If you are insistent on keeping the child, marry him.
It will be tough, and you're both going to have to grow up a lot, but you damn well better for the sake of the child.
Otherwise, the best option is to give the child up for adoption, so that it can be raised in a loving, two-parent home.Teenage pregnancy and Marriage should I do it?
I had a baby when I was 14. I raised him. Father wasn鈥檛 involved as he should have been. I didn鈥檛 marry him. Wouldn't have been fair 2 any1 2 marry him just cause I was having his baby. Haven鈥檛 seen him for about 7 years now. Don鈥檛 marry him unless you know for sure that it鈥檚 what you want.
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If you want to.
Honey, you shoudn't get married just because you are pregnant with his baby. Marriage is about love, and trust. This is entirely your decision, so you should do whatever you think would be best for yourself, and the baby as well. Being a single mother would be better than being married for like 5 or 6 years, and then divorcing one another, leaving the child confused (just lookin at the possibilities). It's entirely whatever you feel best about doing....your body, your life, your child.... good luck, and best wishes!!!:)
No one can answer that but you. Do you WANT to be married? Getting pregnant does not mean you have to get married. Its 2007. I got pregnant at 18, and felt like we should get married (we were already engaged), so we did. I had a miscarriage 2 months later and then I regretted getting married. It didnt last very long and it was a complete waste of my time. I am actually embarassed to say I was married back then.
I would say no. You dont need a piece of paper to have a relationship and be parents. Its more of a hassle to get divorced than to just break-up. Since the divorce rate is half of marriages, why put yourself or your child through it if you can prevent it now?
Getting married is something you will have to decide.. Do you love him? Do you plan on staying with him for life? Will he be able to provide for you and baby? Its not like playing house..
You both need to sit down and discuss what you plan on doing, if you get married where will you live? How will you be supported? Will the baby be taking care by you or someone else? Etc...
your question about marrying him IF he is still there in november makes me think your relationship is not real solid and therefore i don't think you should get married. take it one day at a time and see how your relationship goes after the baby is born. your relationship WILL change after the baby is born. maybe better,maybe worse, only then you will know what to do. good luck. i am sure you know you will be missing out on alot of things kids your age will be doing so i won't go there but i will say it is not the end of the world by any means. facing a teen pregnancy is far better than facing teen drug addictions or aids and alot of other life threatening issues.
I don't think any of us can answer that question for you. Its gonna take a lot of thinking. How long have you been going out with him? How does he make you feel? Do you see yourself with him 10 years down the road? Where will you live? Do you both have stable jobs that can provide for the child? It's a hard decision. Ask yourself lots of questions, and have a few good talks with the guy.
Best of luck
If you want to marry this guy than you should but I recommend waiting a little while. You can put him on the birth certificate give you baby eaither last name whatever. My friends did that exact same thing for the exact same reasons and 8 yrs later they are still married but they don't love each other, they do it for their child. They even see other people on the side. I believe in a family for a child but not like that, so PLEASE be sure you love your man before you take this step, a baby and marriage in the same year is very very very hard.
its depand on god
Do not get married just because your having a baby. I know you need help and you think that's what is best, but trust me it's not. Just ask yourself... do I love him? Does he love me? Do I want to wake up to that same face and bad breath every day for the rest of my life? Think of all the things he does that annoys you, will you be able to deal with that and more? People are different when you live together. That's why they say the first year of marriage is the hardest. It will be even harder with a newborn.
Wow it's like you aren't very sure about his commitment by saying ';if'; he's still around.
If you truly loved him you wouldn't be second guessing yourself and he would propose to you. Anyways, the biggest mistake couples make is deciding on a life changing decision for all the wrong reasons!
I've been with my fiance for 6 yrs and were about to have our second baby in April. We wanted to get married before this baby is born but it isn't working out that way. We have been together for so long i feel as if he already is my husband.
I guess what I'm trying to say is you have already gotten pregnant before marriage so what's the rush? If he loves you he'll be there regardless and ask you to be his wife. Don't do it just because.
