do? They're going to open it. If you tell a child ';don't have sex until you're married';, they're going to have premarital sex.
In fact, I don't see why people even bother with trying to teach kids to be abstinent. It's a nice idea, but it just doesn't work. So you may as well teach them about condoms and birth control to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted babies. We don't need any more naive babies having babies.
In high school your consider a loser if your still a virgin by senior year. Social life less loser, at least in my school, so the whole save until marriage thing wont do much. If your a parent who has clearly not even practice what you speak (like had a child before being married or dating while divorce) then its even harder for your kids to value your opinion. So protective sex advice is a more practical one esp in the sex crazed media world we live in.
honestly, it doesnt matter what the parent believes or tells his or her kids. If they want to have sex, they will. Sure teach them whats wrong and whats right. and let them decide. even tell them, if you want to have sex, please be protected. i mean, truth is its going to happen if the parents want it to happen or not.
and most of the time the parents dont even find out. Just lay down the facts and leave it up to them.
Dont say DONT HAVE SEX, and dont say SEX IS OKAY TO HAVE.
just, leave it up to them. trust me im around high school kids 24/7
Im a jr in highschool, i myself am a virgin, and want to stay one tell marriage, but thats just me.
people are diffrent.
hope that helped.
Both...sort of. I think that you TEACH abstinence and EDUCATE about protection for when the time does come that they do become sexually active...and hope like crazy that they choose to follow your TEACHINGS and that they incorporate the education when they do.
This is what my mother did. She taught me to wait. I did...until I was 18, and the night I did lose my virginity, I asked him use a condom - which is rare from what I understand. I didn't wait until marriage...but I did wait and I did eventually marry him...and I was safe.
It went something like this...';You need to wait to have sex with the man you marry because sex is an expression of love over everything else and it should be with the man you love, not just like or feel so attracted to but LOVE...and when you find that person and do it, you need to protect yourselves against pregnancy and std's until you're ready for a baby and until you're sure and have proof (tests) that he doesn't have std's.'; Worked for me...we didn't wait until we were married but we kept ourselves protected and we did marry later.
kids are kids, and our jobs as parents is too make sure they are prepared for any and every obstacle that comes their way. It is our job to teach them about the consequences of sex and hopefully they will decide on whether they want to wait until marriage or not. We just have to make sure their educated, if we don't teach them no one else will. good luck with your decision.
Being that I'm still young, all that I can tell you that if you constantly sexually harrass your child and post pictures of nude women on his wall while he's at school, he's sure to not have sex for a long time. I'm now in my 20s, and I still don't like girls.
It's better to teach a child when and how to have sex. Kids are going to have sex. It's best to make it a safe experience for them. Also, no one should marry without a test flight or two. That's simply unthinkable.
Its a personal decision all parents have to make. Some believe in no sex until marriage and others don't. When my boys are old enough we will talk about abstinence and safe sex should he decide to have sex.
I would have to say both. Teach them about protective sex, and then tell them that it is best to wait until marriage. At least you know you done your part as a parent.
well i think both, but when it comes down to it, its always there choice if theyre going to stay a virgin or not, so its important to teach them to have protected sex
Teach them how to have sex, first. Other wise they're gonna try to do each other in the ear and what not. You don't want that. Causes lots of hospital bills.
It's better to lock your children in their rooms until marriage. That is what I am going to use when my son gets old eno...oh, wait, he's a boy. So, nevermind. Boys will be boys.
I think protective sex is more important. How many kids are waiting until they are married to have sex these days? Most kids I know aren't virgins when they enter high school.
Try teaching them to remain a virgin first, and then as they grow older you can teach them about protective sex.
Both. Neither have worked.
Protective sex obviously.
Technique and practicality always beats outdated morals.
BOTH.
I am teaching my daughter that it is better to wait, but if she doesn't I also want her to know how to protect her self.
umm...firstly this is in the wrong section...
but my mom has taught me to remain a virgin until marriage...it has
worked 'till now...
Both, but really more Protective.
Better to be safe, than sorry.
