Genuine comments please.Do you have the control on your happiness in marriage?
my husband does special things just to put a smile on my face. oneday he came home from work and said ';this is your night, whatever you want to do we'll do';. meaning we could eat at home or go out to dinner ';the restaraunt of my choice';, the movie of my choice, i chose what time we went to bed, everything';. he also often wakes up before i do runs to starbucks and wakes me up with coffee. you can just tell he likes to please me, it also makes me happy when he's willing to sit for hours on the back deck talking. most men don't like to have deep conversations but he will do it with me. we know eachother on such a deep emotional connection. some of the things he does that makes me unhappy is he always thinks he's right, and he thinks everything HAS to be fair. i agree their should be compromise and fairness but if i ask him to do this dishes he intentially asks me to do the laundry or take the trash out just so he's not the only one having to do something. but by far the happiness over weighs the unhappy moments.Do you have the control on your happiness in marriage?
Though I am not married yet, I think, happiness within Marriage is two way street. but at same time personal happiness begins with if you are at peace with your self first. trying to see other persons point of View and accepting them as they are can be most rewarding. Doing things to make each other happy. If there is things that makes you or your partner unhappy than there is polite way to say it or discuss it or point out things and both should be willing to work toward it. Marriage is give and take. if you love yourself enough you are able to love others same. Biggest thing never to do is do not point out partners shortcomings infront of others, or critisize them infront of others. Nothing is humiliating and damaging emotionally than being scolded infront of toehrs. mutal respect for each others diginity should always be there. differences should be discussed in privacy.
No. If u love ur partner, then their happiness/unhappiness, rubs off on u too. It's vice versa too. My ex loved to hurt me anyway he could. He liked to see me in pain. I know this because I'd hold his hand n he'd squeeze my fingers a bit too tight n I'd say ';ouch';, n he'd snicker! He'd get mad at me for stresing him out n kick my butt, n when I'd say ouch, he'd call me a liar n do it again. His parents would laugh.
Prior to marriage he made me happy. Calling me on the phone(long distance), paying for lunch when we were together, walking with me places to make sure I dont get lost or something. Even at times afterward, he'd watch out for me when we were in public. Guess he got tired of that. He knew my needs n atlaest for the first week of our marriage...took care of them. Guess he got tired of that too.
only you are responible for your own happiness, I found this out the hard way.
If you have good communication you can find this out before it is too late , therefore my answer is good communication. Talk talk talk to eachother.
i am not married soi haeno experiene
makes me happy when he doesnt fart
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