Has anyone had a positive result when they really believed their marriage was over?

I had recently almost given up on our marriage. It was not a healthy place to be for me, living with an abusive man. Recently my husband opened up and he had a very emotionally barren childhood, so I went in search of help. I found a website giving advise to couples where one of them could have a personality disorder, which is what I thought my husband might have developed. I have used some of the tactics and so far, so good.....Has anyone had a positive result when they really believed their marriage was over?
Hopefully it works out. But remember, having a rotten childhood isn't an excuse to be abusive. He'll never change those spots. But as long as you feel you can make things better, more power to you.Has anyone had a positive result when they really believed their marriage was over?
What is your husband doing to get help? Why isn't he the one looking up what is wrong with him or how to fix it? I think that is what will determine whether you can make it out of this time together okay or not and heal from it.


He has to want to. Opening up about it is a good first step, but there are lots of steps to come after that and if he isn't the one taking them, you guys will go nowhere.
I grew up next door to my grandparents who would babysit me every day cause both of my parents worked. My grandfather was a mollester and when that wasn't going on my grandmother would lock me in the closet for hours at a time for ';being loud'; for playing really. I was supposed to just sit there quietly all day. Anyway I have a personality disorder and I am married and have 2 kids and never abused anyone. Its a completely B.S. excuse! sorry.
i would like to have the name of that web site.i don't think tho that i'm gonna try to fix it this time. i am so numb i really don't care anymore.i want to get out now and get out alive but its takeing some very careful planing.i'm glad you fixed yours but my husband don't want any help.he sees nothing wrong even when he beats the hell out of me he says it cause i ask for it.like i said i'm glad you fixed yours%26gt;%26gt;
Excellent!





That hasn't happened to me, but I know other couples that it happened to. I'm glad you were open to hear when your husband finally let down his guard and shared with you.





I'm glad things are working out for you.
Um, no. Personally, with physical abuse there are NO second chances. Pathetic excuses people give for their bad behavior doesn't not fly with me. The odds of your spouse assaulting you again are also extremely high.
That 's great, good luck.