Why does marriage ruin couples love for eachother?

is it the marriage contract or the fact that ur living together ? which one ruins it more and why?Why does marriage ruin couples love for eachother?
Marriage hasn't ruined my love for my wife. But I think a lot of people:


1. Don't understand what they're getting into. They think it's like a continual date, when it's more like a business partnership with your best friend.





2. They don't think about the vows they're making. Read the vows slowly and think about what they actually MEAN.





3. They're not really devoted to each other. Devotion means I do my best for YOU, not ME. I give you the biggest piece of cake; I help you with your work; I put up with your moods because you put up with mine, etc.Why does marriage ruin couples love for eachother?
Firstly please ignore the reply from the person called ';Doesn't M';


What a irresponsible person, and totally out of order.


He needs reporting.





Back to you; Marriage should not ruin a couples love for each other if they have respect, honesty, and love for each other, and give each other space to be individuals in their own right. It is so important to make time for each other after getting married to keep the passion, and romance alive, as its so easy to take people for granted. If you give each other respect,. ie you have time together as a couple but also time to go out with your own individual friends. Respect and Trust is what it is all about and being open and loving.


If you have a friendship as well as love, then you will have no problem


Are you writing about your experience, or someone Else's ?
Marriage itself doesn't ruin a couple's love for each other. It's the people in the marriage that ruin it. a great relationship doesn't just happen. It takes work and planning, just like a vacation, getting a new job or anything else that needs planning. That's why first marriages sometimes fall apart. What do you expect from a spouse and what does he/she expect from you? If one doesn't meet the other's expectations, then there is an inbalance. True love grows as time passes in the marriage. You have to be concerned for each other's needs, be willing to communicate, compromise, and be committed. After the honeymoon part of the marriage is over, that's when the true test of love starts. Many spouses don't understand that they have to change, grow up, and be willing to think of someone else besides themselves. You can't be selfish and want your own way all the time. People that are that way are the ones who ruin their marriages. It's not the piece of paper or marriage itself that ruins everything. :It's people who have no clue of the beauty of marriage and what it means. These are the people who give marriage a bad name. As for living together, there is no committment. you don't have to grow up and become a caring human being. You can leave anytime you want and to hell with the other person. that's what living together is.
Sweetie , Marriage doesn't ruin couples love , people do ..


When you fall in love , and want to marry , its because you ';love ';


one another , Right ?When you start living together , you see each


other in a different way , their faults , they don't seem like the person you dated , or the one that you married ..


Marriage has to be worked on , both have to make changes , adjustments , for it to work , it takes time for a marriage to mature


but you both have to be willing to allow it to ..


If you both still feel love for one another , take the time to adjust to


realize that you and your husband can form a bond between you.


Give it time , and don't let go , '; Love'; my dear is a gift , and if you find it once your Blessed , to find it again , well lets just say your lucky ..


Im an older woman , never found it after my first marriage ..


So hold on , the ride might seem impossible now ,but given the chance it will be the ride of your life , Hang on ..
Isabella,


Marriage is not what what ruins a couples love for each other. Marriage is something that couples go into half a*s some times. People don't think it through or get the true meaning of marriage! You have to know that you have found the person you wan to spend the rest of your life with. To stand by through everything and not just throw in the towel when things get rough! Marriage has nothing to do with a couples problems! Things might get worse for a couple after they are married but they problem didn't come from the marriage.
Marriage doesn't ruin love - life does. People are not prepared when they get married how hard it is to face all the daily issues that are involved. When you are single you handle them separately there is no need to compromise and no need to discuss financial issues. My soon to be ex husband told me that marriage should be way easier than this so it must be my fault its hard. People just don't get it.
Enough time with anyone changes your perception. If you came home and he/she was kidnapped and found dead 2 months later would you forever long to see their face again, every day? Sometimes I get sick of my wife and her to I as well but when the S#@T really hits the fan in life we need each other big time. Being alone is a disease and a lie that you should never have to experience again.
Marriage doesn't ruin love....Too many people think that love is all you need for a successful marriage. They find out soon enough it is not. Believing that love alone will make a marriage work is what ruins the relationship.
Marriage brought my husband and I closer together if anything than when we were dating. Marriage might change the passionate type of love a little but love changes over time anyway. It shouldn't lessen, just deepen and shift in different ways.
Its not the marriage. I think people blame marriage but its really their fault. People should step up and take responsibility. I know plenty of people who are still happily married. I think that some couples are stronger then others.
I don't think it's the act of getting married. I think it's the act of taking each other for granted. Treating each other badly, because you think that they will always be there.
its not supposed to it doesnt you simpley werent made for eachother if you no longer have true love in ur heart for them but letting go requires some love to so i dont know
Neither one ruins real love.
No. But having a baby does