My mom taught me to abstain until I was married, AND taught me to use protection if I decide not to wait.
for me personally i was a virgin until i got married
I tried to teach both. You may want them to wait, but doesn't always happen. ***
My wife was as pure as the driven plow.
How about both, and let them make the best decision they can.
tell them to wait is best but if they feel they must, educate safe sex.
its good to teach both
Obama'08
Both
Both
both%26lt;3
I was told that if i marry in India I will need to go back a second time to sign marriage documents.Is it true?
His family said that once we have ceremony in India i will need to go back to India a second time to sign papers. He is coming to U.S to reside with me once all processing is final.I was told that if i marry in India I will need to go back a second time to sign marriage documents.Is it true?
In India there are both Civil as well religious marriages.
The conditions necessary for both form of marriages are different %26amp; in order the marriage is legally valid these conditions have to be fulfilled.
The marriage which you purpose to do in India become legally valid in India or in USA if the proper procedure followed for the solemnization %26amp; registration of the marriage with the Indian person otherwise not only there will be problem for both of you from US immigration as well with Indian authorities.
As far going to India once or twice is concerned that depends how the marriage case is handled by the lawyer you engage in India, otherwise you can get married %26amp; register the marriage in India only during one visit only. If your guy is depending on foolish lawyer to handle the marriage case then why two times it may take many visit to India for the small matter such as this.I was told that if i marry in India I will need to go back a second time to sign marriage documents.Is it true?
Marriages in India are governed by citizenship law as well as personal law governing the religions of intending partners. So, answers can be given pointedly only if fuller details are provided.
Subject to the conditions that both of you are Hindus, intend marriage being solemnised as per religious rites, marriage after solemnisation can be registered even a couple of hours later the same day, or any day afterwards, if it happens to be a working day for the state government offices at the office of the Registrar of Hindu marriages, who usually is the sub-registrar of the jurisdiction.
So, if everything is done co-ordinatedly, say, two hours on one day only would be sufficient.
Much earlier the forms can be collected, filled in, annexures duly attached and kept ready. Copies of proof of (a) date of birth (b) photo identity card (c) Address are essential besides a copy of the marriage invitation and six ( in some states) photographs of the spouses together. Mostly people use photographs with garlands and in traditional marriage attire.
Three witnesses to the marriage are also required to be present at the office of the registrar, to sign the forms as witnesses.
Solemnises marriage can be registered at one of the three places:
(a) Place where marriage was solemnised
(b) Place of permanent residence of the husband
(c) Place of permanent residence of the wife.
In big cities, even if all the three happen to be the same city, jurisdiction of the sub-registrar will differ since there would be multiple offices. So, the most convenient one for all is to be selected.
Since the sub-registrar's office will be over-crowded on all days due to the main dominant function relating to property transactions, tradititionally some days like Tuesday or Saturday on which date fewer transactions take place, would be lean days. So the couple would not feel harassed by bureaucratic delay. It is therefore better to select such a lean day after marriage (which of course would be on an 'auspicious' day, for the purpose of registration.
The above applies subject to conditions mentioned above.
If (a) both being Hindu / (b) one or both belonging to other religion and (c) only civil marriage is sought, then under the respective enactment, notice of intended marriage has to be filed first and then actual registration after expiry of the prescribed time for inviting and disposing off objections if any.
In this case two visits to the office of the registrar can not be avoided and the time gap between the two would be 30 days + any holidays at end point.
In India there are both Civil as well religious marriages.
The conditions necessary for both form of marriages are different %26amp; in order the marriage is legally valid these conditions have to be fulfilled.
The marriage which you purpose to do in India become legally valid in India or in USA if the proper procedure followed for the solemnization %26amp; registration of the marriage with the Indian person otherwise not only there will be problem for both of you from US immigration as well with Indian authorities.
As far going to India once or twice is concerned that depends how the marriage case is handled by the lawyer you engage in India, otherwise you can get married %26amp; register the marriage in India only during one visit only. If your guy is depending on foolish lawyer to handle the marriage case then why two times it may take many visit to India for the small matter such as this.I was told that if i marry in India I will need to go back a second time to sign marriage documents.Is it true?
