If there is no love in a 20 years marriage (due to mental problem of wife), should I stay and start a new life

Why?If there is no love in a 20 years marriage (due to mental problem of wife), should I stay and start a new life
This is one of these damned if you do and damned if you don't questions. No one but you is to answer for what you do. It is your conscience that shall have to answer in the end.





I go by the policy of living with no regrets -- even if the choice is eating a rock.





I had an uncle in the situation you describe -- he managed to live out his life in this most terrible situation. He managed to give the wife the mental care and hospitalization she needed.





Instead of starting a new life, he was happy with his daughter, the rest of his family, and with his other relatives -- and, soccer.





So get into something heavily, chess, soccer or whatever.





Whatever you do, be sure that you live so as to forever be without regrets! (as in later in life -- I wished I had done this or that)If there is no love in a 20 years marriage (due to mental problem of wife), should I stay and start a new life
It's also a philosophic question, people. Socrates philosophized about his Xantippe, btw.





Sir, try reading ';Soul Mates and Twin Flames,'; Elizabeth Clare Prophet, and ';Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon,'; O. M. Aivanhov; they provide some useful perspectives and thoughts.





Also, do give 1-800-232-6459 http://www.family.org free, licensed counselors a ring, M-F business hours. They have much experience and insight, and are able to provide resources and local help.





1-800-52-LOVE http://www.klove.com is also good.





Two things on your side are time, and patience. The situation didn't happen overnight, and e.g. you can afford to listen to what the folks at family.org might provide in the way of good advice.





God's love be with you.
What you should do is post this question int he correct section





psych


or marriage
This is a question you should talk over with a therapist or counsellor. There is no quick easy answer. Obviously there is a reason you have stayed in the relationship. Find a professional who can help you work through this situation and come to a decision that is right for you.
yeah you posted in the wrong category.





well anyway, my answer is yes.


marriage is a commitment, is a covenant. you can't abandon your wife because she is mentally ill.
i think you stated your own answer by saying ';there is no love in 20 yrs';...
Are you happy? Is she? If the answer is no, then you should NOT stay! I gave up 18 years of my life to a man with mental, drug, alcohol problems..and I regret having stayed so long. I wish so much I would have made the decision to leave sooner. You have only one life to live...why spend it unhappy and unfilled and not loved? Love is so important, and everyone deserves to be loved. If you've given your best to her, feel good about that, and move on. I started a new life, and now I am better for the world, and everyone around me!! I can contribute and function now...you can continue to love her, care for her, and help her...but you donot have to stay married and miserable to do that. As a matter of fact, you might be able to give her more if you were free and whole again. Cut the dead weight.