Why would wife go back to abusive ex{every aspect} to vent feelings and bash me and our marriage?

Thand we ex-boyfriend abused her sexually,emotionally,mentally,and physiclly.Wrecked her life prior to our marriage and was a major thorn in our marriage due to my stepdaughter.My wife would put up half assed personal bounderies with this guy throughout our marrige,just to have them walked all over.Question if she slept with him?Why would wife go back to abusive ex{every aspect} to vent feelings and bash me and our marriage?
I can't tell you if she slept with him from the information you provided, but abusive people are very controlling and she may have felt that she just couldn't cut the ties and still be safe. Why would wife go back to abusive ex{every aspect} to vent feelings and bash me and our marriage?
The fact that she still has contact with him may be a concerning factor. Because he abused her the way he did, don't you think that she is frightened of him and only doesn't stand up to him because of this.


I was abused for 7 years pretty much the same way as your wife, but I am lucky enough not to have to contact my ex, but just the thought of seeing him again sends shivers down my spine. I am terrified of him, so think about how she feels. Maybe she doesn't want to stir the pot, only she knows what presses his buttons because she was on the receiving end of his psychotic behaviour.


The other thing you need to consider is, he has scarred her for the rest of her life, it is very hard for others to understand what you go through when you have been in this situation. When they are abusing you, they are conditioning your mind and you don't even know it. They know how to manipulate you and they usually use fear to do it.


You need to understand where she stands with this, don't you think she would love to feel secure enough to say what she really thinks to him. Maybe he still has her frightened.





Talk to her about it.



Depending on her youth,%26amp; how she was raised,she may be addicted to abuse,%26amp; feel it's a normal way of life.I suggest counseling for both of you,or your lives may always be surrounded by the exes negative energy.Also,was their child a victim of abuse also ? BOL to you.
some women like that abuse.. really, they say they dont, but a guy could come along and give them the world, and they would cheat on them with the one that but beat them in the last relationship.. i see it all the time.. i am sorry but that thought would always be in my mind.. i have been there...
A lot of abused women blame themselves for the abuse so she may not put the blame where it belongs. It sounds like there is still some attraction between them. Whether or not she is sleeping with him, her relationship with him is bad for all involved.