Marriages in India are governed by citizenship law as well as personal law governing the religions of intending partners. So, answers can be given pointedly only if fuller details are provided.
Subject to the conditions that both of you are Hindus, intend marriage being solemnised as per religious rites, marriage after solemnisation can be registered even a couple of hours later the same day, or any day afterwards, if it happens to be a working day for the state government offices at the office of the Registrar of Hindu marriages, who usually is the sub-registrar of the jurisdiction.
So, if everything is done co-ordinatedly, say, two hours on one day only would be sufficient.
Much earlier the forms can be collected, filled in, annexures duly attached and kept ready. Copies of proof of (a) date of birth (b) photo identity card (c) Address are essential besides a copy of the marriage invitation and six ( in some states) photographs of the spouses together. Mostly people use photographs with garlands and in traditional marriage attire.
Three witnesses to the marriage are also required to be present at the office of the registrar, to sign the forms as witnesses.
Solemnises marriage can be registered at one of the three places:
(a) Place where marriage was solemnised
(b) Place of permanent residence of the husband
(c) Place of permanent residence of the wife.
In big cities, even if all the three happen to be the same city, jurisdiction of the sub-registrar will differ since there would be multiple offices. So, the most convenient one for all is to be selected.
Since the sub-registrar's office will be over-crowded on all days due to the main dominant function relating to property transactions, tradititionally some days like Tuesday or Saturday on which date fewer transactions take place, would be lean days. So the couple would not feel harassed by bureaucratic delay. It is therefore better to select such a lean day after marriage (which of course would be on an 'auspicious' day, for the purpose of registration.
The above applies subject to conditions mentioned above.
If (a) both being Hindu / (b) one or both belonging to other religion and (c) only civil marriage is sought, then under the respective enactment, notice of intended marriage has to be filed first and then actual registration after expiry of the prescribed time for inviting and disposing off objections if any.
In this case two visits to the office of the registrar can not be avoided and the time gap between the two would be 30 days + any holidays at end point.
Why does the media lie and say that Dick Cheney supports gay marriage and Obama does not?
Is this worse than the lie that Obama is sending thousands of troops into Afganistan or that he has not gotten us out of Iraq yet? That he wants to hide the torture photos? Or the most devilish lie of all? That his MOTHER WAS (GASP) WHITE!?Why does the media lie and say that Dick Cheney supports gay marriage and Obama does not?
Liberals lost their connection with the reality.
The simply do not understand that when your allies are blacks and mexicans there is a heavy price to pay for that. They still think that they won. LOLWhy does the media lie and say that Dick Cheney supports gay marriage and Obama does not?
Obama is slick when he says he is for one issue to some folks, and not for something to another group. It's vote getting. The scoop Cheney is this: Read to the end and then it makes sense.
AP release today:.Cheney on gay marriage: 'Freedom for everyone'
Associated Press Writer 鈥?Mon Jun 1, 4:01 pm ET
WASHINGTON 鈥?Former Vice President Dick Cheney said Monday he supports gays being able to marry but believes states, not the federal government, should make the decision.
';I think, you know, freedom means freedom for everyone,'; Cheney said in a speech at the National Press Club. ';I think people ought to be free to enter into any kind of union they wish, any kind of arrangement they wish.';
Cheney, who has a gay daughter, said marriage has always been a state issue.
';And I think that's the way it ought to be handled today, that is, on a state-by-state basis. Different states will make different decisions. But I don't have any problem with that. I think people ought to get a shot at that,'; he said.
I get ya Bad Andy. Naughty fox news, right? LOL! You forgot though, many Obama supporters haven't the foggiest clue as to the current stance on issues you are talking about.
Expert gal proved my point. Cheney is for gay marriage on a state to state basis. He does not think that the decision should be with the federal government. (States rights and limited federal government is a pretty consistant conservative ideology). Obama has stated on many occasions that marriage should only be between a man and a woman.