Only you know if your ready and having a child with someone doesn't always mean that you are.
You sound just like me. I was also pregnant at 17 and I had the baby at 18. I ended up marring the father because I thought that was what I should do and he was a reasonable provider. We ended up being together for 15 years total. We had a few good times, but most of it was miserable for both of us. We were not really compatible and not truly in love (although we did like and respect each other).
Please don't marry just for the baby. He can still be the father. You don't have to be married for that. Get married only if he is the right man for you.
Depends, do you love each other, or is it just a marriage of morality?
Having two parents (so long as they're not fighting and miserable) is always better for a child and makes your lifestyle a lot less poor than a single parent.
Marrying just because your child is a bad decision. You are too young to have a baby let alone marriage. I would wait and see how things pan out. Make sure he is a good father and sticks with you!
My sister-in-law got pregnant at 17, got married the Saturday after she turned 18, and was divorced by 19. They got so bitter toward each other after they divorced that they have trouble doing what's best for their daughter. I have to wonder if things would at least have been a little easier for everyone if they hadn't gotten married. They may not have stayed together, but they may have been able to stay friends. I guess that would be a no.
Of course, teen marriages don't usually work out, but if you are willing to do it and he is as well, and you are both willing to be around eachother all the time for the next 60 years, than yes get married. Get advice from friends and family though, sometimes they can see whether it will work out or not.
I wouldn't marry just because you are pregnant and it seems like the next logical step. Marriage is definitely not something to rush into. Regardless of whether you have a child together or not. Marriage takes a lot of work and it has its ups and downs. You need to make sure that you are both willing and ready to ride it out together. So many people these days jump ship at the first sign of trouble.
If you are definitely in love with one another, why not get engaged and have a long engagement?
if u love him yes if not dont do it because ur child will be miserable cus it can create stress on u just think about it... CONGRATS ON THE BABY
If ya'll are in love and know the difference between love and like, also if you know this is the person you would marry baby or not. I'd say good luck
If you have to ask you shouldn't your not ready if your were you wouldn't care what anybody said and would go for it. Take it from someone who married young its hard and takes alot of work (not to mention trust). Just because you are having a baby together doesn't mean you need to be married. Stay together see how it works out. Also bringing it up could scare him away so be careful.
no no no no no no no!!!
wait a while! because it sounds to me like you are not 100% sure if he will be there.
you should only marry him when you can look to the future and say
';i trust him so much, i know he'll be there in 50 years!';
I understand you want to do the right thing. But you are not soing yourself or your child justice by marrying him so young.
two parent home??!! what a load of rubbish!!
kids need a loving home! and thats the end of that!
honestly think about it would you marry him if you weren't pregnant? if the answer is yes even though y'all are young i would go for it but if the answer is no then don't do it. Just because you love someone and have their kid doesn't mean a marriage is going to work. make sure you are doing this for the right reasons. not just for the baby
abortion...why ruin three lives
No I don't think so it could a really big impact in your life U have no idea what it will change like money or if u get married U just shut alot of doors to your and especially having a baby will close almost every door except for working at MCDONALDS! Please don't do it it would be a really bad choice!
babe, having a kid dosent mean that u guys have to get married unless u both know that u love each other not bcuz u guys are having a child 2gether. but if the feelings that u guys have for each other is real, from both parts, its diff.story
pregnancy and then marriage are rarely life partners. we think that as soon as we are told that we are pregnant that marriage should automatically follow. I had to learn the hard way 30 years ago when we girls didn't have a choice that it shouldn't. The best advice any one can give you- Have your baby, love with all your heart, work on being the best parents you both can be, respect each other and everything will fall into place. make an educated choice not a hasty one. You have plenty of time.
That's a tough one. I wouldn't recommend anyone to get married because of a child. Now if he really loves you and you love him then think about this. Would you get married if you weren't pregnant? My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years. We have 2 kids together and he is helping me raise my daughter. So we have 3 kids. We don't need a piece of paper to tell us that we love each other. We stay together because we love each other not for the kids. Good luck!
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