Have you been or know somebody who has been to marriage counseling?

My husband and I start going next week. What do I expect? Did it work for you?Have you been or know somebody who has been to marriage counseling?
My wife and I have been going for 4 months. About 7 times together and 2 times alone. We have been married for 12 years and we have 2 kids 8 %26amp; 10.





The counseling helped a little bit but so far I'm not sure it fixed anything. It mainly did 2 things: 1. I agreed to act like everything was ok and not be all upset every day. 2. It made me feel better because now a professional was involved and i didn't have to worry that it was all my fault or i wasn't doing enough.





I recommend going, but don't expect that it will solve the problems. I suggest that you try and be honest, neutral, and patient. The real problems will work themselves out on your own time back at home. It may take a long time. I will be happy if my wife and I are ok in a year. At this point i don't know what will happen.





At the first session the counselor will ask basic questions and get to know you. It won't be too serious about the actual issues yet. The 2nd and 3rd sessions get into the real issue in more detail.





Good luck. Email me if you have any other questions.Have you been or know somebody who has been to marriage counseling?
We did pre-marital counseling. It really helped with our communication skills. The counselor is really there as a neutral party to help you do the work as a couple.





You may have to try more than one counselor to get one that works for you. They're only human and therefore subject to their own points of view. We got lucky with our counselor, but my friends had to switch because their counselor kept making issues out of something that was NOT an issue in their marriage.
I have been when me and my husband were much younger. We had some problems in our sex life. It turns out that I really had a problem and the therapist really did help me. I think the most important thing I can tell you is to be open minded and as honest as you can possibly be. If you don't open your mind and tell them the truth, they can't really help you. You have to do exactly what they tell you. They are trained to help you so really try.


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No but good luck! I went to premarital counseling and it helped. I'm sure it will help because it enables you guys to communicate in a safe environment. Just both be honest! Good luck!





When my sister lost her first son her and her husband went to grief counseling together and it did seem to help





FOR ALL THE NAYSAYERS working on communication does strengthen the relationship and sometimes they need counseling for them to open up .
It should work depending on you and your husbands communication during the counseling. To me it looks like it'll work because already yal taking the step to go and seek for help. the counseling will bring out emotions and the truth about things that u probably had no idea about. bring your box of tissue and be ready to talk and say everything u feel.
I have never been, but I have had 2 sets of friends who have. The counselor expects you to be completely honest, even if makes things worse initially. The counselling is ongoing with the one couple I know, they have been going for a couple of years now, trying to sort out their problems... the other couple did not fair as well, and have now divorced.
Depends on your counselor and if you are willing to make things work. My ex husband and I went to two separate counselors ... the first one only listened to my husband and said I was the problem. The second actually heard both sides and was being impartial. Good luck on working out your problems. I wish you the best.
yes I know some who have and some who have not and the ones who have have a happy marriage. I applaud you for going-that is awesome
expect to talk about your differences and be willing to come to some type of agreement or compromise. dont hold any feelings back...now is the time to lay it all on the table so to speak
I've known someone. It works but you both have to really want your marriage to work. If one of you if forcing the other to be there then it won't be a good out come.
Unless you are like KJ and seeking a dating service, the counseling could help if you really want your marriage to last a lifetime.
yes, my first wife and I went... the counselor was sizzling HOT.. i undressed her with my eyes and i flirted with her the entire session.. then on the way out, i asked her out.





we ended up with a divorce.
I went and it didn't help my marriage but it certainly helped me. I think you should go. If both of you are willing that is a great first step!
Get divorced and start having fun again!!!! marriage counselors prolong a painful marriage!!!
never been to one and I have been happily married 3 times, if we couldn't get along, we'd get divorce, simple as that
My husband and I went when we were married about 6 or 7 years.. We have been married now 14 so it helped us I think.
My wife and I have been going for about 6 weeks now. I would say it is definitely working.
it helped us


good luck
It will not work, and like religion, it is just something that someone made up in order for weak people to cope with their problems.
Yes %26amp; don't count on it doing any good.