Here you go expert gal (straight from the horse's mouth)...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N6K9dS9wl鈥?/a>
Think maybe Cheney's gay daughter has anything to do with it? Just saying... Does he support it? Absolutely not, and he made that clear in the past, but short of taking her hunting with him, what's he gonna do?
So should States decide on their own issues related to civil rights and race issues? No. State's rights should end where civil rights begin.
Barry doesn't support gay marriage.
http://pewforum.org/religion08/compare.p鈥?/a>
World News Daily reported today 6/2 that Obama has
declared June as Gay/Lisbian month. Put that in your
smoke and pipe it. Cheney has a gay daughter, so
naturally he would agree with it also.
seeing as obama is trying to get rid of the ';don't ask don't tell'; policy in the military, im certain he supports gay marriage.
You have not watched the news, YESTERDAY, old dickee, said that he supported gay marriage BECAUSE his daughter is GAY!
Dickee is all for himself.
it is an anti Obama conspiracy I tells ya, it is those damn no good right wingers. standing for that stuff they stand for, just who do they think they are anyhow? yeah, thats it.
What are you talking about? Cheney doesn't oppose gay marriage...he and Obama both think its a state issue. Obama supports civil unions but not gay marriage.
Cheney just wnet on TV and promoted his gay daughter
CLOWN
his mother was white
ha haha h
GET A BRAIN
ha hahahhahaha
Why? Because you have your facts mixed up. Dick Cheney DOES support gay marriage. His daughter is gay.
Dick Chaney does support Gay marriage but he wants the states to control it.!~!
I'm sorry...Obama's mother isn't white?
You know that CNBC,CNN, NBC,ABC,CBS and HLM doesn't lie
They have an agenda.
The media wil always have its range of slander, Just be thankful we do not live in the UK,... -Obama is mixed.. how the hell did you not know this!?!
Is that satire?
Liberals lost their connection with the reality.
The simply do not understand that when your allies are blacks and mexicans there is a heavy price to pay for that. They still think that they won. LOLWhy does the media lie and say that Dick Cheney supports gay marriage and Obama does not?
Obama is slick when he says he is for one issue to some folks, and not for something to another group. It's vote getting. The scoop Cheney is this: Read to the end and then it makes sense.
AP release today:.Cheney on gay marriage: 'Freedom for everyone'
Associated Press Writer 鈥?Mon Jun 1, 4:01 pm ET
WASHINGTON 鈥?Former Vice President Dick Cheney said Monday he supports gays being able to marry but believes states, not the federal government, should make the decision.
';I think, you know, freedom means freedom for everyone,'; Cheney said in a speech at the National Press Club. ';I think people ought to be free to enter into any kind of union they wish, any kind of arrangement they wish.';
Cheney, who has a gay daughter, said marriage has always been a state issue.
';And I think that's the way it ought to be handled today, that is, on a state-by-state basis. Different states will make different decisions. But I don't have any problem with that. I think people ought to get a shot at that,'; he said.
I get ya Bad Andy. Naughty fox news, right? LOL! You forgot though, many Obama supporters haven't the foggiest clue as to the current stance on issues you are talking about.
Expert gal proved my point. Cheney is for gay marriage on a state to state basis. He does not think that the decision should be with the federal government. (States rights and limited federal government is a pretty consistant conservative ideology). Obama has stated on many occasions that marriage should only be between a man and a woman.
Here you go expert gal (straight from the horse's mouth)...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N6K9dS9wl鈥?/a>
Think maybe Cheney's gay daughter has anything to do with it? Just saying... Does he support it? Absolutely not, and he made that clear in the past, but short of taking her hunting with him, what's he gonna do?
So should States decide on their own issues related to civil rights and race issues? No. State's rights should end where civil rights begin.
Barry doesn't support gay marriage.
http://pewforum.org/religion08/compare.p鈥?/a>
World News Daily reported today 6/2 that Obama has
declared June as Gay/Lisbian month. Put that in your
smoke and pipe it. Cheney has a gay daughter, so
naturally he would agree with it also.
seeing as obama is trying to get rid of the ';don't ask don't tell'; policy in the military, im certain he supports gay marriage.
