It depends what went on in the marriage and why you divorced, if he cheated then I would get over that really quickly as he would have been a scumbag.
If he was a control freak and either physically or verbally abusive then I would say a long long time.
Scars from this kind of treatment can stay with you forever, I had a physcially and verbally abusive marriage and 2 kids, I divorced him but he fought all the way and stalked me with violence etc.,
I am still today not really over it even though I have met a wonderful man that I am engaged to, I look for reasons for him not to be with me as I dont have any self worth.
I am confident but love has made me need to trust and thats the hardest thing.How long does it take to emotionally get over a long marriage after getting divorced?
depends on how long you were together and how you felt when you got the divorce. If you have already given up on the marriage and have already started dating and wating to be with others then it shouldn't be that long. However, if you were madly in love and didn't want the divorce and you did it because of a major problem ( cheating, lieing, something very deceiving ) it will take the same amount as a regular relationship.
But since you are asking i am guessing that you haven't exactly moved on completely. So give it sometime. Marriage is a bid deal and an even bigger deal to move on from.
Maybe talking to a therapist may help. SInce you said you were married for a long time.
It's different for everyone and greatly depends on the circumstances that lead to the divorce.
But I would suggest giving yourself at least a full year following a separation/divorce before getting into a serious relationship.
Aside from the emotional pain and baggage that a person can have when a long term relationship ends, it may also take time to feel comfortable with yourself as an single individual, rather than part of a married couple.
Actually I was over it about a year before I left. I had to finish up financial things before I could go. By a month before I left, I was ready to run.
I'm sure he noticed a change in me because I quit fighting with him. I didn't care, I ignored him, I was so over it. I couldn't wait to get out.
Edited to add - We were married 12 years.
There is no magic number, it takes time. It really all depends on many factors such as... how long the marriage was, who broke it off, under what circumstances was it broken off, are there children involved, the age of each spouse, etc. I'd say if it's buggin you, go talk to someone about it, maybe a professional.
It depends on how long the marriage and it depends on the person. Sometimes you can be over it before or just a short time after the divorce. But other times it can be long and painful process, especially if you weren't the one that wanted the divorce.
Now if you do not have any children,the more you sociialize it'll be faster
well i really cannot answer your question just like that,if your still seeing your ex or if your still having any phyisical contact with your ex than it'll be just a drag.Do you have any children in the first place.Let me know how old are you,if its o.k with you n we'll take it from there. Hope to hear from you soon,Bye!
There is no time limit to heal from emotional pain, but hopefully you are occupying your time and thoughts with constructive things to allow you to move on!
without therapy might take rest of your life
with therapy might take 5 years
it depends how able you are to forgiven others and yourself
I was over my marriage before I even left..but I gave it the old college try before I gave up on it :P
As long as your hi or low self esteem/worth lets it!
Hi esteem...........real quick
Low esteem..........FOR EVER!
Sorry to say this but it's always there. Be strong and learn from it.
if you have feelings for the person still, never
I don't think you ever truly get over it...but things do get better with time.
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