You're probably just a chub. Lose some weight and he might get interested again. How do i fix my marriage?
First check if he is telling the truth. Are you being negative with him frequently. It is not fair to consider if he is cheating before considering if he is telling the truth. It is not romantically inspiring to come home to your wife and hear her complaining about her day, scolding the children, complaining about her friends, etc. And if you are actually being negative about him that makes it worse.
If you are sure you are not being negative, then look at him and try to figure out what is making him unhappy. You married him hopefully because you love each other, you should try to help him. Look for proof of cheating if you want, but until you find it, try to help him be happy.
If you are being negative:
I am not saying you shouldn't share how you feel with him. Just make sure you are saying twice as many positive comments as negative ones. (BTW this even more true when talking to your kids if you have them) Also try to complain about things, not about him example: instead of ';You burnt the toast'; say ';The toast is burnt, but it's ok it happens.'; (and then eat it anyway because you love him) He knows he burnt it, and will try not to do it next time. It doesn't seem like much but after several ';you did...'; comments a day it adds up.
When we go outside to talk to new neighbors or strangers we always bend over backwards to be friendly pleasant people, that anyone would want to be around. Then when we are with the people we love, who we should be treating the nicest, we stop feeling the need to be as friendly. We are all guilty of this from time to time. Ask youself if you are more positive to your neighbor, bankteller, waiter, cashier than to your husband, if you are, fix it.
Just my opinion though.
COMMUNICATION!!! it's what most marriages lack, ask him what you could do to make this work,ask him how you could make him happy, and try your best to fulfill these things, if he's expressed to you that he's not happy and he's not sleeping with you then most likely he's sleeping with someone else,
One piece of information you didn't give is how you've been negative or at least how he thinks you've been negative. A little hard to answer this one.
What exactly are you negative about? Negativity can bring down everyone around...cut it out!
Are you so negative all the time? This seems to be a key point here.
You need to have more trust. Open yourself up to him. That's probably all he want.
Go to counseling, even if your husband doesn't want to go.
thats disgusting....and not good that he says that....is he seeing someone else? Im getting alot more than that... tell him to open up and ask him right out what is wrong..
not happy is a severe problem and it should be be fixed before he does cheat
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