Has your marriage suffered since the birth of your baby? How are you coping?

I feel like my fiance is more focused on his (our) new business than he is his family. When he does have free time he doesn't seem to want to do anything except watch tv. He isn't that interested in sexing me. I feel lonely and unattractive. And sometimes he yells at me and calls me a f-ing ***** (he always apologizes later) when he is stressed out. I'm a stay at home mom (I also work on the biz.) If we break up - I have to move out because it's his house. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me PLEASEHas your marriage suffered since the birth of your baby? How are you coping?
Being stressed out is no excuse for being abusive. You are in a verbally abusive relationship and you guys need to get therapy. He needs to be more supportive of you even if he feels burdened by the responsibility of being a father, a partner and a businessman.Has your marriage suffered since the birth of your baby? How are you coping?
he should never call you that- and just because he apologizes afterwards DOES NOT MAKE IT OK!
He yells at you and calls you (expletive) names when he is stressed out? Sounds like you are in an abusive relationship.





If you were married, you could get a divorce and be entitled to half the house and half the business. Either way, if this does not work out, he must pay you child support.





Anyway, you both need counseling to help improve your marriage and your relationship. He needs to stop being abusive. I hope you will make an appointment with a therapist or counselor or marriage counselor. Don't wait. Good luck!
Ive felt like this before. Its sucks that we feel that we need our husbands to make us feel worthy of anything. What i did to help myself feel better is i joined a gym. It has a free nursery fo up to 2 hours a day while i work out. It gives e a chance to get out of the house and do something for ME, since I too am a SAHM. I started to get back into shape and started feeling better and looking better. It gave me a little break from doin the mom thing and gave my daughter a chance to play with other kids. And this way, i was doing something to make MYSELF fel good rather than sitting around and waiting for my husband to do it! Good luck girl...hang in there!
A baby always changes a relationship because instead of focusing on you and this person you love you have have to make it about the baby and than you. After my son was born my husband and grow apart before the baby never fought and here we were fighting over stupid stuff.. I think you should try maybe setting a date night once a week and also a family night or family time and see how that goes. It takes time to adjust to changes.Don't lose hope yet.
I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering from abuse... Verbal abuse is no joking matter especially at a critical time like this one. You have went through mental and physical anguish for nine months.... Usually a baby changes a relationship in a positive way but sometimes there are some negative changes... I may be way out of line here... how did he treat you before you got pregnant? How did he treat you while you pregnant? Did you guys have sex during pregnancy? Like I said I may be out of line here but if you can sit there and can't remember him treating you well during the pregnancy, something may have happened during the past nine months.... He may have drifted if you know what i mean.... A baby is more important than a new business... He shouldn't put out his frustration on you.... being a stay at home mom is a full time job! you are pulling a overtime!!!! anyway~ There could be other things too, do you keep the house up... do you cook for him... set aside one night a cook his favorite meal and talk to him. Tell him how you feel and if he doesn't want to listen well... you may need professional help.... Good luck honey! I'm pulling for ya!
I agree with the other replies--Just because he is stressed out--he has no excuse to curse at you--and this is only the beginning--as the baby grows--believe me--you will have plenty of more stressful--as well as joyful, of course--moments--and it is important hat both parents work together to parent the child in the best possible way--if your finacee cannot even handle a newborn--I would be careful about entering into a marriage with him--Counseling would be great--





Also--talk to him about why he is so stressed out--maybe he feels the baby has replaced him--Read books on new parents, etc...and find out about male psychology related to being a new father--





Again--whatever is going on--do not let him think it is okay to verbally abuse you--IT IS NOT OKAY...
First of all your fiance should be doing his share of taking care of your new baby. Throw the tv out for now, life is different, bear with it. Schedule some time for you before you get too stressed. Name calling has no place in this situation. Please donot undermine being a stay at home mom, that is work in it self and you are not getting paid for it. You guys need to sit down and have a family meeting so that you know what the goals of the family is, who is going to be responsible for what. The business may have to take a back burner for now until the baby gets older.
u are better than those names give him one chance try consoling words are a form of abuse !!!! if he ever lifts a hand leave at once


u cant be happy under those conditions therefor u cant be the best mom poss able under that roof
My husband left when my little one was 5 months old. I really enjoy life now, I don't need to clean up his mess, deal with his moodiness, consider him in everything I do....etc etc. Life is great. My baby and I are extremely happy together, and really close. I got to work careful with money, as I only work part time, but that's the least thing to worry about, and don't stop me from expierencing joy every day of my life. Don't put up with someone treating you in the wrong way. Tell him it's either good or gone! You don't have to put up with it for fear of going alone. Good luck.
Starting a new business is very stressful, and being a stay at home mom for the first time, is also very stressful! Tell him how you feel, and if he does not want to work things out for both of you, then you need to move on. It is what is best for everyone. You have a little one to think about now.