You have not watched the news, YESTERDAY, old dickee, said that he supported gay marriage BECAUSE his daughter is GAY!
Dickee is all for himself.
it is an anti Obama conspiracy I tells ya, it is those damn no good right wingers. standing for that stuff they stand for, just who do they think they are anyhow? yeah, thats it.
What are you talking about? Cheney doesn't oppose gay marriage...he and Obama both think its a state issue. Obama supports civil unions but not gay marriage.
Cheney just wnet on TV and promoted his gay daughter
CLOWN
his mother was white
ha haha h
GET A BRAIN
ha hahahhahaha
Why? Because you have your facts mixed up. Dick Cheney DOES support gay marriage. His daughter is gay.
Dick Chaney does support Gay marriage but he wants the states to control it.!~!
I'm sorry...Obama's mother isn't white?
You know that CNBC,CNN, NBC,ABC,CBS and HLM doesn't lie
They have an agenda.
The media wil always have its range of slander, Just be thankful we do not live in the UK,... -Obama is mixed.. how the hell did you not know this!?!
Is that satire?
What will happen at ';individual'; marriage counseling?
Today we had our 5th couples counseling session. The counselor said that the next step is to meet with us individually, so we both made appointments for next week. Can anyone tell me what to expect... what will she want from me... and what is she likely to ask my wife?
The issues are related to sex and intimacy... I complain of not getting enough, and my wife complains about me in general.What will happen at ';individual'; marriage counseling?
Yes, the therapist will expect you to state all the reasons why you are solely at fault for the sexual downfall of your marriage...........I'm not sure what will happen at your wife's appointment......maybe she'll discover her inner-robot.....LOL.....I feel for you man, I really do.................................What will happen at ';individual'; marriage counseling?
they separate you to make you feel safe to tell the truth, anything that you wouldn' say in front of each other you are free to say in these sessions
most likely she'll ask both of you the same questions
primarily questions about past sessions, going into futher detail about events as well as your feelings during events, and you'll talk about your feelings towards these couseling sessions as well (if you think its going well or not, etc...)
They will try to see what the heck is wrong with both of you. It seems like she is unattractive to you so she will be asked why and you will be asked about your habits. Then, a conclusion will be made and you will work it out based on the recommendations.
I wish I can be there!!! Let us know the outcome!!
She'll talk to you about things you may not be able to talk to your wife about yet.....or things you may not want your wife to know yet.
It's a safe place to be open and honest.....so do that.
My wife %26amp; I see our councilor separately.
It give you a chance to be honest about the way you feel about things without the wife there.
Get down to the personal juicy stuff.
The issues are related to sex and intimacy... I complain of not getting enough, and my wife complains about me in general.What will happen at ';individual'; marriage counseling?
Yes, the therapist will expect you to state all the reasons why you are solely at fault for the sexual downfall of your marriage...........I'm not sure what will happen at your wife's appointment......maybe she'll discover her inner-robot.....LOL.....I feel for you man, I really do.................................What will happen at ';individual'; marriage counseling?
they separate you to make you feel safe to tell the truth, anything that you wouldn' say in front of each other you are free to say in these sessions
most likely she'll ask both of you the same questions
primarily questions about past sessions, going into futher detail about events as well as your feelings during events, and you'll talk about your feelings towards these couseling sessions as well (if you think its going well or not, etc...)
They will try to see what the heck is wrong with both of you. It seems like she is unattractive to you so she will be asked why and you will be asked about your habits. Then, a conclusion will be made and you will work it out based on the recommendations.
I wish I can be there!!! Let us know the outcome!!
She'll talk to you about things you may not be able to talk to your wife about yet.....or things you may not want your wife to know yet.
It's a safe place to be open and honest.....so do that.
My wife %26amp; I see our councilor separately.
It give you a chance to be honest about the way you feel about things without the wife there.
Get down to the personal juicy stuff.
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